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niyad

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50. Not just these days. It has always been that way for women. Since my

Wed Jul 1, 2026, 03:27 PM

20 hrs ago

teens, wayyyyyyy back in the last millenium, after an ex tried to kill me, I have advocated for all women and girls to take martial arts training, or, at the very least, basic self defense classes.

I do not open my door to anyone unless I am expecting them. I do not leave my dooor open if it will be out of my sight. Heck, I do not even answer my phone unless the number is in my contact list. My insurance company has a visiting nurse wellness check thing, which I refuse. They finally stopped calling and annoying me about them.

"Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women (with good reason !!! ), are afraid men wiil kill them."

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My wife, home alone, opened the door to a door-to-door salesman. [View all] Trust_Reality 23 hrs ago OP

NOPE. IT'S "DON'T EVEN OPEN THE DAMN DOOR!".... ColoringFool 23 hrs ago #1

Absolutely! SheltieLover 22 hrs ago #11

I NEVER open the door unless I know Who it is--i have the advantage of looking riversedge 19 hrs ago #55

We have a peephole in our front door. calimary 11 hrs ago #71

100% correct. AZ8theist 8 hrs ago #74

I signed in just to Rec this comment. SidneyR 52 min ago #91

Another Useful Rule: Never Hire a Contractor From a Company That Runs Frequent TV Ads. MineralMan 23 hrs ago #2

+1. Plumbing and HVAC companies that run TV ads are the worst. They want to replace, not repair dalton99a 22 hrs ago #5

There's a commission on a sale. Conjuay 22 hrs ago #14

yes there is esp car repairs Oppaloopa 1 hr ago #87

And never, EVER front them the money. They get paid when the job is done to your satisfaction! n/t PatrickforB 21 hrs ago #31

Do not touch the door. Ignore them, and call the cops if they try to loiter dalton99a 22 hrs ago #3

I don't open my door to anyone Diamond_Dog 22 hrs ago #4

Same here, DD! SheltieLover 22 hrs ago #12

When the Jehovah's Witness people come by, I invite them in to see my Amway products. Permanut 20 hrs ago #42

Ahh yes, the old Jehovah's Witness blitzkrieg that used to happen in my apartment complex. OldBaldy1701E 3 hrs ago #82

Having been on both sides of that door I endorse this post SSJVegeta 22 hrs ago #6

Once I was mowing my front lawn and was approached by a guy spooky3 22 hrs ago #7

That was quick thinking! Good for you! Diamond_Dog 22 hrs ago #13

TY! A more unsettling incident was when I was sick and spooky3 22 hrs ago #20

I would also be leery of letting someone I don't know come inside if I were home alone. Diamond_Dog 21 hrs ago #26

Not just these days. It has always been that way for women. Since my niyad 20 hrs ago #50

Thank you! raccoon 6 hrs ago #79

Martial Arts ninjanurse 3 hrs ago #84

So very true. And the younger we get girls started, the better. Age 4, as niyad 2 hrs ago #85

Smart Joinfortmill 20 hrs ago #39

Maybe 1980, a steak salesman came to the door nilram 20 hrs ago #48

Good one! Nt spooky3 19 hrs ago #52

I used to use the same line when we'd get land line calls... 3catwoman3 11 hrs ago #72

They practice their pitch and don't have a comeback helpisontheway 7 hrs ago #75

Years ago -- like in the 50s my parents were approached by a beef-selling salesman RVN VET71 11 hrs ago #73

Around here, it is more likely to be young evangelists from LDS or 7th Day Adventists or other... hlthe2b 22 hrs ago #8

Tell them "You work for Jesus? Give me his number. I want to call him." dalton99a 15 hrs ago #65

Only one really irritated me in recent years and to them, I told them I was Muslim and began speaking in Arabic. hlthe2b 15 hrs ago #66

The days of the proverbial Fuller Brush Man are long gone. Intractable 22 hrs ago #9

It must be such a treat to be married to you, belittling and infantilizing your wife on DU. Maru Kitteh 22 hrs ago #10

I first thought it was going to be satire leftstreet 21 hrs ago #32

I know. Yikes! Joinfortmill 20 hrs ago #41

Whow! OK. Trust_Reality 17 hrs ago #59

Actually I like almost all of the other posts better. Sorry it hit a tender spot with you. Trust_Reality 17 hrs ago #61

I live near a major city - TBF 22 hrs ago #15

I have an outer metal gate in front door with an atrium in the middle kimbutgar 22 hrs ago #16

Can't win anywhere by opening the door. And some non-advice. usonian 22 hrs ago #17

We've had a couple of vacuum cleaner guys around. The rest are madinmaryland 22 hrs ago #18

A lot of those outfits are scammy as fuck Stacey Grove 22 hrs ago #19

The Pella guy was aggressive because their product is crap LT Barclay 22 hrs ago #21

They may ask you to sign their tablet just showing that they visited your house. If you do they will use the twodogsbarking 22 hrs ago #22

+1. dalton99a 15 hrs ago #64

I feel bad for your wife, she was probably the only person who actually answered the door FakeNoose 22 hrs ago #23

The best two dollars I've spent in while. Ohiya 22 hrs ago #24

We have a No Soliciting sign at the entrance to our sub. llmart 21 hrs ago #30

I have a No Soliciting sign just underneath my doorbell. SeattleVet 19 hrs ago #51

Sadly, I live in a city where solicitors can't read Rorey 3 hrs ago #83

I don't open the door to any strangers. Way to dangerous TommieMommy 21 hrs ago #25

Another threat was covered by an AARP Bulletin story about a year ago. There allegorical oracle 21 hrs ago #27

Diabolical Joinfortmill 20 hrs ago #44

This message was self-deleted by its author LogDog75 21 hrs ago #28

Nope. Don't let any sales people in the door. You cannot get rid of them. Initech 21 hrs ago #29

Huge red flag xuplate 21 hrs ago #33

One way to stop them in their tracks is to ask for the city license/permit for sales LogDog75 21 hrs ago #34

Even better, don't open it in the first place. ananda 21 hrs ago #35

I just saw a video on SocialDemocrat61 20 hrs ago #36

OMG!!! FoxNewsSucks 13 hrs ago #68

Maybe she just shouldn't be home when they return. Or just shoo them away. LeftInTX 20 hrs ago #37

We're lucky in one regard. cab67 20 hrs ago #38

I never answer the door for unannounced visitors or the phone for unknown callers. GoodRaisin 20 hrs ago #40

I never answer a knock on my door JoseBalow 20 hrs ago #43

I love the first one! n/t ReRe 20 hrs ago #47

I have doorbell cameras. murielm99 20 hrs ago #45

i have a sign that says i charge $50 to listen to their pitch moonshinegnomie 20 hrs ago #46

I never ever open the door, they can ring the bell and knock on Raine 20 hrs ago #49

Growing up Faux pas 19 hrs ago #53

I never answer the door nor the phone unless I know who it is. hamsterjill 19 hrs ago #54

"Potential" doorbells (satire!) usonian 19 hrs ago #56

Better yet Rebl2 18 hrs ago #57

Captain Beefheart sold door-to-door orthoclad 17 hrs ago #58

I had a phone salesman call me (right at dinnertime!).... lastlib 17 hrs ago #60

this is obviously the aggressive "believe in your product" salesmanship rampartd 17 hrs ago #62

I put something like this above my door bell Monsieur_Grumpe 17 hrs ago #63

In our town, door-to-door sales people have to register with the police first. Otherwise, they can be arrested. Wonder Why 15 hrs ago #67

we get rogers salespeople here constantly...i won't do business with them because i caught them doing something dawn5651 12 hrs ago #69

Pella windows are excellent radical noodle 12 hrs ago #70

Are you young newlyweds? Bread and Circuses 7 hrs ago #76

I feel sorry for the door knockers. Aussie105 7 hrs ago #77

Yes! Ask for a business card. Tell them directly::: No card equals SCAM. Norrrm 6 hrs ago #78

We usually open the door DFW 5 hrs ago #80

As the expression goes: How can you tell when a salesperson is lying? Orrex 4 hrs ago #81

This is a sad thread, but not unexpected. Ron Green 2 hrs ago #86

I've learned to be polite while ending the conversation quickly. Music Man 1 hr ago #88

I hung a 'No Solicitors' sign at my front door, and the doorknocks dropped off amazingly. Aristus 1 hr ago #89

As a recent widow, I don't even answer the phone for numbers I don't recognize. Ziggysmom 1 hr ago #90

It's a wonder she isn't dead, or worse. Never open the door, door to door people are hawking crap. mucholderthandirt 31 min ago #92

Just porch pirate their asses away! GreenWave 22 min ago #93