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xmas74

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68. Sad but true

Thu Jan 10, 2013, 01:06 AM

Jan 2013

the sentences were a joke but it's more justice than I ever received. Turns out a college athlete was beyond reproach at my school. They didn't even take a report or refer me for medical services- said that most girls would be flattered to be picked by him and that I was just worried about my reputation.

Early 90's and it still lives with me. I've never let go of the anger and the shame. To this day I feel like the only place I can talk about it is anonymously on a message board. I've never told anyone in my family and I've never spoken of it to anyone who wasn't around when it happened.

BTW- he's now a successful businessman with a family,a layman in his church and a pillar in his community.

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The saddest graph you�ll see today [View all] spanone Jan 2013 OP

Unbelievable. Marie Marie Jan 2013 #1

Of course it doesn't though. harmonicon Jan 2013 #37

If you have no idea how the group reached their conclusions, why are you so sure that they are wrong yardwork Jan 2013 #78

Read down the thread. harmonicon Jan 2013 #81

I see no data supporting your statement in this thread. yardwork Jan 2013 #83

That's sickening. LisaLynne Jan 2013 #2

Rape is a serious crime. That's good info. But its not that easy. aaaaaa5a Jan 2013 #3

There are various problems with all of these. caseymoz Jan 2013 #54

Where to start as to why this is such a bad post. WCLinolVir Jan 2013 #67

If you are actually saying that women were threatened with PROSECUTION for reporting a rape- WCLinolVir Jan 2013 #76

This message was self-deleted by its author jimlup Jan 2013 #4

Your son is really lucky! I'm glad everything worked out okay. aaaaaa5a Jan 2013 #6

you are correct. I know someone falsely accused and it cost them about tens time what it cost you Swagman Jan 2013 #44

And I can't believe the statistics cited. caseymoz Jan 2013 #51

I have no idea what the real figures are but I recall the dodgy US Attorney General claimed Swagman Jan 2013 #58

50,000 predators online caseymoz Jan 2013 #60

I'm always reluctant to get involved with these discussions but I think a false allegation is so Swagman Jan 2013 #12

Yes, you can have a reward system that generates more false reports. caseymoz Jan 2013 #15

Actually, the U.S. does have an awards program. nt aaaaaa5a Jan 2013 #27

Which is? caseymoz Jan 2013 #29

Excuse me. I didn't know this was a competition of "esp" mind games. aaaaaa5a Jan 2013 #35

All I did was ask you to elaborate. caseymoz Jan 2013 #38

not according to those who put it together as the update shows Swagman Jan 2013 #42

What's it? And what update? caseymoz Jan 2013 #47

Okay now I see, having read back further. caseymoz Jan 2013 #55

Excuse me but these are fatuous MRA talking points intaglio Jan 2013 #19

pleae provide your proof of Savile's activities (apart from tabloid tales) Swagman Jan 2013 #24

Try the known discarded police reports from the Met and Manchester and Liverpool intaglio Jan 2013 #36

Cosmo ? Wyman ? have to fo better than that. Swagman Jan 2013 #41

NO you have to stop being an MRA apologist intaglio Jan 2013 #52

what the fuck is the MRA and it is you spouting rubbish by weaving separate incidents Swagman Jan 2013 #57

Mens Rights Apologists - sorry, "Activists" intaglio Jan 2013 #65

Try this sensationalist report intaglio Jan 2013 #79

you might try reading this thread, before you defend this perverted bastard niyad Jan 2013 #92

Thank you. I do not understand people's wilful ignorance regarding rape. WCLinolVir Jan 2013 #75

ok...what does any of this have to do with the prevalence of rape? noiretextatique Jan 2013 #48

Rape is a disgusting crime. It is not sexual but violent IMO. dotymed Jan 2013 #22

a serious a problem as rape is dsc Jan 2013 #5

I was shocked when I saw it too. I'm glad I'm not alone. nt aaaaaa5a Jan 2013 #7

It does raise questions Sherman A1 Jan 2013 #20

Which part IDoMath Jan 2013 #10

both though the scalar value with no comparision is easy to fix dsc Jan 2013 #21

+1 ellisonz Jan 2013 #72

Very disturbing statics Claybrains Jan 2013 #8

what would you do with the falsely accused? samsingh Jan 2013 #9

The Innocence Project has exonerated several with DNA evidence. Rozlee Jan 2013 #26

exactly. what about their lives? I've heard people say that there are so few that it's not samsingh Jan 2013 #40

this is what the more hysterical will say uniquely in sex assault cases : it is better for a few Swagman Jan 2013 #45

i don't agree with that approach. samsingh Jan 2013 #61

How can they present an accurate tally of rapes that aren't reported? Orrex Jan 2013 #11

true..the figures may be far higher or smaller Swagman Jan 2013 #13

It's from the Justice Department's caseymoz Jan 2013 #14

Thanks, but what I mean is... Orrex Jan 2013 #16

I can't work that one out either Swagman Jan 2013 #25

By following the links, you find this: caseymoz Jan 2013 #32

Interesting--thanks. Orrex Jan 2013 #33

The NCVS works by drawing a geographically stratified random sample of Americans Jackpine Radical Jan 2013 #31

Amanda Marcotte criticized this info graphic for that reason + more alp227 Jan 2013 #39

Post removed Post removed Jan 2013 #17

False accusations are rare but . . . caseymoz Jan 2013 #18

I get that feeding an imperative and an agenda requires galileoreloaded Jan 2013 #23

Yet the "MRA" people obsess over the falsely accused. Odin2005 Jan 2013 #28

yes I suppose the falsely accused are obsessing as well. Swagman Jan 2013 #46

falsely accused, my ass noiretextatique Jan 2013 #49

how dare you accuse people of being rape apologists because they discuss false accusations Swagman Jan 2013 #59

how dare me? HOW DARE YOU! noiretextatique Jan 2013 #66

The false accusation of any crime is objectively worse than the actual crime. Occulus Jan 2013 #69

don't even mention false accusations as apparently that means Swagman Jan 2013 #74

How do you figure that? yardwork Jan 2013 #82

One of those things has lifetine legal and social consequences Occulus Jan 2013 #84

Are you saying that being raped doesn't have lifetime consequences? yardwork Jan 2013 #85

No. Occulus Jan 2013 #86

The falsely accused face worse than the victims of rape? That is crazy talk. yardwork Jan 2013 #87

Yes, in fact, they do. Occulus Jan 2013 #88

Slow down. Do we have a misunderstanding? yardwork Jan 2013 #89

I was going to agree on false convictions DevonRex Jan 2013 #90

no noiretextatique Jan 2013 #94

That's what I understood him to be saying. He's gone off in a huff now, putting me on ignore. yardwork Jan 2013 #99

likewise noiretextatique Jan 2013 #100

"had to have done something" YES! Happened on a jury closeupready Jan 2013 #95

I don't see anybody disagreeing with the fact that false accusations are a problem. yardwork Jan 2013 #97

Okay, I understand. closeupready Jan 2013 #98

so...false accusation of rape is more of a problem than actual rape? noiretextatique Jan 2013 #93

you are a false accuser Swagman Jan 2013 #73

While the "WRA" couldn't give a fuck about the falsely accused. EOTE Jan 2013 #63

My nieces' rapists' sentences were jokes. Rozlee Jan 2013 #30

My physically disabled friend's rapist got off scot free. Odin2005 Jan 2013 #50

I feel so sorry for her. Rozlee Jan 2013 #53

Sad but true xmas74 Jan 2013 #68

How monstrous. Rozlee Jan 2013 #77

what's "faced trial", shouldn't there be jailed, charged, reported, unreported? snooper2 Jan 2013 #34

A truly disturbing and sick graph billbailey19448jj Jan 2013 #43

Sad :( musical_soul Jan 2013 #56

This concocted illustration is racist TXDem72 Jan 2013 #62

And think of all those poor red Indians, the only ones to ever be convicted! Bucky Jan 2013 #64

K&R. So sad. n/t Egalitarian Thug Jan 2013 #70

I have an issue with the "falsely accused" section of the graphic. Glassunion Jan 2013 #71

Freaking wow!!! malaise Jan 2013 #80

This is horrible. sad-cafe Jan 2013 #91

kick Liberal_in_LA Jan 2013 #96