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tridim

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11. OMG I'm so sorry.

Sat Jan 12, 2013, 08:36 PM

Jan 2013

The woman I'm courting recently told me she was raped, I felt the same way about her attacker. It's not a good feeling.

I don't have any advice, but good luck.

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This message was self-deleted by its author [View all] backwoodsbob Jan 2013 OP

Lets back up a minute... stevenleser Jan 2013 #1

You have a good point. However, the OP should not control what his wife chooses to do. Democratopia Jan 2013 #4

Where did I suggest control? I dont have enough information to even suggest it. I dont know, for stevenleser Jan 2013 #27

You didn't suggest control ....sometimes folks read what they "feel" .... FarPoint Jan 2013 #41

You said "Cancel the trip. Period." Sorry, but that would be trying to stop his wife going Democratopia Jan 2013 #53

her parents are near death backwoodsbob Jan 2013 #6

Then I agree with posters down thread. Do not stay in the same house. And do not drink alcohol. nt stevenleser Jan 2013 #35

Exactly right. DO NOT GO! nt brush Jan 2013 #47

Gee that is terrible. How long ago did this happen? Democratopia Jan 2013 #2

I am so sorry to hear this. hrmjustin Jan 2013 #3

why in the world is your wife taking you to visit her rapists????????????????? nt Takket Jan 2013 #5

+1000 !!!! orpupilofnature57 Jan 2013 #13

Christ!...you're a better man than I am. I could not go...could not go.. to see them. BlueJazz Jan 2013 #7

you have no idea backwoodsbob Jan 2013 #17

Both of you need to stay in a hotel/motel, whatever. darkangel218 Jan 2013 #22

Alcohol would NOT be my recommendation. n/t FourScore Jan 2013 #25

^^This!^^ n/t LeftofObama Jan 2013 #32

I wouldnt go, if i was you. darkangel218 Jan 2013 #8

Yes, but if you were in that situation, wouldn't you want to be there so you could protect your wife Democratopia Jan 2013 #12

When i said i wouldnt go, i was refering to both of them! darkangel218 Jan 2013 #19

Well, it isn't right that he should control who his wife can see. Whatever they did, however bad it Democratopia Jan 2013 #34

Im not teling them not to go, i said I wouldnt, if it was ME. darkangel218 Jan 2013 #51

AWKWARD! No, seriously? You'd best discuss this trip further. WinkyDink Jan 2013 #9

I can't answer your question, so why would you go ? orpupilofnature57 Jan 2013 #10

she is strong backwoodsbob Jan 2013 #36

OMG I'm so sorry. tridim Jan 2013 #11

Your wife forgives them? RobertEarl Jan 2013 #14

If you still go, i would rent a hotel room, and only visit during the day darkangel218 Jan 2013 #15

Post removed Post removed Jan 2013 #16

WTF? stevenleser Jan 2013 #29

This message was self-deleted by its author darkangel218 Jan 2013 #44

Whaaa? Every woman ?? What planet or Century are you from ??? orpupilofnature57 Jan 2013 #31

Every?? Most??? You know ONE Case - it is not the norm karynnj Jan 2013 #40

I was wondering if my eyes were failing me because no one else seemed to be responding to that. stevenleser Jan 2013 #42

All of my sympathy and support to your wife and you. MarianJack Jan 2013 #18

If your wife has relatives she feels she must yellerpup Jan 2013 #20

Your wife needs your support if you do go graywarrior Jan 2013 #21

That trip is poison NoOneMan Jan 2013 #23

That is terribly unfortunate dballance Jan 2013 #24

+1. darkangel218 Jan 2013 #26

I tend to question the veracity of anything coming from Son of Gob Jan 2013 #28

LOL that was him? leftstreet Jan 2013 #38

Good eye !!! I thought something Stunk in Denmark orpupilofnature57 Jan 2013 #43

I'm surprised that I had to read so far downthread before someone made the connection. greatauntoftriplets Jan 2013 #49

Post removed Post removed Jan 2013 #50

Stay in a motel. Warpy Jan 2013 #30

Oh my :(....Don't go.... SummerSnow Jan 2013 #33

Killing them is not a good idea. avebury Jan 2013 #37

Just remember your Ma's words. Jack Sprat Jan 2013 #39

Get a life Troll . orpupilofnature57 Jan 2013 #45

Don't drink in their presence, it will lower your arthritisR_US Jan 2013 #46

Hope they fair better than the dog. morningfog Jan 2013 #48

Fa la la la laaaa tavernier Jan 2013 #52