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In reply to the discussion: Man left baby in car for 8 hours (he's ok) outside work. Didn't realize until wife called [View all]Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)92. Here's a piece by someone who *almost* killed their child
http://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/another-child-dies-in-a-hot-car-and-gene-weingarten-asks-why-was-this-a-crime/2012/03/14/gIQAXm01ES_story.html
It was stifling hot on the summer morning 29 years ago when I almost murdered my daughter.
Murder is an unforgiving term for what nearly happened that day, but to prosecutors in Prince William County, it is appropriate. That was the charge they brought last year against Bristow veterinarianKaren Murphy, whose 2-year-old, Ryan, did not do what my 2-year-old, Molly, did on the day I almost killed her: wake up at the last minute and say something.
So I didnt park and lock my car and head into my office that morning, as Murphy did last June 17. Instead, after steadying my nerves against the knowledge of what Id almost done, I drove my daughter to day care, as Id meant to do before I somehow inexplicably, inexcusably forgot that she was sitting in the back seat.
For her grievous mistake, Murphy faced a possible 40 years in prison on a charge of felony murder. Just before her trial this past week, as she quietly wept in court, the 41-year-old veterinarian was permitted to plead guilty to reduced charges of misdemeanor child neglect. She wont go to prison. She wont lose her medical license. All she faces is 400 hours of community service, six years of probation, and a lifetime of grief and shame that will sabotage joy whenever that emotion dares to surface. That is what happens in these cases. I know. I have studied them.
Murder is an unforgiving term for what nearly happened that day, but to prosecutors in Prince William County, it is appropriate. That was the charge they brought last year against Bristow veterinarianKaren Murphy, whose 2-year-old, Ryan, did not do what my 2-year-old, Molly, did on the day I almost killed her: wake up at the last minute and say something.
So I didnt park and lock my car and head into my office that morning, as Murphy did last June 17. Instead, after steadying my nerves against the knowledge of what Id almost done, I drove my daughter to day care, as Id meant to do before I somehow inexplicably, inexcusably forgot that she was sitting in the back seat.
For her grievous mistake, Murphy faced a possible 40 years in prison on a charge of felony murder. Just before her trial this past week, as she quietly wept in court, the 41-year-old veterinarian was permitted to plead guilty to reduced charges of misdemeanor child neglect. She wont go to prison. She wont lose her medical license. All she faces is 400 hours of community service, six years of probation, and a lifetime of grief and shame that will sabotage joy whenever that emotion dares to surface. That is what happens in these cases. I know. I have studied them.
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Man left baby in car for 8 hours (he's ok) outside work. Didn't realize until wife called [View all]
Liberal_in_LA
Jan 2013
OP
He is irresponsible, and I'm not looking to reward him for his choice to seek medical care, but you
Ed Suspicious
Jan 2013
#3
It's so discouraging that these threads so often end up as monuments of (self)righteousness
alcibiades_mystery
Jan 2013
#11
maybe it's a defense mechanism. We need to believe we'd never allow ourselves to make that mistake.
KittyWampus
Jan 2013
#32
So true. Many idiots on the DU act like they never could bever make a serious mistake. n-t
Logical
Jan 2013
#51
Well thanks for the article, but it does nothing to present any "reason" this happens...
MrMickeysMom
Jan 2013
#17
you need to read the article. When we are stressed out/tired & routines are breached our higher
KittyWampus
Jan 2013
#37
The Washington Post had a Pulitzer Prize Winning story on these kinds of incidents
charlie and algernon
Jan 2013
#14
Every single person responding to this post needs to read that article ALL the way
JanMichael
Jan 2013
#25
It is easy. I remember jumping in a car with my convulsing infant in my arms. As my husband
appleannie1
Jan 2013
#59
What do you think was terribly, terribly, terribly wrong? (Other than of course forgetting baby)
gollygee
Jan 2013
#44
Look, I'm as apt to have this problem as you are. Maybe I'm not clear on this...
MrMickeysMom
Jan 2013
#55
Skinner had an interesting post in another thread a while back on the same thing..
Fumesucker
Jan 2013
#60
Shades of the old days - there were many children left in cars years ago or at home alone. The laws
jwirr
Jan 2013
#38
Read: Frazzled parent who works too many hours for too little pay bc of profit predators
LaydeeBug
Jan 2013
#39
Thank goodness everything is alright. I'm sure this poor man will punish himself...
Walk away
Jan 2013
#54
What gives you the confidence of saying there is no problem with this kind of memory failure?
MrMickeysMom
Jan 2013
#84
Just getting the baby up, fed, ready, out the door, strapped in; along with the other demands of the
NBachers
Jan 2013
#78
The Washington Post article is very sad, but also very instructive.
The Velveteen Ocelot
Jan 2013
#81