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gollygee

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29. I think it's individual how people deal with that.

Mon Mar 11, 2013, 07:32 PM

Mar 2013

My grandmother was raped as a teenager and I'd say that was maybe true for her, but she was also forced to give birth as a result of the rape when she wanted an abortion, and then forced to give the baby to a relative to raise instead of being able to raise it herself, and I think those things were more difficult for her than being raped.

But we've had people here at DU who have had a wide variety of experiences as far as how they processed and dealt with it after the fact. And even my grandma was glad to be alive.

And people suffer a great number of tragedies that are difficult to recover from and can cause pain for the rest of their lives, but only with rape do I hear that they'd be better off dead.

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The Rude Pundit: "Deserves" Has Nothing to Do With Rape [View all] meegbear Mar 2013 OP

Well I wonder how that defense would work... Kalidurga Mar 2013 #1

It works pretty well with certain juries. Hell, read some Assange or Polanski msanthrope Mar 2013 #3

The "she was a prick teaser" defense works really, really well. Warpy Mar 2013 #25

I remember a case where the victim was murdered... Kalidurga Mar 2013 #28

Wow. Just wow. Matariki Mar 2013 #2

Hang around til some infamous person is arrested and/or convicted of a crime. Iggo Mar 2013 #5

Yeah, I know. Those posts are really depressing. Matariki Mar 2013 #9

+1 n/t lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #12

It's the same all over Saviolo Mar 2013 #26

I no longer remain silent...No one, no one 'deserves' to be raped duhneece Mar 2013 #44

Ask the RP if he could address this very similar boston bean Mar 2013 #4

That Thread Really Opened My Eyes About The Rank Misogyny Here On DU. Paladin Mar 2013 #11

Rank misogyny? lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #14

And Some Posters Were Pushing As Much Blame On The Woman As Possible..... Paladin Mar 2013 #20

As the only one who survived the events... lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #24

Kindly Do Not Misconstrue My Comments, OK? Paladin Mar 2013 #30

Agreed. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #37

It's an interesting compare and contrast. lumberjack_jeff Mar 2013 #38

Rape culture gollygee Mar 2013 #6

I've been reading "Transforming a Rape Culture." CrispyQ Mar 2013 #42

Powerful writing but sad that in this day and age appleannie1 Mar 2013 #7

Well that's the most depressing thread of the day. Nye Bevan Mar 2013 #8

Representative sample? It is and it isn't. People's attitudes are very malleable. nomorenomore08 Mar 2013 #39

Iggo makes a good point. We even see this attitude here Matariki Mar 2013 #10

+1 nt freedom fighter jh Mar 2013 #22

I only saw the film (with Brando)... awoke_in_2003 Mar 2013 #13

The change needs to start at home GeoWilliam750 Mar 2013 #15

OMG, I think our society is actually devolving with it's treatment of women lark Mar 2013 #16

It's like saying someone "deserves" to be murdered because they are such an smirkymonkey Mar 2013 #36

When I read these depressing accounts, CrispyQ Mar 2013 #45

I disagree - I think for the first time men are being honest Taverner Mar 2013 #47

Why DOES it matter that the above play was written by a male? Bicoastal Mar 2013 #17

You can't count on having any of that information. lapislzi Mar 2013 #48

You think the implication is clear? Bicoastal Mar 2013 #49

Rape as "retribution" dr.strangelove Mar 2013 #18

I'm bothered by the idea that rape is worse than murder gollygee Mar 2013 #19

Arguably: Saviolo Mar 2013 #27

I think it's individual how people deal with that. gollygee Mar 2013 #29

Absolutely Saviolo Mar 2013 #32

I'm just trying to present another perspective gollygee Mar 2013 #33

I can't believe anyone would think Blanche DuBois deserved to be raped... joeybee12 Mar 2013 #21

This one line says it all about guns LiberalEsto Mar 2013 #23

there's plenty of those gun-wuvving monkeys on DU Skittles Mar 2013 #35

Amazing indeed malaise Mar 2013 #31

Rape culture never went away. geek tragedy Mar 2013 #34

sigh DonCoquixote Mar 2013 #40

There's a not-so-subtle streak of sadism in American culture. nomorenomore08 Mar 2013 #41

Punishment fetishists abound. Iggo Mar 2013 #46

This is why we joined others to rise up with One Billion Rising duhneece Mar 2013 #43