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[ElboRuum]

238. While I don't see that at all in the original post...

...are you suggesting that our society does not put the social pressure to fit in at a premium, and furthermore, are you also suggesting that people who are not "cool" don't find this a burden? Let's go a step further, do you think a person who feels burdened by their inability or clumsiness at fitting in, and really, therefore experiences social abandonment by one's peers is fodder for derision? Let's take it just one more step further, do you think it is precisely correct to further bolster this mentality by taking to task someone who chooses to speak of it openly?

This is definitely part of the burden, not the part about not being viewed as cool, but not finding much empathy for those realities, even among those who claim to know better than to throw specious, antiquated ideas of gender roles and gender identities around, such as the stereotypical stoicism required of "real men".

OP certainly got the answer to his question. He fucked up. He approached a point of his own curiosity from his own perspective and from that of a male, and on DU no less. And he (predictably) paid for it. In fact, everything pretty much went as I might have predicted, a few actual replies and a big pile of know nothing nonsense from people who had no intention of answering the question in any manner of good faith. What else is new?

While one does not a many make, I'm recording this fuck up/instant consequence occasion as circumstantial evidence for eventual affirmation of the OPs original conjecture.