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noamnety

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24. Yeah, I didn't feel physically threatened in that location

Sun Mar 17, 2013, 09:28 AM

Mar 2013

It was more that if someone offers to help, my first reaction is they are an awesome person.

And then if it's something I really want to handle myself (or in this case have the kids handle), then I'll nicely decline. I'm used to a bit of the "Are you sure - really I don't mind" dance. But this guy really wasn't taking no for an answer, and at that point it goes beyond nice to controlling in a way I don't appreciate. On his end it likely was a bit of sexism. I understand assuming that women don't know how to change a tire; it's not a typical gender skill. But it became more of an issue of him not allowing women to do it, and that wasn't an attitude I was willing to have my students accept, or see me accept. In the moment, I was costumed as a "damsel" - but in real life I'm an ex-army sgt.

That's when I turned from No thanks to FU GET AWAY FROM US. If the kids' response to a flat is to drive on it for miles until they find an adult they know, the most important thing long term is to give them the skill to change a tire, rather than the short term easy fix of letting someone do it for them.

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On changing tires for people [View all] noamnety Mar 2013 OP

Or you could just buy a road service plan proud2BlibKansan Mar 2013 #1

Alright, I'll make an exception for that. noamnety Mar 2013 #2

onstar datasuspect Mar 2013 #5

Which is good if you get multiple flats or have other issues, winter is coming Mar 2013 #7

depends on how drunk a person is datasuspect Mar 2013 #8

Yeah, I used to have one of those too. Curmudgeoness Mar 2013 #11

Get a breaker bar. alarimer Mar 2013 #18

why would you hold a tire iron in a menacing/threatening manner toward a complete stranger datasuspect Mar 2013 #3

I think it was clear I wasn't going to attack him. noamnety Mar 2013 #4

You don't know that they just want to help alarimer Mar 2013 #17

i can tell within 3 seconds if someone means to do harm datasuspect Mar 2013 #19

Yeah, I didn't feel physically threatened in that location noamnety Mar 2013 #24

what zip code do you live in? snooper2 Mar 2013 #6

I'm not sure I get the question. noamnety Mar 2013 #9

My dad used to say auntsue Mar 2013 #10

Heeeeeeeeyyyyyyy! Your father sounds like my father!!! Squinch Mar 2013 #30

PROPER DAD. sibelian Mar 2013 #31

my dad was the same way fizzgig Mar 2013 #35

I think your dad was related to mine. First thing I learned, then on to jumping a car, and gapping msanthrope Mar 2013 #37

We had to change the one in the ambulance. nadinbrzezinski Mar 2013 #12

2013 began with me changing a tire benld74 Mar 2013 #13

I showed the kids to do that! noamnety Mar 2013 #26

I changed a tire for one of my friends Aerows Mar 2013 #28

The problem is, many teens encounter rough times and rough roads thru life and... BlueJazz Mar 2013 #14

That's why we teach them well Lordquinton Mar 2013 #21

Just say no to the dumbdown! Mopar151 Mar 2013 #15

I learned how to do because I do not want some strange man stopping by to help me. alarimer Mar 2013 #16

It's my understanding that even if you know us you shouldn't trust us Fumesucker Mar 2013 #22

Although I agree that we should be able to do this ourselves, Curmudgeoness Mar 2013 #33

My father wouldn't sign for my leaner's permit until I knew how. Lugnut Mar 2013 #20

I wish my parents had done that. noamnety Mar 2013 #25

I'm a biggish guy who knows how to use my weight and strength in that situation Fumesucker Mar 2013 #23

I carry a 24" Long 1/2" Drive Breaker Bar, MineralMan Mar 2013 #27

Loosen the nuts BEFORE you jack up the car. alphafemale Mar 2013 #29

Changing a tire was part of our Driver's Ed class csziggy Mar 2013 #32

Good for you and I think girls should learn all of that stuff treestar Mar 2013 #34

A car dealer I worked at gave open to the public classes MindPilot Mar 2013 #36

I helped a neighbor and helped him change a tire and I was struck with how completely... Populist_Prole Mar 2013 #38

A cop changed my tire for me.. HipChick Mar 2013 #39