General Discussion

cecilfirefox

(784 posts)

45. As a gay man let me first say that I can relate to this-

Sun Mar 17, 2013, 02:59 PM

Mar 2013

Being the 'official gay', where everything and its mother relates to your sexuality, and the constant string of dick and ass jokes. Fortunately, I think most of my friends are beyond that, but I have been in several situations like yours. Is it homophobia? I don't think that's an entirely accurate use of that word, there's a disgust, a fear, a discomfort associated with that, I believe, and I don't think that exactly applies. It's insensitivity, certainly, but part of it is culture, some of it a lack of social contact.

Needless to say, straight folk with gay friends should totally read this post. You pretty much nail it, man.

Click here to purchase valentine hearts!

Edit history

Please sign in to view edit histories.

Recommendations

0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

46 replies

= new reply since forum marked as read

Highlight:

"Benevolent homophobia". Or was it? Here's what happened... [View all] sibelian Mar 2013 OP

I loved reading this OKNancy Mar 2013 #1

Thank you. sibelian Mar 2013 #2

I read the OP 3 times, and I have to say: Raine1967 Mar 2013 #16

..."insensitivity can often be used confused with -ism or -phobia or -otry" sibelian Mar 2013 #32

I bet you feel Bay Boy Mar 2013 #3

Well, you don't have to read them if you don't want to... sibelian Mar 2013 #4

Well you took that the wrong way.. Bay Boy Mar 2013 #12

Ok then... sibelian Mar 2013 #15

I don't think they were homophobic. enlightenment Mar 2013 #5

Florence and I become pretty good pals. sibelian Mar 2013 #8

A Wonderful Account, Sir: Thank You For Sharing It The Magistrate Mar 2013 #6

Thank you! sibelian Mar 2013 #9

They may not have been malicious, but they seem incredibly misguided. nomorenomore08 Mar 2013 #7

Well, it wasn't entirely their fault. sibelian Mar 2013 #11

Ahh, the days of being "the gay" Prism Mar 2013 #10

"Prism, read this dirty story I wrote and tell me what you think!" sibelian Mar 2013 #13

"Sex and the City is a cancerous monstrosity." nomorenomore08 Mar 2013 #14

I think it was very insensitive. Kalidurga Mar 2013 #17

I know. And really, it was quite difficult to know what to do sibelian Mar 2013 #19

Lovely music... Kalidurga Mar 2013 #22

dunno. i take your point, but it's not really normal office talk to talk about someone's vagina or HiPointDem Mar 2013 #18

Well, ya know whut? sibelian Mar 2013 #24

i've never worked in an office where genitalia was a major topic of conversation. i can only HiPointDem Mar 2013 #26

Ugh. Insensitive and incredibly unprofessional magical thyme Mar 2013 #20

Gah! sibelian Mar 2013 #21

^^^^^ this ^^^^^^^ n/t NMDemDist2 Mar 2013 #23

You should dump your job(s) and become a writer BrotherIvan Mar 2013 #25

Nice idea... sibelian Mar 2013 #27

Maybe check out some blogs that take content from different writers BrotherIvan Mar 2013 #33

...hmmmmm sibelian Mar 2013 #44

Great read. Very illuminating. Thank you. nt Xipe Totec Mar 2013 #28

Most welcome! :) nt sibelian Mar 2013 #29

Ah, the obsession with inserting male organs into holes. Gravitycollapse Mar 2013 #30

Mmmmm, thank you I think sibelian Mar 2013 #31

"one of the exciting, gay TV people" toddaa Mar 2013 #34

"it was the "office gay" who wouldn't shut up with the sex jokes." - Arg! It just makes me cringe! sibelian Mar 2013 #37

It was a racist joke that got him escorted out of the building toddaa Mar 2013 #38

Good Lord... sibelian Mar 2013 #39

Don't feel any obligation toddaa Mar 2013 #41

Straight people's preoccupation with gay people's sex lives is mystifying Blaukraut Mar 2013 #35

I'm not usually that bothered by it. sibelian Mar 2013 #40

Straight people have preoccupation with other straight people's sex lives Major Nikon Mar 2013 #42

They certainly do... sibelian Mar 2013 #43

I think this was an example of a special toxic office culture more than a homophobic one; hedgehog Mar 2013 #36

As a gay man let me first say that I can relate to this- cecilfirefox Mar 2013 #45

Cheers! sibelian Mar 2013 #46