As a long time benevolent sexist

[Summer Hathaway]

241. Lost the last argument

so you've decided to move on to another?

Fine by me.

There is a difference between recognizing sexism and finding sexism everywhere - which a certain contingent does here on a regular basis.

There is also a difference between discussing what sexism is (which will often be viewed differently as between one person and another) and declaring what constitutes sexism as some definitive behavior/action/statement that everyone 'must' accept and agree with - no deviation from said declaration permitted.

There is a VAST difference between what a bunch of self-proclaimed 'feminists' on this board declare to be 'feminism' and what the rest of women in the real world believe feminism to be - not only what it is, what is should be, what it could be, but its aims, its long-term goals, and its application in real life.

I have seen members of said contingent make statements on DU like, "This is what men do, this is what men say, this is how men behave, this what men think," as a prelude to a post about how sexist men are.

Whenever I've seen that, I've called the poster on it. When you attribute sexist actions or statements to men, full stop, without any qualifier - e.g. "some" men, a "few" men, or even "most" men, it is obvious that the poster's problem isn't with sexism per se, but with men as an entire group - all the same, each as sexist as the other. And, yes, THAT is but one example of playing the sexism card - and there are many more.

This is part of the reason why 'the contingent' have been told, repeatedly, that they don't represent feminism, nor do they present themselves as a group to be taken seriously - any more than a male poster saying "this is how all women are" would be given any credence by their fellow males.