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SoCalMusicLover

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Thu May 9, 2013, 05:03 PM May 2013

What Makes A Parent's Bond With Their Child So Incredibly Strong? [View all]

As I am not a parent, I guess I cannot understand how people can be so incredibly devoted and supportive of their loved ones, even when those same offspring are guilty of heinous and horrendous crimes.

How the mother of Jodi Arias can stand by her and ignore ALL evidence that her daughter is pure unadulterated evil. Perhaps it is an attempt to disbelieve that the person you raised all those years, turned into such a piece of trash. But I don't think so, it is just pure love of your child, even when it is obvious to everyone else with a brain, that there is something wrong with them, and they deserve to be punished severely.

And what of the mothers of children whose fathers were evil? How can Amanda Berry go through life loving the girl who was the product of a likely torturous rape? How can she tell the girl, the only reason you are here, is because this evil man who took a third of my life away to this point, forced himself upon me. Oh, and here are some other things your daddy did.

And what of Katherine Tsarnaev. Whose ex-husband will now forever be known as a terrorist who took the lives of several, and destroyed the lives of hundreds more. What will she tell her daughter once she's old enough?

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People are capable of complex feelings in complicated situations. That's about it. Brickbat May 2013 #1
Loving your child unconditionally sarisataka May 2013 #2
a mother's love OKNancy May 2013 #3
You are not a parent by your own admission HangOnKids May 2013 #4
Actually, the description of the Amanda Berry ordeal sounds like what happened to Amanda Berry. Squinch May 2013 #5
Of Course Amanda is going to tell the sordid details of her father to her child! HangOnKids May 2013 #7
Yes, but I'm sure you'll believe you need to. Squinch May 2013 #8
Clue phone for you HangOnKids May 2013 #11
See? I knew you'd think you needed to. Squinch May 2013 #12
Can't put my finger on it but I just don't dig you. HangOnKids May 2013 #13
I think I'll be able to bear up under the disappointment. Have a nice day. Squinch May 2013 #15
Great so glad I could help! HangOnKids May 2013 #16
Actually, Amanda should release the details to her child slowly and age appropriate. Luminous Animal May 2013 #19
Amanda Berry is most likely going to have to explain the sufrommich May 2013 #21
Also, we don't know what the child has already witnessed, so she might need to have a lot Squinch May 2013 #24
I agree, I have a hard time trying to imagine sufrommich May 2013 #25
Good God, yes. Squinch May 2013 #29
For six years she's been living the horror of her father. Dorian Gray May 2013 #27
It isn't always so incredibly strong. In fact there is evidence all around that it often is not. Squinch May 2013 #6
i had a son who became a criminal. i disowned him. DesertFlower May 2013 #9
I Commend Your Tough Decision SoCalMusicLover May 2013 #14
i re-married when he was 9 to a wonderful man -- DesertFlower May 2013 #17
I'm so sorry DesertFlower LeftInTX May 2013 #28
This message was self-deleted by its author DesertFlower May 2013 #20
This must have been so difficult. I am so sorry you had to do this and go through this. Squinch May 2013 #30
thank you. it was difficult, but DesertFlower May 2013 #31
Well, first off, there is no "universal bond" between parent and child Kelvin Mace May 2013 #10
Some mothers can separate the child from the rapist in their minds and hearts Marrah_G May 2013 #18
It's very instinctive and very physical LeftInTX May 2013 #22
not exactly an answer, but fascinating & perhaps related Voice for Peace May 2013 #23
evolution nt Deep13 May 2013 #26
Giving birth and caring for an infant is a form of hazing Nikia May 2013 #32
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