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snagglepuss

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22. Very true however I am unconfortable about her making a public pronouncement

Reply to The Magistrate (Reply #4)

Sat May 11, 2013, 12:55 PM

May 2013

of her forgiveness. I think she should wait till the victims address the issue of forgiveness.

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Gina DeJesus' mother forgives Castro and says she would hug him. Could that attitude harm her [View all] snagglepuss May 2013 OP

Limbaugh is going to use this as "evidence" they were just scamming welfare. n/t Ian David May 2013 #1

I don't think that attitude could ever be harmful treestar May 2013 #2

It's not that I don't think forgiveness is a good thing but I wonder how snagglepuss May 2013 #17

The mother is one of the victims too treestar May 2013 #27

Of course but not to the same degree. Castro's children are also victims but snagglepuss May 2013 #31

Is it possible that we aren't privy to every conversation loyalsister May 2013 #34

I don't think it's up to anyone to judge her on how she handles this Marrah_G May 2013 #3

It's not that it is goint to effect the case but I'm concerned about snagglepuss May 2013 #19

I think she is choosing to feel grateful that he did not kill her daughter elehhhhna May 2013 #45

Her Choice, Ma'am, Her Mind And Soul The Magistrate May 2013 #4

Very true however I am unconfortable about her making a public pronouncement snagglepuss May 2013 #22

She Is A Victim Also, Ma'am The Magistrate May 2013 #24

Very well said, Sir. HappyMe May 2013 #25

How many sleepless nights, gnawed by fear of the worst, did she endure? Most likely every one. freshwest May 2013 #48

No question that the parents are also victims but however horrible their sufferingthey weren't snagglepuss May 2013 #26

great to see you posting again. hope all was well with you. nt Democracyinkind May 2013 #29

oh cripes I just said the same thing, then scrolled down and you'd said elehhhhna May 2013 #46

It's her choice nadinbrzezinski May 2013 #5

Do not dismiss her feelings as "psychology" or "identifying with the kidnapper." Ms. Toad May 2013 #16

I am not. nadinbrzezinski May 2013 #20

That's a wonderful story loyalsister May 2013 #35

It is actually more common than one would think. Ms. Toad May 2013 #36

"None of us wants to be judged solely by what we are capable of on the worst day of our life" loyalsister May 2013 #43

it's common to identify with the kidnapper only if you are kidnapped, otherwise.... No. bettyellen May 2013 #23

I decided to ignore that piece of it (identification) Ms. Toad May 2013 #37

yeah, it's not something that happens to the non- kidnapped. Mixed feelings, yes.... bettyellen May 2013 #41

IMO....saying she can forgive him is fine and part of the process......hugging him is a bit much... Gin May 2013 #6

She's likely experiencing all sorts of emotions jberryhill May 2013 #7

Yes. Exactly right. Sheldon Cooper May 2013 #13

From what I've seen lovemydog May 2013 #8

agreed.....hate is a powerful emotion... chillfactor May 2013 #30

Welcome here chillfactor. lovemydog May 2013 #49

Well, it's really not for anybody HappyMe May 2013 #9

As somebody who has spent a lot of time on hate mythology May 2013 #10

She is happy her daughter is alive, her emotions are a roller coaster I am sure still_one May 2013 #11

I think it is a great thing that she is able to forgive Bjorn Against May 2013 #12

+1 nt Live and Learn May 2013 #44

very sweet. if her pity was an iron pipe he'd break her jaw with it. alphafemale May 2013 #14

Mother - not aunt. n/t Ms. Toad May 2013 #39

While I find the idea of hugging him and telling him that god blesses him bizarre, LisaL May 2013 #15

I'm sick of this story. Time to let the healing begin and the voyeurism stop... Locut0s May 2013 #18

Probably an excellent and sensible coping strategy - if she can manage it, I admire her. Donald Ian Rankin May 2013 #21

Exactly so. You forgive to help yourself..... Junkdrawer May 2013 #57

I'm not sure actual forgiveness is necessary. Donald Ian Rankin May 2013 #59

What I was getting at is that a crime like this victimizes in two ways: Junkdrawer May 2013 #60

At What Point Would Talking About Forgiveness be Advisable? dballance May 2013 #28

I think it'd be advisable when the victims are ready to forgive. Why does the mother have snagglepuss May 2013 #32

Why shouldn't she? HappyMe May 2013 #33

I can understand forgiving him but I can't fathom hugging him cali May 2013 #38

Her expressing her willingness to hug him makes me question snagglepuss May 2013 #42

She must be going through a range of emotions right now. Jamastiene May 2013 #40

Where's the link! lunatica May 2013 #47

link: lovemydog May 2013 #50

I don't agree with her, I would want to kill him Politicalboi May 2013 #51

I don't think she's had time to break the psychological BainsBane May 2013 #52

What ties? LisaL May 2013 #53

I misread BainsBane May 2013 #54

probably a religious thing, and the only way she feels she can go on with life JI7 May 2013 #55

I don't understand it either. LisaL May 2013 #56

I think she has more of a right to decide when to talk about that than any of us do. (nt) Posteritatis May 2013 #58