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Mon May 13, 2013, 09:59 AM

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NEED ADVICE: Identity theft by relative; call police? [View all] panAmerican May 2013 OP

The sweetest word ever heard was a simple clear 'no' JustAnotherGen May 2013 #1

Call. I doubt you're the only one he's done this to. Dash87 May 2013 #2

You need a lawyer. HubertHeaver May 2013 #3

I do have a lawyer friend panAmerican May 2013 #17

What's there to be ashamed about? LisaL May 2013 #20

Talk to your lawyer friend... ljm2002 May 2013 #23

I think the advice about getting a lawyer involved is good Yo_Mama May 2013 #40

The lawyer can speak on your behalf without giving up any of your rights. HubertHeaver May 2013 #48

there's strict confidentiality rules Skittles May 2013 #76

How were you duped? Dorian Gray May 2013 #85

IMO, this relative broke trust with you the moment he forged your signature. winter is coming May 2013 #4

I think it comes down to a simple fact ripcord May 2013 #5

Forging a signature is an unforgivable breach of trust. DetlefK May 2013 #6

If you were going to sign it for one more year anyhow, boston bean May 2013 #7

i have been screwed over by plenty of people in my life. ejpoeta May 2013 #78

I agree with ejpoeta. This relative is seeing just exactly what he can get away with, and Nay May 2013 #83

What a mess, and what a kind, wonderful and thoughtful person you are Gman May 2013 #8

I am so sorry for your pain! peace13 May 2013 #9

How would this affect the kids? jberryhill May 2013 #10

Eesh! You were repaid for your HappyMe May 2013 #11

You signed it for two years without problems? unapatriciated May 2013 #12

He has always paid the rent on-time or a week early panAmerican May 2013 #22

I like the idea of writing to the landlord to notify them that you will not be signing another lease Yo_Mama May 2013 #42

You don't give up your right to take legal action later by not taking legal action now. JoePhilly May 2013 #13

Give him a chance to pipi_k May 2013 #14

"But I will never never never co-sign for anyone" jberryhill May 2013 #24

Yep... pipi_k May 2013 #33

Is any other relative willing to co-sign right away? Nine May 2013 #15

D*mn...... a kennedy May 2013 #16

Thanks :) I appreciate the hug panAmerican May 2013 #38

Those charges probably aren't enough to have the kids taken away treestar May 2013 #18

I have found Old Codger May 2013 #19

I have seen the same thing done to others time and time again as well. Dash87 May 2013 #31

Sigh, too true. In_The_Wind May 2013 #35

You shouldn't subject yourself, your body, the the rest of your Ilsa May 2013 #21

+1000. Manipulators don't stop themselves. You have to set and enforce boundaries. winter is coming May 2013 #58

Be sure you run a credit report on yourself Ilsa May 2013 #25

Good idea. HappyMe May 2013 #27

I believe you should definitely confront this fool. People do not onecent May 2013 #26

there *are* more important things demwing May 2013 #79

Your handle is an apt description of the value of your advice, imho. n/t Laelth May 2013 #89

contact the owner of the property and find out what is going on ThomThom May 2013 #28

Not calling the police now does not tie your hands later jeff47 May 2013 #29

Teach him what consequences are. His children vanlassie May 2013 #30

If he has lived there for two years and paid the rent on time, DebJ May 2013 #32

How has this hurt you? Have there been any unauthorized purchases or credit lines opened Egalitarian Thug May 2013 #34

It could keep him or her from getting his own credit if needed pnwmom May 2013 #55

Thanks for answering a question not asked for the person who was. Egalitarian Thug May 2013 #57

Er, she makes a good point Ruby the Liberal May 2013 #66

Here's the back story panAmerican May 2013 #36

I know you love him but... he's a liar and at least one of his kids is a liar renate May 2013 #41

The lawyer Yo_Mama May 2013 #45

Go to a lawyer. Not your friend, somebody who doesn't know you. Nye Bevan May 2013 #37

Call your county Bar Association's Lawyer Referral Service LiberalEsto May 2013 #69

Protect yourself. Dawson Leery May 2013 #39

you don't have a choice on whether charges are brought or not. If the cops think it's fraud librechik May 2013 #43

Last winter I had roughly the same experience Le Taz Hot May 2013 #44

Get a lawyer. Now. Later, you can make a decision about the police. dairydog91 May 2013 #46

PLEASE, I BEG YOU: Get a lawyer to help advise you. Do the following RIGHT now: Poll_Blind May 2013 #47

MY Dear PanAmerican It's very simple and the best way to keep things diffused... Drew Richards May 2013 #49

best answer demwing May 2013 #82

This is the best answer I have read on this forum Dorian Gray May 2013 #86

Went to Leasing Ofc; calling attorney next panAmerican May 2013 #50

blech... i couldn't do this to someone I loved. boston bean May 2013 #54

She was going to sign again--UNTIL she found out that he committed FRAUD by FORGERY. Common Sense Party May 2013 #60

I'm not going to argue with anyone about it, just give my opinion. boston bean May 2013 #61

Fine, and you are entitled to your opinion. Common Sense Party May 2013 #63

My help has been there for the asking for nearly 15 years panAmerican May 2013 #70

Really? Dorian Gray May 2013 #88

Unfortunately the lawyer will tell you what I already said Drew Richards May 2013 #56

You did the right thing. HappyMe May 2013 #62

If he's been there for two years and has been a good tenant, they'll probably let him stay. haele May 2013 #64

If you don't have any further liability, why the need for further steps? blueamy66 May 2013 #81

Thanks for the update Yo_Mama May 2013 #84

This is probably Dorian Gray May 2013 #87

Contact a lawyer. It would be worth the fee to have all your options set out for you The Velveteen Ocelot May 2013 #51

check your credit CountAllVotes May 2013 #52

ScoreWatch and Equifax products panAmerican May 2013 #73

That is a tough one, since the whole family is flaky Warpy May 2013 #53

"His credit repair has to start somewhere" <~~ THIS Ruby the Liberal May 2013 #67

Fortunately my signature is worth nothing. hunter May 2013 #59

Please call a lawyer immediately. Ruby the Liberal May 2013 #65

There is one more thing wanted to mention Drew Richards May 2013 #68

Lawyer Hekate May 2013 #71

Lawyer says this is enough panAmerican May 2013 #72

Good. I hope it all works out well for you. Hekate May 2013 #74

If he's been paying rent, he doesn't need you to consign. GeorgeGist May 2013 #75

FFS, don't call the damned police! Th1onein May 2013 #77

Why don't you talk to him about it Marrah_G May 2013 #80