NEED ADVICE: Identity theft by relative; call police?

[Hekate]

74. Good. I hope it all works out well for you.

At some point everyone has to grow up, and the longer they can depend on someone else to bail them out, the longer it will take them to take responsibility for themselves.

You have to protect your own household first -- yourself, your credit, your kids, and the roof over their heads. From that can flow generosity, but if generosity is abused, cut it off.

Last summer I had to tell a close relative "No" after too many unpaid debts (to me and my husband) over a lifetime, too many crises of her own making, and ultimately too much assumption that I owed it to her but she owed me no gratitude. She went ballistic. How dared I. Strangely enough, she has managed to survive another year, living from crisis to crisis much as she always has.

This doesn't mean I don't love her, but I am letting her know she has to take responsibility for her own life. Her attitude to me still sucks, but on reflection it always has.

Best wishes,

Hekate