Pregnant girlfriend tricked into taking abortion pill; 'The baby was lost

[bayareamike]

146. Yet ideally,

should it not be mutual? Having sex is a mutual decision (with the obvious exception of rape). Let's say a couple has sex and the woman becomes pregnant accidentally. The man in this case does not want a baby, but the woman wants to keep it. Who should suffer? I see two sides of this argument:

a) the woman gets to make the ultimate decision because the baby is carried inside of her body, and as such, plays a more important role in the pregnancy.

b) the decision is mutual because "it takes two to tango". While the mother has an obviously stronger connection to the child, the decision and resulting accident was a mutual mistake. Why does one half of the couple become more important in the decision making process? Coercing the male to take care of the child -- financially and otherwise -- for the rest of his life seems unfair as well. In your post, you assert that the man should've taken precautions; why isn't that a mutual responsibility? In a perfect world, it should be mutual and thus responsibility for the accident should also be shared mutually.

I tend to lean towards (b) simply because I see that as the more equitable decision. Again, this is in a perfect world where the two partners are equal members. I don't think in the real world this happens often.

Just musing on the subject.

Edit: although I should be clear: I am against forcing a woman to either have an abortion or bear a child unwillingly. Coercing a woman into either against her will is disgusting and objectively wrong. Is there a middle ground, such as adoption?