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121. Well, mom has 10 blockages, with a 50% blockage in her left main.

Fri Jun 7, 2013, 11:22 AM

Jun 2013

When she doesn't take her meds, her bp skyrockets to the 200's/100's. She has a strong familial history for hypertension and high cholesterol, and we kept telling her, it's not you, it's your genes, don't take it personally. She's very non-compliant and puts herself at risk all the time. One of these days she's going to have a stroke, and then it will be even worse.

Dad is declining incredibly rapidly, and to say mom is coping with it poorly is a gross understatement. She yells at him when he falls down or drops something, and yells at him when he forgets things. She refuses to remind him to take his meds because she feels she "shouldn't have to." It's just a huge mess.

Dealing with my parents right now is probably the biggest stressor in my life.

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Baby boomers are killing themselves at an alarming rate, raising question: Why? [View all] HiPointDem Jun 2013 OP

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self-worth, work, mission, and just being NJCher Jun 2013 #5

"We don't teach that" because it's not true. If it were, it wouldn't have to be 'taught'. HiPointDem Jun 2013 #6

Sorry, HPD, but I strongly dissent from your view. carla Jun 2013 #68

in actual practice, life is cheap. fact. it's not a question of how we see it, it's a question of HiPointDem Jun 2013 #70

"If you can't make money, make friends." davekriss Jun 2013 #89

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No, life is precious and vanishes in an instant davekriss Jun 2013 #97

you're not getting my point. you're talking 'should be'. i'm talking *is*. the fact *is* that HiPointDem Jun 2013 #98

Tales of the elders. napoleon_in_rags Jun 2013 #8

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+1. The world needs you, doing just that. nt napoleon_in_rags Jun 2013 #21

Totally high drug use. Believe it or not at your own peril. nt kelliekat44 Jun 2013 #39

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Right. napoleon_in_rags Jun 2013 #23

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You know this thread is about suicide, right? napoleon_in_rags Jun 2013 #125

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I wish I could give you a hug. A beer out in the woods. But I won't lie: napoleon_in_rags Jun 2013 #17

I would love to have an ongoing conversation about this, napolean_in_rags... OneGrassRoot Jun 2013 #22

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My understanding differs. Laelth Jun 2013 #64

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While we have more glittering ultra rich than other countries Warpy Jun 2013 #107

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Or the level of medication generally. wickerwoman Jun 2013 #12

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Seems like things are very polarized for folks in their 50s. winter is coming Jun 2013 #29

Evidently. OneGrassRoot Jun 2013 #31

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We're following one another... OneGrassRoot Jun 2013 #61

Try being in the construction field Awknid Jun 2013 #118

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I apologize... OneGrassRoot Jun 2013 #55

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However... OneGrassRoot Jun 2013 #59

Agreed, the 50's have some special issues progree Jun 2013 #63

Yes, wickerwoman Jun 2013 #67

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Could legal marijuana prevent sucides? B Calm Jun 2013 #11

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I'm glad you jumped on that bullshit post. MindPilot Jun 2013 #36

I just have to remember my Dads childhood Elmergantry Jun 2013 #50

Exactly how do you think most of us lived during the 50s? Skidmore Jun 2013 #60

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Boy the writer of this story really doesn't get it. fasttense Jun 2013 #18

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Wow. Really insightful post. Zorra Jun 2013 #99

Worth checking out: the CDC statistics on suicide CBHagman Jun 2013 #25

Desolation orpupilofnature57 Jun 2013 #27

My boomer parents are not coping well. My hypothesis is Butterbean Jun 2013 #28

We'll see how well YOU cope. WinkyDink Jun 2013 #88

n/t Butterbean Jun 2013 #90

Part of that might be due Awknid Jun 2013 #119

Well, mom has 10 blockages, with a 50% blockage in her left main. Butterbean Jun 2013 #121

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"estranged from friends and family" - why? IdaBriggs Jun 2013 #34

One of the first things people ask when meeting is "What do you do"? Fumesucker Jun 2013 #38

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That may be your answer but that's not what most people ask the question for Fumesucker Jun 2013 #49

I don't think that's true. wickerwoman Jun 2013 #72

I like to ask people what their hobbies are Fumesucker Jun 2013 #73

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Sometimes I feel that way too--good to hear I'm not the only one. raccoon Jun 2013 #115

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I'm a Mid-50's Boomer RobinA Jun 2013 #35

+1 n/t lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #43

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"Perhaps a little more adversity in youth could have helped prepare them" lumberjack_jeff Jun 2013 #42

The author is a blithering moron. duffyduff Jun 2013 #45

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Unwanted Changes WovenGems Jun 2013 #76

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Pop Quiz WovenGems Jun 2013 #80

Laura Nyro. pinboy3niner Jun 2013 #83

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Welcome to DU my friend! hrmjustin Jun 2013 #81

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God welcomes everyone in hevean in my opinion. hrmjustin Jul 2014 #129

raise your kids to take care of you? how about them living their lives and reaching their NRaleighLiberal Jul 2014 #130