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21. There are a lot of misconceptions about adoption.
Wed Aug 7, 2013, 05:46 PM
Aug 2013

It's not as easy as people think. It can be as expensive as, say, using IVF with an egg donor. It can definitely take longer. And there are no guarantees. The world is overpopulated, but that doesn't translate into lots of children to adopt. Demand far exceeds supply. Even foster-to-adopt is not that easy to come by. And lots of people wouldn't want to go through losing a child they've had for years because the bio parents suddenly got their lives together. I think it's easy to say that people reject adoption because of vanity about the superiority of their own genes but I think most people shy away from adoption because of expense and waiting periods and fears about bio parents changing their minds. Although if people did prefer to parent a child with whom they had a genetic connection, I don't think that's worthy of contempt anyway.

That said, this article is meant to get people clucking their tongues. It's why the Daily Fail exists. If the couple gave up on having a girl long ago, then how could they have been repeatedly "trying" for girls and ending up with boys? I think they had 12 kids because they wanted 12 kids, and they would have loved to have a girl in there somewhere but that doesn't mean the kept having more and more kids ONLY in order to get a girl.

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My sis gave up after 4 boys madokie Aug 2013 #1
Her body, her choice. Skidmore Aug 2013 #2
There are plenty of little girls... Wait Wut Aug 2013 #3
Actually, not so many girls Sheepshank Aug 2013 #14
If you want a baby, yes. Wait Wut Aug 2013 #17
If only Henry VIII had met this woman LittleBlue Aug 2013 #4
Wouldn't have made any difference. FLyellowdog Aug 2013 #16
Some people have strange hobbies. morningfog Aug 2013 #5
"Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." nt raccoon Aug 2013 #6
Why not let science help? Politicalboi Aug 2013 #7
Idiots! Everyone knows that if mom's head is facing east NightWatcher Aug 2013 #8
I read that a woman's diet can play a role ecstatic Aug 2013 #9
Uh, how about adoption? Beaverhausen Aug 2013 #10
no way d_r Aug 2013 #12
So, what is the limit on the number of children stupid people should be allowed? NoPasaran Aug 2013 #13
Maybe they were trying to keep up with the Duggers. n/t RebelOne Aug 2013 #20
There are a lot of misconceptions about adoption. Nine Aug 2013 #21
Too stupid? Looks like they figured out reproduction pretty well. Dreamer Tatum Aug 2013 #22
This is absolutely nuts Cali_Democrat Aug 2013 #11
That looks expensive gollygee Aug 2013 #15
You're not kidding. bunnies Aug 2013 #18
Can someone tell this woman she doesn't have a clown car down there? nt joeybee12 Aug 2013 #19
Sick marions ghost Aug 2013 #23
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