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In reply to the discussion: dad wears short shorts to teach daughter a lesson [View all]TorchTheWitch
(11,065 posts)How do teenage girls change clothes after they leave the house when they don't OWN anything slutty to change into? Are the parents just shelling out money that she buys clothes with, they don't check what she buys and don't check what's in her room? I was never given money to go clothes shopping on my own, and frankly, all we could afford were hand-me-downs and thrift stores anyway. I was lucky enough to grow up in a time when parents acted like parents, and none of the teenage girls I was surrounded by had any urge to dress like a hooker because they also had parents that acted like parents. Teenage girls where I grew up would have been embarrassed as hell to go about in public with short-shorts or midriff tops or stilettos or any clothing that had their boobs or butt hanging out.
My parents didn't "own" me simply because they made rules that we had to stick by and taught us from a very young age about respect for ourselves and other people. We didn't even have the time to loaf around town since we actually DID stuff... music, art, sports, etc. And none of us were allowed to be out late on school nights, and never past midnight except for rare special occasions. Parents insisted on knowing who our friends were, where we were going and what we were doing. My parents were far less strict than any of my peers since we didn't actually have a curfew, but it didn't make any difference since by the time we got to be teenagers we had more important things to do, already learned that we had to get enough sleep every night, that homework and chores had to be done before anything else, and with all the other kids having curfews what the hell were we going to do anyway. There were no gangs of kids wandering around town... there were no strip malls, and the mom and pop stores closed early. Nobody even SOLD hooker clothes anywhere except in the Frederick's of Hollywood catalog because parents actually acted like parents then and not only would none of the kids be allowed to buy them none of us would have been caught dead wearing them because we were taught that you didn't need to have your tits and ass hanging out in order to be noticed and that the reality of life is that if you do dress that way you'll be noticed for all the wrong reasons.
And in NO WAY did I imply that women "ask for it" by the way they dress. I specifically said that it is a REALITY of life that women and girls that dress in slutty clothing ARE looked at as nothing more than a sexual object by both men AND women. There's nothing wrong with wanting to be noticed sexually, but our warped society equates women and girls wanting to be noticed sexually as less than entirely human - a sexual OBJECT.