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In reply to the discussion: Spanking Child With Wooden Spoon Not Child Abuse, Says State Court [View all]Celefin
(532 posts)231. Thank you. You win the thread - by a mile.
So much of this thread is simply disgusting. I've spanked my oldest daughter once when she purposefully kicked her little sister down the stairs... and although perhaps justified in such an extreme case I am NOT fond of this memory and never will be. Guess in that case I wasn't strong enough, well. Never happened again, though (neither the kicking nor the spanking).
Great post, right on every count. Thanks.
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Oh. look at you. So reasonable and calm. Too bad you can't raise a child without hitting them.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#394
Maybe it doesn't matter what you're called. It does matter what you do,
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#396
I respect your opinion. As I said in my jury comments most personal attacks are an auto-hide for me
stevenleser
Oct 2013
#205
Thank you! And to be proud to admit that one has no idea what one is doing on jury service.
ScreamingMeemie
Oct 2013
#344
I wouldn't be proud of that. I vote to hide all personal attacks, regardless of what
ScreamingMeemie
Oct 2013
#342
I am proud of it. I enforced the standards for the community I am comfortable with and for me
stevenleser
Oct 2013
#485
You are a waste of a jury vote and are using the system for your own gain and platfrom.
ScreamingMeemie
Oct 2013
#486
You realize you just attacked me personally for failing to hide a personal attack, right?
stevenleser
Oct 2013
#487
If that's how you feel, alert. I've merely stated the truth, without the nasty language
ScreamingMeemie
Oct 2013
#488
It's still wrong. You took the easy way out rather than figuring out
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#398
Of course you do. Because you can't admit you're wrong. I reject your rejection.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#498
2 for. Thought so my dear. I have no clue what you are asking about. Bye.
uppityperson
Oct 2013
#330
I've a new friend! My old besest buddy finally gave up on me and now I've a new bff
uppityperson
Oct 2013
#334
It was the only thing your parents figured out that you would learn from. There
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#397
she was slow getting to puberty (propably wouldn't have done it if she'd gone through it)
gopiscrap
Oct 2013
#159
Definitely, and I often wonder about all of this bare bottom spanking, something
RKP5637
Oct 2013
#437
Has any parent in the history of the US been charged with sexual abuse for spanking?
Stay calm buddy
Oct 2013
#354
If not, it's because our sick, violent society has condoned this abuse. It's wrong. It needs to stop
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#399
If you don't care what others think, why post on a DISCUSSION board?
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#400
LOL, so "I abused my kids and they turned out ok, so that means abusing kids is good". Brilliant! nt
Logical
Oct 2013
#421
No, actually, they don't. Parents need to stop being lazy and violent and learn
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#401
You don't know your history. This is not some unprecedented time period
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#513
That's what you think. But then you were abused as a child, so maybe
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#404
LOL, so if you were sexually assaulted and turned out OK then you would think that was OK also? n-t
Logical
Oct 2013
#423
I can't wait til your kids are old enough to call child protective services and have you arrested.
whathehell
Oct 2013
#63
Glad you feel light....yeah I was a social worker for 8 years and then burned
gopiscrap
Oct 2013
#187
I loved it I was on a national singing tour with four others we were all 19-23
gopiscrap
Oct 2013
#536
But, you know, many of the kids will. The parents screwed up badly, but
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#414
I'm not surprised. A few of the loudest defenders of hitting kids on this thread
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#440
Thank you for sharing that. Some children cope with the trauma by
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#405
I've noticed he likes to post provocative stuff like that to get people riled up.
Skeeter Barnes
Oct 2013
#369
It's abuse. Read the science and see how you've deluded yourself.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#391
"visible bruises" WTF we can't agree on that as fulfilling the abuse criteria?
elehhhhna
Oct 2013
#361
So a parent child relationship is equal to a manager employee relationship?
former9thward
Oct 2013
#71
Why shouldn't adults hit each other to show their disapproval or for performance issues?
Brickbat
Oct 2013
#229
It takes a brave parent to admit they were wrong rather than justify their
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#407
Exactly. But, these people will continue to justify their poor parenting to
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#408
Perhaps the beatings are why the other family (the gang) looks appealing?
VanillaRhapsody
Oct 2013
#121
Well, since you are a parent who isn't smart enough to figure out how
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#409
Awesome post. Absolutely everything the bragging hitters here refuse to see.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#415
No. There are other ways and parents need to learn about them and use them.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#406
wow... really CPS?! They have resources to go after cases like this vs OVERT real abuse?!
uponit7771
Oct 2013
#2
Article reads it was her daughter and "left visible bruises" is VERY VERY subjective. I'd err on the
uponit7771
Oct 2013
#4
I'm stunned by the responses to your posting. What a bunch of jerks are climbing out
RKP5637
Oct 2013
#464
I don't live in NY, and I certainly don't condone what happened to this girl,
Ranchemp.
Oct 2013
#303
OK, suppose we pretend it isn't abuse. It's still wrong. As LaundryQueen said:
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#416
I agree. It doesn't seem like much at first glance but leaving bruises with any object is over the..
BlueJazz
Oct 2013
#5
So you'd hit someone after calm, rational thought to show her that hitting is wrong.
Brickbat
Oct 2013
#225
Everyone who hits thinks they have a good excuse for using hitting to teach a child
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#497
oh really and is it our business if a child is put in the hospital because of said "discipline"?
VanillaRhapsody
Oct 2013
#129
You send your abused children out into our world, so it is our business.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#419
My experience sad to say, is that most of the time the State intervened too late
gopiscrap
Oct 2013
#180
I agree. I live in a very military area and in 1989 I was the chair of the city initiative in
gopiscrap
Oct 2013
#192
you are correct about the bruises but wrong about the hitting itself being considered assault
arely staircase
Oct 2013
#236
The negative effects on children include increased aggression aggression and noncompliance--
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#12
Hey Moriah, you sound pretty cool...I wouldn't worry about what others are saying!
gopiscrap
Oct 2013
#162
You deserved to have your mom act violently toward you so she could get frustrations out?
Brickbat
Oct 2013
#53
I think that those who feel corporal punishment is fine should take a long, hard look at how
Happyhippychick
Oct 2013
#32
I mentioned my story because it was truly a one-time abberation in Mom's childrearing.
moriah
Oct 2013
#137
I agree with you about the jail part. In the case you describe, since it never happened
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#426
I do think CPS has a lot worse cases to deal with than a 12-year-old who was spanked.
moriah
Oct 2013
#442
I would be very interested to see the study that proves a subjective opinion...
Decaffeinated
Oct 2013
#246
You're the one with the narrow view. Studies of large groups of children
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#501
Sure, because you can tell from the outside if someone is free of
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#500
My "opinion" is backed by those who have studied the issue on a large scale. Yours in based
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#506
If you need to hit your children to teach them something you are a failure
MattBaggins
Oct 2013
#301
No, it's not the declaring it wrong that makes it so, it's the fact that it is wrong.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#514
Personally, I have never hit a child and think that other punishments are more effective, but
charmay
Oct 2013
#37
Using the HuffPo as a legal source makes you seem uninformed when they incorrectly report a verdict.
msanthrope
Oct 2013
#39
Perhaps. And I am not commenting morally, but legally. The state must and should take into account
msanthrope
Oct 2013
#46
When I come across sloppy legal reporting, I absolutely comment on it. It's what I do. nt
msanthrope
Oct 2013
#47
I don't think that child's afraid of her parents. And I don't think she made any statement in the
msanthrope
Oct 2013
#362
I don't believe the social worker. Neither did the court, it seems. And I think it's sloppy
msanthrope
Oct 2013
#371
Um, no--she didn't make a sworn statement to the social worker. Nor could the social worker
msanthrope
Oct 2013
#382
You know, I'm really not sure why you have a problem with the remand on this case. Nor am
msanthrope
Oct 2013
#410
Judges don't imply. They rule. And the appellate court made no determination of what is reasonable
msanthrope
Oct 2013
#438
Agreed. Just like the "God hates fags" assholes think they are doing right by god.
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#436
Odd that the only people it is still legal to use physical assault against are the weakest.
alphafemale
Oct 2013
#60
Take away the cell phone! Its abuse/violence to hit others and criminal abuse when there are bruises
Sunlei
Oct 2013
#62
A lot of totally fucked up shit is "allowed." In case you were using that
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#446
This ruling is simple common sense and right thinking parents will agree with it.
leeroysphitz
Oct 2013
#78
Well, then you're just hilarious, dude. Bragging that you bring others
Dark n Stormy Knight
Oct 2013
#496
Sorry I hadn't realized they had blind-folded and hand-cuffed thier victim.
leeroysphitz
Oct 2013
#332
Spanking a child with anything with enough force to leave visible bruises is child abuse nt
arely staircase
Oct 2013
#103
Not only is it abuse, it misses a chance to create maturity and self-regulation.
nolabear
Oct 2013
#118
So it can be called "discipline" when done to one's own child but it's assault in all other cases.
gtar100
Oct 2013
#134
I don't think that putting the child in foster care would have been better.
lumberjack_jeff
Oct 2013
#136
Have you considered that the grandparents were probably ok with the spanking?
missingthebigdog
Oct 2013
#530
In these days of high tech wizardry, simply depriving them of it is significant punishment.
roamer65
Oct 2013
#163
New title: Paddling half-naked 12 year old is not child abuse, says State Court
pnwmom
Oct 2013
#184
how come i knew before i even opened this thread there'd be some assholes defending it.
KG
Oct 2013
#224
My folks chased me down the sidewalk with a bamboo switch in hand.
Manifestor_of_Light
Oct 2013
#252
Thank you. Part of the hoarding dynamic is extreme social isolation.
Manifestor_of_Light
Oct 2013
#288
While abuse really does depend on the intent *and* the extent of the injuries....I can say this:
AverageJoe90
Oct 2013
#257
I was beaten with a belt as a kid as were my sisters for really doing nothing wrong. I have
RKP5637
Oct 2013
#287
Been there. Still get mad thinking about it to this day. You are not alone.
Skeeter Barnes
Oct 2013
#377
Does this mean you can bruise a child as long as bruising was not "your intent"? Under that line
appleannie1
Oct 2013
#319
My adult children tell me the worse thing I ever did to them was make them sit together in a chair,
appleannie1
Oct 2013
#321
I would pull my kids out of a school that practiced corporal punishment on them
gopiscrap
Oct 2013
#346
Parents, if what you're doing to your child in the name of "discipline" could be a scene
pnwmom
Oct 2013
#343
Spanking a 12 year old is fucking ridiculous, wooden spoon or no wooden spoon
Hippo_Tron
Oct 2013
#356
In New York, hitting a child with a wooden spoon was child abuse when I was an investigator.
In_The_Wind
Oct 2013
#372
Let's face it, a child is an easy target for pent up anger, possibly spanning a lifetime.
MoonRiver
Oct 2013
#379
But that isn't what the court said. Not even close. Incorrectly stating what the court
msanthrope
Oct 2013
#411
No--that's not even close to the "logical inference." The appellate court isn't saying what is
msanthrope
Oct 2013
#435