Spanking Child With Wooden Spoon Not Child Abuse, Says State Court

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478. Listen to yourself.

You think because those kids weren't spanked THAT is why they act the way they do. And in the next breath you say,

Nobody cared about them.

helloooooooo.

And then, "...many of them had learned to deal with being upset by attacking people and/or breaking things."

Where do you think they learned that? Could it be because they witnessed violence or suffered violence themselves?

Note: Hitting is a violent action. 'Spanking' is hitting. All 'spanking' does is teach might makes right. Or that "if I'm bigger and badder than you I can make you do what *I* want you to do."

I'll tell you what: those kids are teens and may be lost, but a young child who is shown unconditional love and has reasonable boundaries (consistently enforced, SANS spanking) generally doesn't become a violent teen in a group home unless there is some underlying brain or mental health issue. And spanking, while maybe not turning children into violent offenders if the parents doing the spanking are generally loving, it still detrimental. WHY oh WHY would someone want to spank if they KNOW it MIGHT be detrimental? If you found out feeding your pre-schooler applesauce MIGHT cause them to be more violent than they otherwise would be, would YOU feed it to your child? WHY NOT try something else?

I just don't get your attitude. It's lazy parenting IMO. And I'm sad that's what your wife thinks about those kids.