rich girl writes online essay about poor people making her feel bad

[haele]

44. Sweetheart, there's a big difference between slumming and living in the slum.

You will always have opportunity, and because your parents have liquidity, you will pretty much be able to do what you want and still be comfortable. You can meet people who have money, and you don't have to worry about very much in life. To use a common Baseball analogy - you started out on Third Base, so making it to adulthood got you "Home" very easily. You have all the equipment you need to go as far as you want. And that's okay, there's no problem with that - but it's also nothing special. It was "doable" for your parents. There was not a significant amount of hard work and sacrifice involved, you'd still do well even if you didn't go to private school and the Ivy League.

The people you are telling "don't be a hater" - some of them can't even get on the playing field, because there's a price just to get in. And no amount of savings, or working hard, or any of the other "why don't they just dos" you prate out at them will get them up to the batter's box. They don't have a chance to step up to the plate when it comes to the game of life.
Most of them would die of starvation or end up in jail to do what it takes to get into your world. Or sacrifice pretty much every possible comfort - especially social; friends and family - just to work to the position to get what you were given. The few that make it up there will still be outsiders for at least a generation or two if they can hold on long enough.

So yeah, they're going to be a bit pissed when you flash all your opportunities in their face, and tell them they're not working hard enough, making enough of a sacrifice to get what you have. Maybe, your parents had originally thought that eating at McDonald's or buying sensibly at Old Navy might teach you a bit of humility and manners, as well as give you an idea of how to live within whatever means you have.

Queen Bee attitude doesn't play very well, and makes marks on your face as well as your soul. You're going to look 40 pretending to be younger by the time you're 25 with that sort of attitude.

BTW, a working family that shops at Dollar General and Goodwill, and requires Head Start to watch their kids and hopefully teach them something so that both parents can work whatever jobs are out there to put food on the table and keep a roof over their heads doesn't care one bit that Muffy Bannister-Frobisher who's dad is a VP at Goldman Sachs got her clothes at Saks and teased you about that at that private school you went into...

Haele