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In reply to the discussion: Don't look now but the Miami Dolphins may implode over threats and racial taunts [View all]nadinbrzezinski
(154,021 posts)I see.
It's not about me. It's about bullies, in adults you are dealing with children in adult bodies, who go after popular people who have success and attack them due to the bullies own insecurity. (Just like childhood).
The take no shit is proven not to work. You are talking about psychopaths, with zero empathy towards victims. They are serial, and the damage is proven as psychological injury. No what makes me wonder about you is you willingness to tolerate it. Mind you, this is very much a culturally accepted way that Americans look at bullying.
Culture based studies show that the US is very much accepting of the behavior and blaming the victim, and we are nowhere close in acceptance to Asian cultures.
I prefer to break that cultural "norm". Sure, short term is great for productivity (it happens a lot in work places) but long term there is an economic cost.
Oh and there is more, kids who are bullies, just shy of half grow up to commit crimes, most petty theft (they can get away with it far easier) and embezzlement, a few graduate to murder. You ok with that? Because that is the real cost of the boys will be boys, take no shit attitude, it will make you stronger BS.
Why do you think forward looking PDs and school districts, still a marked minority, want to break the cycle? It is easier and cheaper to treat an 8 year old than incarcerate a 21 year old.