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In reply to the discussion: Adoption harms women. [View all]me b zola
(19,053 posts)21. Being adopted is complicated
I personally think its the biggest mind-fuck ever. I have had times that if you asked me I would have told you that I would rather have been aborted. I was surprised to find that their are other adoptees who have had those same feelings. Then again, depression & suicide are higher in the adoptee (and relinquishing mother) community than in the general population.
Every adoptee has their own complicated story and feelings. For me, I absolutely despise when people want to make me their "poster-child" in their desire to limit a woman's right to health care.
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Pre-birth matching is inherently coercive. It puts the prospective birth mother in a position of
StevieM
Nov 2013
#96
So..you would abort your child....no problem.. But adoption of that same child is not an option:?
Beausoir
Nov 2013
#128
It's a foetus. Her Body Her Choice. I assume you support Democratic Party platform.
idwiyo
Nov 2013
#143
i bet given the choice they would choose being adopted rather than being aborted
leftyohiolib
Nov 2013
#2
HA! the old Reagan "I've noticed that everybody that is for abortion has already been born" argument
PeaceNikki
Nov 2013
#17
And you probably don't even realize what an anti-choice talking point that is...
nomorenomore08
Nov 2013
#34
So perfectly stated. I want to save a copy of this post for future reference.
nomorenomore08
Nov 2013
#86
I was told that by a social worker who had a counseling practice and saw women who had
CTyankee
Nov 2013
#3
Human trafficking is loathsome but it is inevitable when sanctions against abortion are in place.
CTyankee
Nov 2013
#9
was wondering where you were my sister... you can always be depended on to provide
boston bean
Nov 2013
#10
I have three cousins (siblings) and two friends (also siblings) who were adopted as infants.
Jenoch
Nov 2013
#13
The fact is that birth mothers never forget their children, and in many cases grieve for them
StevieM
Nov 2013
#122
About ten years ago I worked with a young woman who opted to have her baby and did not
CTyankee
Nov 2013
#15
Your argument makes little sense. Adoption is a choice AFTER the pregnancy is over.
REP
Nov 2013
#49
I think many churches have a negative reaction to NOT giving up your baby for adoption
StevieM
Nov 2013
#99
AMEN!!! Pregnancy resource centers prey on the vulnerable. Women often go to them for help,
StevieM
Nov 2013
#116
When soldiers talk about the ill effects of war (PTSD), are they demonizing military service?
me b zola
Nov 2013
#84
You brought tears to my eyes with this story. And another issue to address--sealed birth records.
StevieM
Nov 2013
#102
Yep, it does. And the media rarely acknowledges it. Somehow it has escaped the coverage during
StevieM
Nov 2013
#119
If you believe that, then you should meet the modern women of relinquishment that I speak to online
me b zola
Nov 2013
#153
There are NO legal protections for a women who relinquishes her child to "open" adoption
me b zola
Nov 2013
#155
It would be better for you to provide some links rather than some absurd assertions.
kwassa
Nov 2013
#156
I think it is far more common for a woman to be raked over the coals for NOT choosing adoption,
StevieM
Nov 2013
#94
I am sure your adoptive parents are great, but you could also have had a good life with
StevieM
Nov 2013
#103
Adoption CAN harm women or can liberate women. It all depends on the situation and how
uppityperson
Nov 2013
#62
Indeed. Anyone who says "always" or "all" or somehow implies that each and every woman feels
uppityperson
Nov 2013
#77
Making adoption mandatory - as it essentially was at one time - sure as hell harms women.
nomorenomore08
Nov 2013
#87
There are some on the right who think poor people don't deserve to keep their children
REP
Nov 2013
#88
So many terrible parents with plenty of money, so many great parents with little to none.
nomorenomore08
Nov 2013
#91
It's like DU is stuck back in the 1980's. The inmates are in charge of the asylum.
Beausoir
Nov 2013
#130
Really? Even the women who were adopted out of starvation, abuse and cruelty?
Beausoir
Nov 2013
#118
There is higher incidents of some debilitating illnesses & cancers among 911 first responders...
me b zola
Nov 2013
#133
I'm really curious about something. Of all the things in the word to attack, adoption?
Kurska
Nov 2013
#138
I am glad that you were treated well. Many of those homes were quite different and the women
StevieM
Nov 2013
#137
Adoption is a legitimate choice and it is really nobody's business whether a woman chooses it.
Nye Bevan
Nov 2013
#150