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chillfactor

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27. I have three children..two natural born..one adopted

Wed Nov 13, 2013, 11:51 PM

Nov 2013

my youngest child was adopted ...she was nine at the time..

when she was older she asked if I was alright with her finding her adoptive parents and I had no problem with that...she discovered that her birth father had died and the "reunion" with her birth mother was a terrible experience

I know some adopted children may have a desire to discover their roots...but do not go into a search with fantasies dancing around in your heads...some of those reunions do not work out well .....

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Adoptees, Friends of Adoptees, Birth Parents and Adoptive Parents - Check In Here [View all] Beearewhyain Nov 2013 OP

My niece is adopted from China Freddie Nov 2013 #1

In my estimation Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #23

I was adopted by my father gopiscrap Nov 2013 #2

have lots of adoptees in my family, its very common loli phabay Nov 2013 #3

Birth parent pain and suffering is also very common. We need to acknowledge that (eom) StevieM Nov 2013 #34

Who isn't? nt pnwmom Nov 2013 #36

Society at large. And the media during National Adoption Month (eom) StevieM Nov 2013 #47

I support adoption ccsar Nov 2013 #4

Two of my nieces and a nephew were adopted from Korea. Staph Nov 2013 #26

Welcome to DU! rug Nov 2013 #31

Welcome to DU, ccsar! n/t pnwmom Nov 2013 #32

You are working on the assumption that your birth parents don't want to "be bothered" StevieM Nov 2013 #39

Not at all ccsar Nov 2013 #80

Welcome to DU, ccsar! calimary Nov 2013 #46

My wife and I have foster 20 kids and adopted 2... mdavies013 Nov 2013 #5

Being an adoptee Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #19

I was adopted as an infant Marrah_G Nov 2013 #6

It does shock me that Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #10

Have not seen those threads, but could be trolls. Tigress DEM Nov 2013 #22

They're trashing the process of adoption and adoptive parents, pnwmom Nov 2013 #37

That very well may be the case Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #50

I know -- what's up with all those threads all of a sudden? pnwmom Nov 2013 #35

I can answer that. boston bean Nov 2013 #71

Adopted at birth Prism Nov 2013 #7

Something Else Indeed Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #11

Thanks Prism Nov 2013 #25

jesus i read that as amputees.. i need glasses... dionysus Nov 2013 #8

What a good thread, thank you. uppityperson Nov 2013 #9

Thank you for your appreciation Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #14

I was adopted as an infant. nt Demo_Chris Nov 2013 #12

My husband and one of his siblings were adopted at birth. winter is coming Nov 2013 #13

We finalized the adoption of our wonderful daughter six months ago this week WhollyHeretic Nov 2013 #15

Congratulations Dorian Gray Nov 2013 #74

Definitely. She has been an amazing addition to our family. WhollyHeretic Nov 2013 #82

So horribly sad Dorian Gray Nov 2013 #83

Birth parent. n/t LadyHawkAZ Nov 2013 #16

Thank You Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #21

Yeah, well... LadyHawkAZ Nov 2013 #24

I am sorry that you had a bad experience Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #53

Children are not gifts to be given. And losing a child to adoption can be quite tramatic (eom) StevieM Nov 2013 #43

Hmmmm Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #51

I am sure that many adoptive parents are indeed grateful. And many others close the adoption StevieM Nov 2013 #54

It would be a reference to being a Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #56

I am friends with a first grandmother StevieM Nov 2013 #59

Then maybe you should look into this organization Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #60

This is a good organization. Here is another good one: StevieM Nov 2013 #61

You are a charmer aren't you Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #62

I am confused. What did I do wrong? StevieM Nov 2013 #63

Sorry for what you had to go through, LadyHawkAZ. pnwmom Nov 2013 #38

Thank you LadyHawkAZ Nov 2013 #57

All my love, Lady Hawk. (eom) StevieM Nov 2013 #42

Thank you LadyHawkAZ Nov 2013 #58

Adoptive parent x 2 kiranon Nov 2013 #17

My mother was adopted; I was adopted by her second DonViejo Nov 2013 #18

My daughter adopted two little girls RebelOne Nov 2013 #20

I have three children..two natural born..one adopted chillfactor Nov 2013 #27

My folks got two foster kids when I was in High School AnotherDreamWeaver Nov 2013 #28

My husband was adopted - lynne Nov 2013 #29

Parent to several special needs kids who were adopted. Girls and boys. Beausoir Nov 2013 #30

Sister and son adopted PumpkinAle Nov 2013 #33

Welcome to DU, PumpkinAle! pnwmom Nov 2013 #41

Here! Adopted as an infant, about two weeks old, I'm told. calimary Nov 2013 #40

I remember that thread! Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #64

No worries! This was GREAT! calimary Nov 2013 #79

So as not to repeat myself... Blue_In_AK Nov 2013 #44

Thanks for this Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #65

Blue_In_AK... LadyHawkAZ Nov 2013 #69

Thanks for the thread. I'm the proud grandmother pnwmom Nov 2013 #45

My brother and I were adopted by my (step) father when my parents married. Behind the Aegis Nov 2013 #48

Support it. DeSwiss Nov 2013 #49

"We're all related anyways." Beearewhyain Nov 2013 #55

Ain't it the truth! DeSwiss Nov 2013 #67

I have one cousin with three adopted daughters and LibDemAlways Nov 2013 #52

I was adopted at two weeks old. stranger81 Nov 2013 #66

Several cousins and many friends of mine are adoptees Hekate Nov 2013 #68

Two of my children are adopted, and of a different race than mom and I. One of my favorite ... Scuba Nov 2013 #70

My wife was adopted Victor_c3 Nov 2013 #72

Adopted as an infant Dorian Gray Nov 2013 #73

We all support adoption. nt LWolf Nov 2013 #75

I was adopted 😊 enjoylife1966 Nov 2013 #76

Adoptee and adoptive parent maddezmom Nov 2013 #77

I have a couple of close friends that were adopted. HappyMe Nov 2013 #78

I was adopte as an infant B2G Nov 2013 #81