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In reply to the discussion: Adoption harms women. [View all]Blue_In_AK
(46,436 posts)I spent three months at the Methodist Home for unwed mothers in San Antonio (the cover story being that I was spending the summer with my grandparents in Florida). My parents were supportive. I was not in any way in love with the father and marriage was out of the question for me. I gave the baby up for adoption because I felt then, and still do, that it was best for all concerned. Abortions were illegal then and not something that I particularly wanted to go through having sat with a friend who went through a rather gruesome experience aborting twins. I have had no regrets about my decision and consider that I'm very well adjusted, not wracked with guilt or any other psychological issues. I do wonder sometimes how he's doing, but I am not sorry I did what I did.
Had abortions been safe and legal then, I might have considered it, but I can't be sure. Bottom line is it's a woman's choice, and no one should be made to feel guilty or "damaged" no matter what her decision.