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72. My wife was adopted

I wouldn't say I have any complex feelings about it other than I'm grateful that there are parents out there willing and eager to adopt a child.

My wife's biological mother was a coke addict and traded sex with her dealer (her biological father) for drugs. She was adopted at 3 months of age by an upward moving middle-class family and was given a chance at life that she would have never had otherwise.

There is a serious lack of knowledge out there surrounding adoption. It is incredibly hard to adopt a child in the US. My inlaws were on a waiting list for 5 years and had to go through numerous screenings and interviews before they were given the opportunity to adopt a child. Many people seem to be under the impression that you just go to whatever local orphanage or shelter, pick out your kid, and your done. At least when my inlaws were adopting my wife in the 1970s, they had to prove that they weren't able to conceive their own children.