Porn Viewing: Do you know what you're talking about?

[RainDog]

117. my one concern is boredom

I was married for a while and, while we got along in that way the whole time, sometimes I would be bored because I was familiar with him, his ways, etc. and sometimes fantasizing about some other situation would get me in the mood. not that I intended to act on it - I'm boringly monogamous, and as far as I know, so was he.

but that is a reality - of course love changes from first romance to a deeper commitment to one another and the family you create. that was the worst part about getting a divorce - the loss of my family.

I am interested in what other people are doing, sexually, because I'm interested in having fun in bed and, even before I ever had sex I read about it and looked at books that showed technique because I wanted to be able to make someone else go crazy with happiness.

others find happiness within relationships that are not monogamous - and, if they're okay with it, more power to them. sometimes I think Dan Savage's rule of "not in our hometown" would be a useful arrangement for couples.

...which brings up another interesting issue. Savage claims that most male/male relationships involve stepping out. I don't know if that's true or not, but it's interesting to see how long term relationships work for people with other orientations than my own, too.