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104. Idiotic dress codes

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Tue Nov 26, 2013, 08:41 PM

Nov 2013

We are all clones of one another. Florida Public School. Staff can wear city shorts, or capris to work. Sorry, don't want to. Long pants are fine with me. Flip flops are acceptable. No, thanks, I don't want a wheelchair running over my toes, or dropping a disabled kid I am holding while flip flopping around.

Worse, "FRIGID" weather" lol Greeting the cars and parents dressed only in long pants and long sleeved shirt in the "freezing cold" of 50 degree weather sends the "wrong" message to parents on dressing their kids for cold weather. lol I had a LOT of trouble with this. I should be wearing a PARKA, Hat, and Gloves. Um, NO. I only wore that in the North when it was below FREEZING, that is, below 32 degrees. I am not wearing those clothes when it is 20 degrees ABOVE freezing to send any "messages" to anybody.

Everybody has to be exactly the same. No, thank you. Let this girl wear her hair as is natural for her.

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African-American girl faces expulsion over 'natural hair' [View all] The Straight Story Nov 2013 OP

I wonder if this is about her hair being 'natural', Jenoch Nov 2013 #1

Her hair isn't longer or broader than what the women in the administration KitSileya Nov 2013 #5

I really don't have any idea to whom it is you refer. Jenoch Nov 2013 #13

If there are any women in the school administration, KitSileya Nov 2013 #15

Now I got it. Jenoch Nov 2013 #19

Well, that's the way her hair grows Scootaloo Nov 2013 #29

I did not read the article. Jenoch Nov 2013 #34

Well, you didn't read the article, but were fast with a "solution" Scootaloo Nov 2013 #42

I looked at the photo of the girl. Jenoch Nov 2013 #59

One solution would be not to support right wing private "Christian schools" jberryhill Nov 2013 #137

I understand your wish to not support such schools. Jenoch Nov 2013 #164

You miss the point jberryhill Nov 2013 #168

I don't know the exact motives of Jenoch Nov 2013 #195

I meant "case closed" in the colloquial sense jberryhill Nov 2013 #196

I knew what you meant. Jenoch Nov 2013 #197

Understood jberryhill Nov 2013 #200

You're right, Scootaloo! The school is using the girl's hair as a distraction TheDebbieDee Nov 2013 #145

Absolutely jberryhill Nov 2013 #158

A straight haired girl would be allowed to wear her hair loose and natural. pnwmom Nov 2013 #162

I really do not know why you are directing your comments to me. Jenoch Nov 2013 #165

Because I am answering YOU. You wondered if this was about her hair being pnwmom Nov 2013 #167

And I don't care how long this girls hair is. Jenoch Nov 2013 #194

How did I misread this: pnwmom Nov 2013 #201

Her hair is beautiful! Tansy_Gold Nov 2013 #2

School yeoman6987 Nov 2013 #10

I didn't say anything about the school Tansy_Gold Nov 2013 #12

Doesn't matter yeoman6987 Nov 2013 #20

It matters to me. n/t Tansy_Gold Nov 2013 #21

I hope you're being *intentionally* obtuse. Marr Nov 2013 #27

Hair yeoman6987 Nov 2013 #38

No, I'm saying that you're talking nonsense. Marr Nov 2013 #46

Of course it's talking nonsense, but not because Tansy_Gold Nov 2013 #48

They don't have a policy banning African American hair, pnwmom Nov 2013 #175

It does matter. Iggo Nov 2013 #30

Do they receive "charter school" money?? a kennedy Nov 2013 #52

This is OUR world, not just theirs. If you want accreditation... Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #128

School yeoman6987 Nov 2013 #130

Private schools must meet unified standards for accreditation. Gravitycollapse Nov 2013 #132

Lol jberryhill Nov 2013 #160

Free Exercise jberryhill Nov 2013 #138

Damn right. People are giving them shit, too, and they keep scrubbing the page... MADem Nov 2013 #181

ps's also have rules about stuff like this elehhhhna Nov 2013 #143

What? Didn't you know Jesus was a straight haired blond? pnwmom Nov 2013 #176

when in aramaic he's described as having hair like lamb's wool elehhhhna Nov 2013 #202

Obviously! pnwmom Nov 2013 #203

They didn't ban African American students from wearing their natural hair. pnwmom Nov 2013 #174

Her hair is beautiful and so is she. tenderfoot Nov 2013 #36

Apparently their god and their christians don't like natural things! Ugly christians again. n/t RKP5637 Nov 2013 #133

No surprise.. NastyRiffraff Nov 2013 #3

she looks adorable n/t riverwalker Nov 2013 #4

agreed lame54 Nov 2013 #11

+++ 1,000,000 +++ n/t RKP5637 Nov 2013 #134

OMG! NYC_SKP Nov 2013 #6

Goddam! That is some boss hair!!! Iggo Nov 2013 #31

Can the kids sitting behind her see the chalk board? Hassin Bin Sober Nov 2013 #39

yeah there might be a practical reason Niceguy1 Nov 2013 #86

Or, you know, sit in the last row if that's an issue. justiceischeap Nov 2013 #105

Must not... make... bus... reference... n/t bobclark86 Nov 2013 #159

Yeah, I see that now... :) nt justiceischeap Nov 2013 #184

O she's darling! ogradda Nov 2013 #182

Private school and she agreed to the rules... Decaffeinated Nov 2013 #7

Even private schools have rules to follow if they want to operate within the local laws The Straight Story Nov 2013 #8

I may have missed it... Decaffeinated Nov 2013 #67

She's being blamed for being the victim of verbal bullies. pnwmom Nov 2013 #121

First of all, her hair is lovely Boudica the Lyoness Nov 2013 #16

Mostly because of the shite example she is setting... Decaffeinated Nov 2013 #22

Um what? blogslut Nov 2013 #25

She's a black woman, so she's by definition entitled, irrational, and bitchy Scootaloo Nov 2013 #32

I see this time and time again BainsBane Nov 2013 #87

That's exactly what I just argued in another post on here, although liberalhistorian Nov 2013 #118

Aside from the fact... Decaffeinated Nov 2013 #193

In other words, she's being uppity and should know her place... ScreamingMeemie Nov 2013 #41

Well, some Democrats haven't gotten past 1964 yet n/t Scootaloo Nov 2013 #43

I would be pissed, but these antics have been allowed to stand for a few years now... Blue_Tires Nov 2013 #69

Which word confused you? Decaffeinated Nov 2013 #53

Okay. blogslut Nov 2013 #58

The shit example of being who you are, and not following the crowd LadyHawkAZ Nov 2013 #45

She is free to do all of that... Decaffeinated Nov 2013 #62

It wasn't a dress code issue until she complained of being bullied for it LadyHawkAZ Nov 2013 #107

I suggest you switch to caffeine, tough guy... Blue_Tires Nov 2013 #68

. Tansy_Gold Nov 2013 #78

Seems to me it's the parents liberalhistorian Nov 2013 #117

Entitled? gollygee Nov 2013 #135

are you going after her cause she is black, or woman? entitled? wtf? nt seabeyond Nov 2013 #171

The rule just says her hair should not be 'a distraction' muriel_volestrangler Nov 2013 #28

"Distraction" = "anything any of us dislike for any reason." It's an absolute carte blanche. (nt) Posteritatis Nov 2013 #76

Yup. My kid's hair was always a distraction to some people pnwmom Nov 2013 #163

well when we live in a world with no laws or morals or ethics, sure. La Lioness Priyanka Nov 2013 #61

Right... it must be racist... Decaffeinated Nov 2013 #63

I suspect you do not understand the policing in general of black womens hair La Lioness Priyanka Nov 2013 #74

My point is that it is not necessarily racist just because the child in question is black... Decaffeinated Nov 2013 #80

no matter where we sign up to work or go to school, we dont sign up for racism La Lioness Priyanka Nov 2013 #82

Yeah, I'm sure they raise a stink about white girls hair when they let it grow naturally RedCappedBandit Nov 2013 #91

Message auto-removed Name removed Nov 2013 #84

You need to work on your empathy and reading comprehension. liberalhistorian Nov 2013 #115

And the parents are free to go public and put the private school pnwmom Nov 2013 #120

That is our modern culture in a nutshell... Decaffeinated Nov 2013 #141

They didn't agree contractually to having their daughter pnwmom Nov 2013 #142

"way too broad to be part of a legal contract" jberryhill Nov 2013 #151

You're right of course, they can. And the parents have every right pnwmom Nov 2013 #154

I gotta believe people aren't general familiar with these schools jberryhill Nov 2013 #157

Her hair doesn't seem that bad LittleBlue Nov 2013 #9

And that's the point. Igel Nov 2013 #50

Should a redhead be forced to color her hair brown so it won't be a distraction? pnwmom Nov 2013 #155

I think she looks just great. dipsydoodle Nov 2013 #14

Her hair is beautiful gollygee Nov 2013 #17

I think she has beautiful hair. nt Demo_Chris Nov 2013 #18

My lord, I was at least expecting something pretty wild. Kurska Nov 2013 #23

I was expecting to see a mane that required it's own desk in the classroom. n/t ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2013 #40

Sounds like the school administrators don't want to deal with the real problem. blogslut Nov 2013 #24

Keep the hair, ditch the Xtian school Blue Owl Nov 2013 #26

exactly. cali Nov 2013 #35

That's the ticket. Brigid Nov 2013 #44

Yes. Iggo Nov 2013 #57

Her hair is lovely spinbaby Nov 2013 #33

I think she rocks her do and Faith Christian Academy should be ashamed. n/t ChisolmTrailDem Nov 2013 #37

As a black woman who VERY PROUDLY wears her hair natural, I am very saddened by this story. Liberal_Stalwart71 Nov 2013 #47

1) WOW, now thats a fro! 2) the administrators are imbeciles. nt dionysus Nov 2013 #49

Sly Stone and Angela Davis Le Taz Hot Nov 2013 #51

Later in life, she'll wonder why she can't keep a job. FarCenter Nov 2013 #54

Somehow doubt that's going to be as much of a problem as people fretting about it like to claim. nt Posteritatis Nov 2013 #81

WTF? treestar Nov 2013 #55

Haters gonna' hate... TeeYiYi Nov 2013 #56

She is a pretty child, and I think she would look much better quinnox Nov 2013 #60

She has a right to the style that she wants. But I too think that she is far better looking bluestate10 Nov 2013 #64

I agree she will become a beautiful adult quinnox Nov 2013 #66

That's her natural hair. LisaL Nov 2013 #152

Big hair might be in again gollygee Nov 2013 #189

Is there some reason why your personal tastes are in any way relevant BainsBane Nov 2013 #89

You will find that my personal tastes are very relevant quinnox Nov 2013 #98

This is about the child's civil rights BainsBane Nov 2013 #103

OMG, it is about a religious school and their strict standards quinnox Nov 2013 #106

well, if you wanted to raise the issue of the rights of a religious school BainsBane Nov 2013 #108

Ok, lol, but you don't know who I put on ignore and maybe sometimes I just ignore without using it, quinnox Nov 2013 #113

I think you did. BainsBane Nov 2013 #149

most black women do not have naturally sleek hair , this is alittle girl JI7 Nov 2013 #112

I think she should cut her hair, if she wants to continue to attend this fine educational quinnox Nov 2013 #114

so should someone with naturally straight hair the same length be forced to cut their hair JI7 Nov 2013 #116

Yes, if the school objects to it quinnox Nov 2013 #119

what if they only object to black hair being more than a certain length ? JI7 Nov 2013 #122

Oh boy, now I see, you really are on a fishing expedition quinnox Nov 2013 #126

Well, the satanic ritual in your basement was scheduled for 8:00 pm. kwassa Nov 2013 #161

Dude, no BainsBane Nov 2013 #150

"Lots of black women have beautiful sleek hair" xulamaude Nov 2013 #198

who gives a shit whether she is beautiful or not JI7 Nov 2013 #95

Well, you certainly don't! quinnox Nov 2013 #96

The implication is... jberryhill Nov 2013 #139

This is not racism yeoman6987 Nov 2013 #148

people grow hair differently, black girls can grow their hair the same length JI7 Nov 2013 #178

My personal opinion is that "looking good" should have nothing to do with school. n/t pnwmom Nov 2013 #124

Cool hair Go Vols Nov 2013 #65

I feel the school really had to step in, because she's frightening the natives: struggle4progress Nov 2013 #70

Do they want her to straighten it, too? Ken Burch Nov 2013 #71

The video clip at the link had the mother saying they did want it ”straightened". nt DeschutesRiver Nov 2013 #75

Well...as I said...in the South "Christian school" is still a code word. Ken Burch Nov 2013 #83

So, rather than standing up to the kids that are bullying her...the school is caving in to them... Ken Burch Nov 2013 #72

My standard reply: kiva Nov 2013 #73

Ugh, all the "well, she just needs to conform" responses. (nt) Posteritatis Nov 2013 #77

Yep. But I still love the "well, I personally believe that she would look better with shorter/ Number23 Nov 2013 #85

Some really do not care BainsBane Nov 2013 #88

Absolutely. And speaking in as general terms as I can Number23 Nov 2013 #90

I see this hair issue as about race BainsBane Nov 2013 #92

those are my fav too. nt La Lioness Priyanka Nov 2013 #101

I want to throw a pan at the heads of some of these morons. pnwmom Nov 2013 #123

Just what do you think "Christian Schools" are about? jberryhill Nov 2013 #140

Which doesn't change the fact that people are lining up in this thread to advocate it. (nt) Posteritatis Nov 2013 #185

Is There A "Book Of Moron" With These Racist "Christians" ??? WillyT Nov 2013 #79

Message auto-removed Name removed Nov 2013 #93

oh- come on, wtf 4 t 4 Nov 2013 #94

Hold on a minute, you left out it is a Christian Academy!!!!! 4 t 4 Nov 2013 #99

Update: Orlando private school won't expel African-American girl over hair DreamGypsy Nov 2013 #97

Nope just ask her not to wear her wig to class! whistler162 Nov 2013 #199

you're not helping 4 t 4 Nov 2013 #100

I don't see what the big deal about her hair is. It is pretty kind of reminds me of my wife's thick diabeticman Nov 2013 #102

Idiotic dress codes HockeyMom Nov 2013 #104

I went to school in the 60s and I rocked bigger hair than that Warpy Nov 2013 #109

Basically, they're blaming her for being bullied about her hair. pnwmom Nov 2013 #125

They want frogmarch Nov 2013 #110

It is natural! Are they asking her to use chemicals to straighten it? Glimmer of Hope Nov 2013 #111

Conforming - TBF Nov 2013 #127

Though, from what we can see, they have more rules about hair for boys than girls muriel_volestrangler Nov 2013 #136

Good points all - TBF Nov 2013 #188

She should try a Jewish school. Plenty of Jews have big hair. It's called a "Jewfro". meti57b Nov 2013 #129

Some people have too much time on their hands. Tigress DEM Nov 2013 #131

Thank you. ogradda Nov 2013 #183

The girl's hair is the school's distraction from the real issue of bullying! TheDebbieDee Nov 2013 #144

Exactly. It's victim blaming. Easier for the school than going pnwmom Nov 2013 #156

How very Christian of them! Coyotl Nov 2013 #146

The school or the parents? jberryhill Nov 2013 #169

Ooophs, forgot the sarcasm thingie. Coyotl Nov 2013 #170

Depends jberryhill Nov 2013 #172

ROFLMFAO Coyotl Nov 2013 #173

Yes, it is: 1 Corinthians 6:1-8 jberryhill Nov 2013 #191

Her hair looks fine and probably smells far better then the chemical reek some womens' hair give off Fumesucker Nov 2013 #147

Sickening racists malaise Nov 2013 #153

Beautiful girl with her own beautiful hair and obviously Cha Nov 2013 #166

Message auto-removed Name removed Nov 2013 #177

I looked up the dress code for this school jmowreader Nov 2013 #179

Just so everyone knows, there's been some movement in this story. MADem Nov 2013 #180

She is right to fight this. It is racist. Vattel Nov 2013 #186

that girl is absolutley adorable! RedstDem Nov 2013 #187

It's a teaching moment for the school Bad Thoughts Nov 2013 #190

Muslims and homosexuals are not allowed in this school jberryhill Nov 2013 #192

This is just plain stupid. Can't believe some are still so discriminatory these days. AverageJoe90 Nov 2013 #204