Is it appropriate to make your grown children fend for themselves during the holidays?

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47. I suggest keeping the plans for the brunch and..

...prepare it in a way that would make you happy. Say an opening greeting of how thankful you are to have such strong wonderful children and then with a positive handing of the torch, ask for
help with your Sunday meal. Sunday, after a great feast that others help you create suggest, in the most loving mom like way, that you look forward to Christmas but would love for one of the young ones to host the party.

I love my 29 year old son but he does not have a clue about holidays. In his teens he scoffed at me cleaning and cooking. He is bringing his fiance for dinner tomorrow. How funny if I didn't cook or clean for the event! He knows I will and in some ways, he needs it to be like the old days. They will go to his fiance's parents for Christmas. Your post has me thinking that next year I will include them in the meal preparation and holiday plan. This year they can help clear the table and begin the tradition of making the holidays happen.

I feel your frustration and wave of exhaustion. I send you love and energy and wishes for a kind and loving family day. Take a hot shower, breathe long and deep through your nose and smile at yourself in the mirror when you are done. Peace and love to you, Kim