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Cleita

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13. I never considered any child under four as responsible no

Tue Dec 17, 2013, 07:57 PM

Dec 2013

matter how bad their behavior. They really don't know any better. Sometimes there is a reason like uncomfortable clothes or a tummy ache that causes them to act up. Spanking or yelling at a child that young only scares and confuses them.

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I've got a real problem with children being described as "spoiled rotten" [View all] tina tron Dec 2013 OP

You obviously have not met some of the children I have. OffWithTheirHeads Dec 2013 #1

I suppose "entitled, narcissistic and overindulged" might be better. lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #2

overindulged maybe laundry_queen Dec 2013 #52

Lighten Up. n-t Logical Dec 2013 #3

Really? Would "overindulged precious snowflake" work? Liberal Veteran Dec 2013 #4

It's a demeaning put down tina tron Dec 2013 #12

'Scar them for life'? Talk about hyperbole... idwiyo Dec 2013 #19

+1! -nt CrispyQ Dec 2013 #48

Most of the time, parents are to blame, no argument there. Liberal Veteran Dec 2013 #26

Saying a child is spoiled rotten is an insult to the parents. I don't think for a second they're okaawhatever Dec 2013 #40

I think it can cause harm when used often and with contempt laundry_queen Dec 2013 #56

I think it's difficult to quantify or qualify the impact of an expression when the person using it okaawhatever Dec 2013 #71

No, it's not a demeaning put down. It's a description Tansy_Gold Dec 2013 #42

The expression is a criticism of the parents Yo_Mama Dec 2013 #44

And what would you call adults who exhibit similar behaviors? TBF Dec 2013 #74

Freepers and Teabaggers!! madinmaryland Dec 2013 #89

Good response! nt TBF Dec 2013 #90

OR, you've seen children whose horrible behavior has been enabled by bad parents rustydog Dec 2013 #5

That is normal behavior for very young kids -- ages 2 to 5 or so. Arugula Latte Dec 2013 #6

This and sometimes a little one just becomes tired and overwhelmed Skidmore Dec 2013 #11

Sorry, it isn't. Maybe it's normal where you live but it's sure as hell isn't here. idwiyo Dec 2013 #21

Lol if you really think tantrums are unusual for toddler/preschoolers. Arugula Latte Dec 2013 #27

LOL no kidding. laundry_queen Dec 2013 #59

Yes, it's a normal part of early childhood development. Arugula Latte Dec 2013 #66

i'm not a parent... keroro gunsou Dec 2013 #46

Change 5 to 3 and I agree with you. (nt) TacoD Dec 2013 #83

A qualifier, a 2-3 year old throwing a tantrum nadinbrzezinski Dec 2013 #8

Toddlers have tantrums because they're toddlers gollygee Dec 2013 #16

Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2013 #77

Another point on this: Arugula Latte Dec 2013 #88

People said my oldest son was spoiled RainDog Dec 2013 #7

I agree with small children. It's best to look for a reason for the behavior Cleita Dec 2013 #15

+1000 lumberjack_jeff Dec 2013 #70

Yeah. First kids get a lot more "attention" RainDog Dec 2013 #91

I would suggest ..... oldhippie Dec 2013 #9

It's not hyperbole tina tron Dec 2013 #14

WW aikoaiko Dec 2013 #10

I never considered any child under four as responsible no Cleita Dec 2013 #13

oy tjwash Dec 2013 #17

I envy you Skittles Dec 2013 #18

Yes thank you, it is. tina tron Dec 2013 #22

then you should be angry at your parents, not anyone here. Sorry that happened to you bettyellen Dec 2013 #30

I am sorry you were abused as a child nadinbrzezinski Dec 2013 #31

aah so now we have the real issue Skittles Dec 2013 #35

skittles tina tron Dec 2013 #36

wooooooooooooosh Skittles Dec 2013 #54

I have PTSD from that same exact thing Phlem Dec 2013 #37

Wait? Saying spoiled rotten is bad, but physical abuse is good? n/t Taitertots Dec 2013 #45

I know. Phlem Dec 2013 #50

This thread kind of went sideways tina tron Dec 2013 #20

Oh please! Get over it! dem in texas Dec 2013 #23

those words are aimed more towards the PArents JI7 Dec 2013 #24

I hate the term, "The way to a man's heart is thru his stomach." FSogol Dec 2013 #25

on hearing that line the boss at home adds, no its through the breastbone loli phabay Dec 2013 #85

I've heard the term "spoiled rotten" many times but, I've never known anyone to interpreter the term ladjf Dec 2013 #28

I have a niece Jenoch Dec 2013 #29

Rarely does anyone actually say this directly to children Trajan Dec 2013 #32

I agree. elleng Dec 2013 #33

What other terms should we use for the little demons? CFLDem Dec 2013 #34

You do know people don't throw spoiled rotten kids in the trash....right??? ileus Dec 2013 #38

Then how do you explain the thousands of homeless minor youth on the streets Bluenorthwest Dec 2013 #81

I've got a 7 year old second grader and she's the best. Phlem Dec 2013 #39

Also, we do parents night out with some neighbors and Phlem Dec 2013 #60

A million times this ^^^^ laundry_queen Dec 2013 #62

Thanks my friend. Phlem Dec 2013 #64

Can you be my mom/dad? BrotherIvan Dec 2013 #65

Thanks bud Phlem Dec 2013 #68

I don't know what possessed you to step into this? dballance Dec 2013 #41

I see it as a vindictive against the Parents. jazzimov Dec 2013 #43

The fact that they are a child does not endow them with an unassailable innocence... Decaffeinated Dec 2013 #47

"Ruined by their parents" Phlem Dec 2013 #49

The Oompa Loompa know all about that. Liberal Veteran Dec 2013 #53

Nice catch! Phlem Dec 2013 #57

A lot is genetics, siblings, classmates, teachers, friends, peer groups, etc. FarCenter Dec 2013 #80

True Phlem Dec 2013 #86

I use the phrase BlueToTheBone Dec 2013 #51

Oh for God's sake.... ProudToBeBlueInRhody Dec 2013 #55

#gruntspeak Liberal Veteran Dec 2013 #58

"Duckspeak" from 1984 deutsey Dec 2013 #84

So what? Vashta Nerada Dec 2013 #61

Good point. Also, calling a child "spoiled rotten" implies Ken Burch Dec 2013 #63

It certainly does have consequences. Kids are labeled very early in life as trouble makers, and liberal_at_heart Dec 2013 #69

you have to remember there is a subset of DUers who wish the human species would just stop liberal_at_heart Dec 2013 #67

What else are you supposed to besides tolerate them? Decaffeinated Dec 2013 #72

It's more a comment on the adult's HappyMe Dec 2013 #73

I don't. Iggo Dec 2013 #75

Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2013 #76

... Puglover Dec 2013 #78

I had a brother-in-law(now ex) who used to call me and my sibs "the three spoiled brats." raccoon Dec 2013 #79

God does make bad children FatBuddy Dec 2013 #82

I'll have to say Phlem Dec 2013 #87