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[Shankapotomus]

30. I think I missed addressing

the dilemma posed in your question in my first response so I'm going to try to answer at a deeper level.

If I got this right, what I missed in addressing your question originally was that the man CONTRIBUTED to the process of making a baby so why doesn't he have a say, correct?

I think you may find what follows a more complete answer than my first. I'll keep it simple.

Suppose, just for argument's sake, it takes two people to bake a pie? Him and Her. Now in the first step of making the pie, both him and her contributed the ingredients and mixed them together. In other words, they both voluntarily PREPARED the pie for baking. But, as with any joint activities between people, for that activity to be complete there has to be an unbroken chain of voluntary participation by both parties throughout the process. If one of either party elects to bow out at any stage of the process, that is their right, and the process stops there. This applies to any joint activity between people. There's nothing that says just because someone started an activity with you or initiated a process that they must finish it. As with any transaction, a person may elect to cease participation at any time. As in the case of the pie, if the person who helped you mix the ingredients decides not to help you put the pie in the oven, the pie doesn't get baked.

So this goes back to my original answer, only slightly modified, regarding joint participation in any activity. If your wife doesn't want to FINISH an activity with you, she shouldn't be compelled to do so.

Looking at it from your side, if you agree to engage in intimacy with your wife, should you be compelled to follow that process through to conception? Not if you don't want to.