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[2naSalit]

81. Perhaps a pet?

Sorry but maybe you could find other pursuits that will require similar time, commitment and passion but not include bringing another human into it. I suspect that, maybe, being ready to be a parent could be a passing desire that cannot be undone if the desire passes after the fact. Maybe you could ask yourself what it is that makes you feel that you are ready to be a parent and how you plan to deal with unexpected/unforeseen issues (birth defects/political or environmental upheavals that make being responsible for others extremely difficult) that would make being a parent a major detriment to your life and happiness with your wife... aside from her lack of desire to be the bearer of children - remember, if something happens to you, she ends up having to take sole responsibility and that's a pretty tough sentence even in first world countries.

Personally, I wonder how people can even consider bringing another person into this world in which we now exist, it's not like the child has a choice, you would be responsible for bringing them here into a world of turmoil and continuously declining availability of basic needs like clean air, potable water, nutritious food, shelter, safety... you can no longer guarantee those things, even for you and your wife over the course of your lifetime. Maybe she feels this way and doesn't want the karma that goes with making such decisions for another person and then be responsible for them as well (and that's aside from all the physical issues of child-bearing).

Just a thought.