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In reply to the discussion: I Look Down on Young Women With Husbands and Kids and I'm Not Sorry [View all]Many spouses are financially abusive of the non working spouse. I just turned down a good job making more than my significant other. I have kept up my job skills over the last few years that I've been off the market and kept up with my former coworkers so that I'll have references. I don't like asking him for money, because I've never not worked for my own money. He's been kinda stingy over the years so I told him last month that I'm going back to work. Now that I got a couple of job offers ( selling insurance ) he has no problem offering me money.
I will never depend on somebody else to take care of business for me ever again. People get real shitty when they think they have power over you. I did tentatively accept an offer this week, at Allstate, starting once I pass my exam. I'll never get over him treating me like a child as far as money is concerned. It pisses me off because I usually make more than him and was never like that when I was head of household and he needed me to pay most of the bills when he was out of work. It's amazing how generous he is now that I told him to keep his money and fuck off he can stay at home with the kids if he doesn't want a sitter or daycare, I'm going back to work.
I learned a valuable lesson on how people are. I'm glad. I needed a good dose of reality.