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Squinch

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165. It has never occurred to me to look for places on the net with a good child free presence, because
Fri Jan 31, 2014, 01:21 PM
Jan 2014

I don't even know what that means. So I can't help you there.

Who says that everyone should be trying to be exceptional? pnwmom Jan 2014 #1
To my children, my wife IS pretty exceptional. Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #4
Saying something is not exceptional is very different from saying something is not important. Squinch Jan 2014 #142
It depends on the definition of 'exceptional.' Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #146
Of course there are the semantics, but I think pnwmom's point is also an interesting one: Squinch Jan 2014 #149
History strongly suggests this blog poster will die and be forgotten. Barack_America Jan 2014 #10
over a long enough timeline arely staircase Jan 2014 #91
she's basically saying that career is more important hfojvt Jan 2014 #54
learning to read class language brisas2k Jan 2014 #129
I noticed that also. Lunacee_2013 Feb 2014 #252
Excellent point -- class snark. "Only MDs or PhDs count" anneboleyn Feb 2014 #255
exactly. magical thyme Jan 2014 #102
staying home cvoogt Jan 2014 #2
I will argue that staying home more than a few years is pretty unwise in this era... Adrahil Jan 2014 #118
True cvoogt Jan 2014 #137
I was a "stay at home" mom for our three daughters from 1985 through 1999. phylny Feb 2014 #260
Congratulations... Adrahil Feb 2014 #262
No need for congratulations, it's just my story. I do know & agree that there are lots of scenarios phylny Feb 2014 #268
Oh boy ... 1000words Jan 2014 #3
I hate being a stay at home mom. bravenak Jan 2014 #5
"Some women aren't into babies and weddings and homemaking. I'm not. I hate it." Jenoch Jan 2014 #9
Didn't get married. No wedding. Still resisting that one. bravenak Jan 2014 #19
Our oldest is autistic, non-verbal. 20 years old now. Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #24
It's very hard. bravenak Jan 2014 #31
may I ask Skittles Jan 2014 #35
Pretty much non-verbal. Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #37
whenever I look at childhood photos of me and my brothers Skittles Jan 2014 #41
Yeah, family photos are always a treat. Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #49
I think here my brother made him look at the camera Skittles Jan 2014 #52
That is an insanely cute bunch. Squinch Jan 2014 #145
Good luck to to. Jenoch Jan 2014 #25
Thank you. bravenak Jan 2014 #32
Hey, it's not for everyone! calimary Jan 2014 #196
This is the best post I have read today. bravenak Jan 2014 #209
Thanks, elleng Jan 2014 #11
Your welcome. bravenak Jan 2014 #20
Don't feel guilty. Everyone has different strengths, different talents. Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #21
I look forward to aquiring that patience like your wife. bravenak Jan 2014 #27
I like to think I'm responsible. She had to develop patience to not kill me Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #30
Good one! bravenak Jan 2014 #36
Why did you have children then? If I felt that way the solution is simple, don't have any children. sabrina 1 Jan 2014 #51
I love having children. I don't love feeling trapped at home. bravenak Jan 2014 #56
Thanks for being totally honest about your experiences, especialy in the face of such unsympatheitc bettyellen Jan 2014 #180
Judging without experience is for conservatives. bravenak Jan 2014 #213
very well said- and looking fwd to hearing about your next chapter! bettyellen Jan 2014 #217
Thank you, bettyellen. You spared me from having to say something myself Number23 Jan 2014 #243
you are welcome. I absolutely get why you hesitate to engage some here. bettyellen Jan 2014 #249
Hugs Stargazer09 Jan 2014 #189
Thank you. bravenak Jan 2014 #212
Do you say the same to men who don't want to be stay at home parents? gollygee Jan 2014 #87
Exactly. I feel like it's 1950 up in here, LOL. That is some regressive BS, right there. Simple is bettyellen Jan 2014 #183
Sabrina, you can have children and not be a stay at home mom... did you mean to ask this question? uponit7771 Jan 2014 #133
very sad to see that needs to be pointed out- and here of all places. Shameful. bettyellen Jan 2014 #191
We're all so different, brave.. built to Cha Jan 2014 #78
I will and I have been enjoying just being with my kids. bravenak Jan 2014 #81
It's such a huge responsibility! Cha Jan 2014 #82
Not for the faint of heart. bravenak Jan 2014 #83
You are wonderful. Your daughter is lucky to have you. Number23 Jan 2014 #244
Thank you. bravenak Jan 2014 #245
Honey, NObody knows what they're doing....... Amaril Jan 2014 #166
You made me laugh so hard!! bravenak Jan 2014 #170
I love this post. And as a mother of two myself, I couldn't agree more Number23 Jan 2014 #246
I'm a full time stay at home dad. davepc Jan 2014 #85
Right on. bravenak Jan 2014 #86
staying home isn't for everyone. ejpoeta Jan 2014 #98
You are so spot on. bravenak Jan 2014 #113
You do what you are supposed to, work, take care of yourself and the kids ejpoeta Feb 2014 #269
So don't be home! Adrahil Jan 2014 #120
I live in alaska. bravenak Jan 2014 #122
Good Luck! ... Adrahil Jan 2014 #123
Thank you!! bravenak Jan 2014 #127
The local fast food places Stargazer09 Jan 2014 #193
I wish you the best. bettyellen Jan 2014 #190
Thank you! bravenak Jan 2014 #205
Flexibity is key to feeling like you are treated as a human being. I have flextime situation right bettyellen Jan 2014 #207
The workday hours don't always work. bravenak Jan 2014 #210
Motherhood is not for every woman.. HipChick Jan 2014 #6
No, of course it isn't. But it's not a lesser choice for those who want to pursue it. nt Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #39
Of course its not ... etherealtruth Feb 2014 #265
An inferior lifestyle is a life spent not doing what you want. Barack_America Jan 2014 #7
I think that's a great way of putting it..."a life spent not doing what you want" Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #13
Yes and what drives these hyper-competitive types?..Why do they need to be "better" whathehell Jan 2014 #58
it is an unfortunate world view- the zero sum game. and as many Moms have that attitude as coworkers bettyellen Jan 2014 #211
It's most unfortunate..I'm an old hippie from the '60s and whathehell Feb 2014 #264
+ eleventy thousand. Squinch Jan 2014 #151
She's a fool. elleng Jan 2014 #8
A choice is a choice is a choice LadyHawkAZ Jan 2014 #12
That IS the whole point--thank you MissMillie Jan 2014 #105
Preach it, sister! Nuclear Unicorn Jan 2014 #241
There's so much wrong with that, it's hard to know where to begin frazzled Jan 2014 #14
Right on. mainer Jan 2014 #90
She's being too provocative. TheMathieu Jan 2014 #15
Agreed customerserviceguy Jan 2014 #88
Everybody criticizes her because she spoke against an accepted social trublu992 Jan 2014 #16
Good post 1000words Jan 2014 #46
live your life according to who you are and be kind enough not to judge someone who made liberal_at_heart Jan 2014 #48
Amen trublu992 JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #126
Of course live your life--but don't criticize how others live theirs frazzled Jan 2014 #132
It's based off a false premise. ZombieHorde Jan 2014 #17
Are there social anthropologist zombies? Rex Jan 2014 #22
Aren't all social anthroplogists zombies? nt ZombieHorde Jan 2014 #40
I think they approach discovering the human brain Rex Jan 2014 #42
Hehe. nt ZombieHorde Jan 2014 #45
I guess it depends on who's DNA is more important ? Corgigal Jan 2014 #18
Thoughtcatalog is about anything but kcr Jan 2014 #23
I hadn't heard of it until I came across this. Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #26
It just seems to be nothing but deliberately provocative trolling kcr Jan 2014 #34
Oh, yeah, I remember that one! Warren DeMontague Jan 2014 #65
Yes. It hovers slightly below Delaware's Technical College newspaper. Luminous Animal Jan 2014 #43
Judging women for the choices they have made. geek tragedy Jan 2014 #28
she's wrong Skittles Jan 2014 #29
I think I need you to kick some life choice-trashing ass. nt Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #33
I hear it's trendy to have it all for young women now flamingdem Jan 2014 #38
Not here... HipChick Jan 2014 #44
why do we feel everyone HAS to want kids. ejpoeta Jan 2014 #107
I hope you are joking. Luminous Animal Jan 2014 #66
That sounds like my definition of hell... DeadLetterOffice Feb 2014 #254
Sounds like an judgmental person who doesn't know what it takes to raise a family. liberal_at_heart Jan 2014 #47
'The Hand That Rocks The Cradle Rules The World'! sabrina 1 Jan 2014 #50
"The most important job in the world is to raise the future generation. " defacto7 Jan 2014 #68
+1000!! And anyone who says it's not "work" to stay at home and raise a family SomethingFishy Jan 2014 #144
A follow-up post from Amy Glass (whoever she is) Common Sense Party Jan 2014 #53
She sounds like Abq_Sarah Jan 2014 #70
She sounds very 'childfree'. nt cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #77
I'm child free and would never spout the crap she is spouting. To me she just sounds Squinch Jan 2014 #154
Maybe I just meet the bad apples cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #156
And I have certainly been acquainted with groups that were very critical of Squinch Jan 2014 #160
I have met people who are very critical cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #163
It has never occurred to me to look for places on the net with a good child free presence, because Squinch Jan 2014 #165
Fair enough. cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #171
Again, I don't know what "childfree ideas" are. I also don't see those women who Squinch Jan 2014 #176
Again, fair enough. cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #184
And you assumed that all women who are child free think this way? Squinch Jan 2014 #187
It seems that I did. cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #195
Seriously, I have no idea what you are talking about. "CFdom?" My not having children Squinch Jan 2014 #197
Well yes, that is the point. cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #203
I'm familiar with one JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #227
Anyway, more importantly cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #208
Some need their 15 minutes of fame so badly ... Yo_Mama Jan 2014 #55
this eShirl Jan 2014 #69
You've nailed it perfectly RFKHumphreyObama Jan 2014 #234
Precisely! nt Union Scribe Feb 2014 #258
A lot of men romanticize fatherhood Aerows Jan 2014 #57
She's a troll. Just walk on by, stifling a yawn Warpy Jan 2014 #59
Warpy's giving us pearls, here. 1000words Jan 2014 #64
Oh sure you can be a cog in the corporate machine indie9197 Jan 2014 #60
So what she is saying laundry_queen Jan 2014 #61
She's trollin' like a boss. Warren DeMontague Jan 2014 #62
Sounds like an extremely naive young woman who has a lot to learn about life. last1standing Jan 2014 #63
When I was younger -- Nuclear Unicorn Jan 2014 #242
As a woman who decided not to have children, Le Taz Hot Jan 2014 #67
She may think she's a feminist, but look at what she's doing cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #71
She's also devaluing women's work BainsBane Jan 2014 #72
I mean, it sounds like she's totally internalized every cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #75
This moron took it a step further and doubled down in her latest post joeglow3 Jan 2014 #143
I just saw. Yikes. I take back what I said about her being a feminist. cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #153
Fair enough. Poor choice of words. Sorry. joeglow3 Jan 2014 #155
Thank you so much for the apology! cinnabonbon Jan 2014 #158
This message was self-deleted by its author Agschmid Jan 2014 #192
First of all, I did NOT call another DU'er a moron joeglow3 Jan 2014 #199
I think that joeglow3 was HappyMe Jan 2014 #200
+100 JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #229
Great post. nt TBF Jan 2014 #94
She's an anti-feminist, actually. A defeatist. pnwmom Jan 2014 #73
I thought feminism was all about unlocking women from a forced path. Barack_America Jan 2014 #223
I know a family that worked very well for. pnwmom Jan 2014 #228
The problem is not staying at home, the problem is perpetual dependency. redgreenandblue Jan 2014 #74
I think this is fine... sendero Jan 2014 #76
I am stuck on the "exceptional" part. MadrasT Jan 2014 #79
Both of my sisters are wives and moms... a la izquierda Jan 2014 #80
Holier than thou... Lost_Count Jan 2014 #84
I was a mom, and then I got a career in later life mainer Jan 2014 #89
Personally I think she is full of herself TBF Jan 2014 #92
well, as a stay at home mom I suppose I am biased. ejpoeta Jan 2014 #93
I actually like laundry - TBF Jan 2014 #95
Yay, laundry! It's a stress reliever mainer Jan 2014 #96
we all have our things. I don't iron. Hate it. I don't mind doing laundry myself ejpoeta Jan 2014 #100
Yeah, it is a fucking shame that 3 billion years of evolution have made females into mothers. CBGLuthier Jan 2014 #97
This is the DUMBEST argument out there!!!!!! mstinamotorcity2 Jan 2014 #99
Being a father is more important to me than anything ... dawg Jan 2014 #101
And if she's never had kids, then how can she compare? mainer Jan 2014 #106
It's poorly worded JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #103
This person... deathrind Jan 2014 #104
Clueless Red Knight Jan 2014 #108
Well, at least she's not one of those people who act like their pets are the same as children alcibiades_mystery Jan 2014 #109
Unknown Feminist Blogger Amy Glass Amazingly Trolls Entire World with Anti-Mom Screed muriel_volestrangler Jan 2014 #110
Your question misses the point. LWolf Jan 2014 #111
This is beautiful JustAnotherGen Jan 2014 #112
Yep. bravenak Jan 2014 #115
Excellent points in this post LadyHawkAZ Jan 2014 #164
THANK YOU LWOLF! She did specify YOUNG mothers, redqueen Jan 2014 #174
Is this another "Do as I say, or you're a sheep" blog? Dash87 Jan 2014 #114
Wow, does she ever sound like a jerk.... Adrahil Jan 2014 #116
As a man married to a successful woman and have made a family together I say Boom Sound 416 Jan 2014 #117
A lame attempt at self-justification at the expense of others. MineralMan Jan 2014 #119
Good grief! HappyMe Jan 2014 #121
I have been incredibly fortunate abelenkpe Jan 2014 #124
Whatever happened to respecting others' life decisions? Paladin Jan 2014 #125
+1 n/t KarenS Jan 2014 #128
Many stay at home mothers are ashamed because of people like Amy Glass LittleBlue Jan 2014 #130
Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2014 #173
First you post an OP how black men are ashamed to be black in the AA forum, now women are? WOW. bettyellen Jan 2014 #216
I knew it! LittleBlue Jan 2014 #219
No one is defending your shame based crap- not even you. It's pretty transparent. bettyellen Jan 2014 #220
What are you still doing here? LittleBlue Jan 2014 #221
I have no idea WTF you are taking about, and I'm pretty sure that you don't either. Shame, that. bettyellen Jan 2014 #222
It's a shame you defend the author who is bashing mothers LittleBlue Jan 2014 #224
You were the one positing that young mothers (like black men- according to your OP) are ashamed.... bettyellen Jan 2014 #226
You ashamed, bro? LittleBlue Jan 2014 #230
you post about african american men, and now moms being ashamed.Happily your suggestion was rejected bettyellen Jan 2014 #231
You have misread that. Betty ellen was not defending the author. Squinch Jan 2014 #232
not at all, I was actually just commenting on this "shame" nonsense. because it seems like these bettyellen Jan 2014 #233
And it's a little incomprehensible how he read that as you defending the article, but Squinch Jan 2014 #235
it is just deflecting. bettyellen Jan 2014 #238
"Shame, my patooty." Squinch Jan 2014 #239
Can't say pipi_k Jan 2014 #131
I don't look down on anyone. lapislzi Jan 2014 #134
well, she makes the point that motherhood is an average decision La Lioness Priyanka Jan 2014 #135
Some women do not have the choice at all, in either direction. lapislzi Jan 2014 #138
yes, and I think it's an interesting thing to consider that for many women, their passage from bettyellen Jan 2014 #188
I'm a child free single woman over thirty. Sylvarose Jan 2014 #136
I would love to be a stay-at-home mom LibertyLover Jan 2014 #139
Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2014 #140
If you choose to raise a child, then fine. That is certainly an important thing to do. But Squinch Jan 2014 #159
Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 2014 #168
It is nice that you put raising children at the top of the important job list. But others do not, Squinch Jan 2014 #175
welcome to DU! renate Jan 2014 #167
Childfree, so yeah...worked for me, not for everyone n/t PasadenaTrudy Jan 2014 #141
Astonishing quote from her post: mainer Jan 2014 #147
Amy Glass wrote just the month before that a wife/Mom shares the biggest burden of raising the kids Blue Diadem Jan 2014 #148
OK. I think "Amy Glass" doesn't exist, except as a publicity troll mainer Jan 2014 #150
Quite possible (probable) etherealtruth Jan 2014 #152
Yep. I'd bet money on it. Squinch Jan 2014 #161
Looks like we both might have been wrong. See Arugula Latte's post #225. She exists! Squinch Jan 2014 #236
I've done many things in my life Brainstormy Jan 2014 #157
Flame bait - not the OP, the author of the piece. kiva Jan 2014 #162
"How many posters on this thread have proceeded to diminish women who do not have children?" El_Johns Jan 2014 #177
Nah. There have been a couple. But only one or two, and as a Squinch Jan 2014 #179
Wow. Did your computer glitch and take you to another thread while you blinked? kcr Feb 2014 #256
Is Ms. Glass saying that being "exceptional" in the professional world cry baby Jan 2014 #169
No matter what, SOMEONE has to do the dishes! Every job is impoortant. That is why all should grahamhgreen Jan 2014 #172
Just a Different Version of Ann Coulter dem in texas Jan 2014 #178
Fuck up at your job, it can cause a problem. Fuck up when you raise a child, riqster Jan 2014 #181
Well that really depends on the job. nessa Jan 2014 #185
What a pompous ass! MoonRiver Jan 2014 #182
It's hard to say Stargazer09 Jan 2014 #186
If only Amy Glass's mother had believed as she does...n/t Comrade Grumpy Jan 2014 #194
I'd say that my mother managed to be a career woman Arkana Jan 2014 #198
A blogger who decries "word play"... Orsino Jan 2014 #201
She is right in some of her points, even if they are rudely stated. IdaBriggs Jan 2014 #202
I think it's a dangerous choice Demobrat Jan 2014 #204
Nothing in life is usually perfect and the right thing for everyone. This, is one of those RKP5637 Jan 2014 #206
EGADS! Some individual within a huge equality movement has some incorrect ideas! Stop equality! stevenleser Jan 2014 #214
Marie Curie, Elizabeth Gaskell, Indira Ghandi, Margaret Thatcher, Hillary Clinton, JK Rowling Donald Ian Rankin Jan 2014 #215
If women have to choose a career or children it's an unequal world abelenkpe Jan 2014 #218
I googled her and she looks rather young. Arugula Latte Jan 2014 #225
I'l respond on FB as I will use words I can't use here and will RiffRandell Jan 2014 #237
I agree with this article. Vashta Nerada Jan 2014 #240
What parts do you agree with? Common Sense Party Feb 2014 #259
I look down on people who look down on other's career choices. This includes parenthood. uppityperson Jan 2014 #247
This person apparently doesn't believe in to each her/his own. People are crazy in their judgments lonestarnot Jan 2014 #248
Working in the home is only "inferior" because it's unpaid. Waiting For Everyman Jan 2014 #250
Seconded! I still don't know how we ever came to some women believing this tripe about... Shandris Feb 2014 #253
I have no husband or children and don't really want them, but Lunacee_2013 Feb 2014 #251
This seems very much like a backlash against fundamentalism jmowreader Feb 2014 #257
I don't know who Amy Glass is and I don't give a shit what she thinks. nt Ilsa Feb 2014 #261
What snobbery. OnionPatch Feb 2014 #263
I understand her viewpoint leftyladyfrommo Feb 2014 #266
amy glass is nasty piece of work. elehhhhna Feb 2014 #267
The first sentence of the last paragraph you quoted is a non sequitur. Orsino Feb 2014 #270
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