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In reply to the discussion: I Look Down on Young Women With Husbands and Kids and I'm Not Sorry [View all]bettyellen
(47,209 posts)183. Exactly. I feel like it's 1950 up in here, LOL. That is some regressive BS, right there. Simple is
right, although not in the way I believe it was intended.
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Common Sense Party
Jan 2014
OP
Saying something is not exceptional is very different from saying something is not important.
Squinch
Jan 2014
#142
Of course there are the semantics, but I think pnwmom's point is also an interesting one:
Squinch
Jan 2014
#149
I will argue that staying home more than a few years is pretty unwise in this era...
Adrahil
Jan 2014
#118
No need for congratulations, it's just my story. I do know & agree that there are lots of scenarios
phylny
Feb 2014
#268
Don't feel guilty. Everyone has different strengths, different talents.
Common Sense Party
Jan 2014
#21
I like to think I'm responsible. She had to develop patience to not kill me
Common Sense Party
Jan 2014
#30
Why did you have children then? If I felt that way the solution is simple, don't have any children.
sabrina 1
Jan 2014
#51
Thanks for being totally honest about your experiences, especialy in the face of such unsympatheitc
bettyellen
Jan 2014
#180
Exactly. I feel like it's 1950 up in here, LOL. That is some regressive BS, right there. Simple is
bettyellen
Jan 2014
#183
Sabrina, you can have children and not be a stay at home mom... did you mean to ask this question?
uponit7771
Jan 2014
#133
very sad to see that needs to be pointed out- and here of all places. Shameful.
bettyellen
Jan 2014
#191
Flexibity is key to feeling like you are treated as a human being. I have flextime situation right
bettyellen
Jan 2014
#207
No, of course it isn't. But it's not a lesser choice for those who want to pursue it. nt
Common Sense Party
Jan 2014
#39
I think that's a great way of putting it..."a life spent not doing what you want"
Common Sense Party
Jan 2014
#13
Yes and what drives these hyper-competitive types?..Why do they need to be "better"
whathehell
Jan 2014
#58
it is an unfortunate world view- the zero sum game. and as many Moms have that attitude as coworkers
bettyellen
Jan 2014
#211
live your life according to who you are and be kind enough not to judge someone who made
liberal_at_heart
Jan 2014
#48
Sounds like an judgmental person who doesn't know what it takes to raise a family.
liberal_at_heart
Jan 2014
#47
+1000!! And anyone who says it's not "work" to stay at home and raise a family
SomethingFishy
Jan 2014
#144
I'm child free and would never spout the crap she is spouting. To me she just sounds
Squinch
Jan 2014
#154
It has never occurred to me to look for places on the net with a good child free presence, because
Squinch
Jan 2014
#165
Again, I don't know what "childfree ideas" are. I also don't see those women who
Squinch
Jan 2014
#176
Seriously, I have no idea what you are talking about. "CFdom?" My not having children
Squinch
Jan 2014
#197
Sounds like an extremely naive young woman who has a lot to learn about life.
last1standing
Jan 2014
#63
The problem is not staying at home, the problem is perpetual dependency.
redgreenandblue
Jan 2014
#74
we all have our things. I don't iron. Hate it. I don't mind doing laundry myself
ejpoeta
Jan 2014
#100
Yeah, it is a fucking shame that 3 billion years of evolution have made females into mothers.
CBGLuthier
Jan 2014
#97
Well, at least she's not one of those people who act like their pets are the same as children
alcibiades_mystery
Jan 2014
#109
Unknown Feminist Blogger Amy Glass Amazingly Trolls Entire World with Anti-Mom Screed
muriel_volestrangler
Jan 2014
#110
As a man married to a successful woman and have made a family together I say
Boom Sound 416
Jan 2014
#117
First you post an OP how black men are ashamed to be black in the AA forum, now women are? WOW.
bettyellen
Jan 2014
#216
No one is defending your shame based crap- not even you. It's pretty transparent.
bettyellen
Jan 2014
#220
I have no idea WTF you are taking about, and I'm pretty sure that you don't either. Shame, that.
bettyellen
Jan 2014
#222
You were the one positing that young mothers (like black men- according to your OP) are ashamed....
bettyellen
Jan 2014
#226
you post about african american men, and now moms being ashamed.Happily your suggestion was rejected
bettyellen
Jan 2014
#231
not at all, I was actually just commenting on this "shame" nonsense. because it seems like these
bettyellen
Jan 2014
#233
And it's a little incomprehensible how he read that as you defending the article, but
Squinch
Jan 2014
#235
yes, and I think it's an interesting thing to consider that for many women, their passage from
bettyellen
Jan 2014
#188
If you choose to raise a child, then fine. That is certainly an important thing to do. But
Squinch
Jan 2014
#159
It is nice that you put raising children at the top of the important job list. But others do not,
Squinch
Jan 2014
#175
Amy Glass wrote just the month before that a wife/Mom shares the biggest burden of raising the kids
Blue Diadem
Jan 2014
#148
Looks like we both might have been wrong. See Arugula Latte's post #225. She exists!
Squinch
Jan 2014
#236
"How many posters on this thread have proceeded to diminish women who do not have children?"
El_Johns
Jan 2014
#177
No matter what, SOMEONE has to do the dishes! Every job is impoortant. That is why all should
grahamhgreen
Jan 2014
#172
Nothing in life is usually perfect and the right thing for everyone. This, is one of those
RKP5637
Jan 2014
#206
EGADS! Some individual within a huge equality movement has some incorrect ideas! Stop equality!
stevenleser
Jan 2014
#214
Marie Curie, Elizabeth Gaskell, Indira Ghandi, Margaret Thatcher, Hillary Clinton, JK Rowling
Donald Ian Rankin
Jan 2014
#215
I look down on people who look down on other's career choices. This includes parenthood.
uppityperson
Jan 2014
#247
This person apparently doesn't believe in to each her/his own. People are crazy in their judgments
lonestarnot
Jan 2014
#248
Seconded! I still don't know how we ever came to some women believing this tripe about...
Shandris
Feb 2014
#253