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45. I've stayed out of the Woody/Mia/Dylan/Soon-Yi threads completely. Hidden them actually

But I'll comment here.

My husband's oldest sister Terrie had a fling with her father's best friend when she was 19 years old. He was 39 divorced but with children - they all went on family vacations together etc. In fact her father was involved in many business dealings with his best friend. Everyone close as close as can be. Max had changed Terrie's diapers and been involved in every last bit of her life as "one of the family".

So clearly a "father figure" in every respect to Terrie.

When it was discovered, there was horror, shock, outrage. They broke it off and went separate ways for 20 years. Shamed by everyone. She took off for CA, as far from NY and her family and her love as she could get. Married (unhappily), had children, divorced. Estranged from her father and all the nattering nabobs of negativity.

They reconnected at her father's funeral and discovered they were still madly in love. Terrie was sooo scared to tell everyone that she and Max were done living a lie and were going to get married and live openly together. Screw the social conventions.

They've now been married for 20 years. Crazy in love with each other and grieving that they let others' get in the way of their lives, social convention, church etc. Max is now pushing 80 and they adore every last minute together.

I say "run" to happiness. You only get one life and if you find your love, RUN to them. Don't let anyone or anything stand in your way including age differences (as long as they are consenting adults).

I also know several pairs of first cousins who've married (none of them have children by choice).

The heart is a strange thing. There's no rhyme nor reason there. Age differences melt away and you're just left with two people who love each other.