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Skittles

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121. I know I am an outlier but

Wed Mar 5, 2014, 04:07 PM

Mar 2014

I *NEVER* measured my self-esteem based on how many guys found me worthy - learn to enjoy your own company to "keep your spirits up"

I would not want to be the "hot 20 year old" I was again - I much more value the experience I have now!

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It's let's humiliate women day :-) [View all] BBR Esq Mar 2014 OP

Women in the media have a hard time aging no matter how they handle it gollygee Mar 2014 #1

You think it's so easy for women NOT in the media? Demeter Mar 2014 #16

Didn't say that gollygee Mar 2014 #31

You are right and I think we women can counter that. Decline societies definitions of us. tavalon Mar 2014 #64

what an astounding heart filled... celebratory awesome post. lol. you go, woman. seabeyond Mar 2014 #68

May I just say, I think you are a beautiful woman...wonderful story of true empowerment. Drew Richards Mar 2014 #100

Hell yeah! bravenak Mar 2014 #101

I LOVE this post! Spazito Mar 2014 #107

would you consider posting this as its own OP so that we can rec it?? niyad Mar 2014 #108

Best Post Of The Year. I don't care if it is just March. Tavalon! Testify! Tuesday Afternoon Mar 2014 #122

When you turn 50 as a woman, you become invisible fasttense Mar 2014 #41

It's like losing a special power, I think. JNelson6563 Mar 2014 #48

Yeah, I was kind of thinking that fasttense Mar 2014 #99

That's one of my favorite parts about being 50 tavalon Mar 2014 #66

Welcome to aging AgingAmerican Mar 2014 #88

I've been married to the same woman for more than a couple of decades. She's well over 50, and ... 11 Bravo Mar 2014 #102

You are a pearl among men Demeter Mar 2014 #104

Love is blind. n/t fasttense Mar 2014 #118

who cares? Skittles Mar 2014 #113

It's like being that kid in high school that everyone called a nasty name. fasttense Mar 2014 #119

I know I am an outlier but Skittles Mar 2014 #121

thank you bbr and gollygee for the two perspectives. it is sad. i really think, so sad. nt seabeyond Mar 2014 #2

That THIS guy would criticize anyone's looks... BBR Esq Mar 2014 #4

oh goddess, i so know. i mean. i see the ugliest criticizing women. and i really do not seabeyond Mar 2014 #5

Yup. Like Rush Limbaugh saying Michelle Obama has a big butt. SunSeeker Mar 2014 #45

yes. and these men have gotta know what fools they sound. and they do not care. they gotta know.. seabeyond Mar 2014 #51

I would rather HAVE a ... 3catwoman3 Mar 2014 #57

I thought the whole thing was rather sad JustAnotherGen Mar 2014 #3

Used the insecure ones and destroyed them. BBR Esq Mar 2014 #6

Hollywood stinks of "Dirty Laundry." Some like to sniff it. Eleanors38 Mar 2014 #7

How wonderful that we've got it down to one day! WhiteTara Mar 2014 #8

Thank you. BBR Esq Mar 2014 #9

See you around! This is a great WhiteTara Mar 2014 #11

Thanks again. BBR Esq Mar 2014 #14

I think women are treated dreadfully by Hollywood. sibelian Mar 2014 #10

Some people are better at hiding their insecurities. BBR Esq Mar 2014 #13

Uh,it makes me sick just reading that. sufrommich Mar 2014 #12

Thank you. Thank you, sufrommich. Thank you. raven mad Mar 2014 #15

I agree. Why were people so gleefully sniping about her? Very dissappointed with them, so glad to... marble falls Mar 2014 #23

I take note that when Kirk Douglas,who's sufrommich Mar 2014 #32

It's amazing that some people still manage to think that men face the same pressures, redqueen Mar 2014 #36

Yep. nt sufrommich Mar 2014 #37

Actually, they face different pressures tavalon Mar 2014 #70

are you kidding. and if sex DEFINING men and all of who they are is not restrictive, i do not know seabeyond Mar 2014 #86

And there is still the "money defines the man" tavalon Mar 2014 #111

Oh yes, I was just referring to appearance. redqueen Mar 2014 #97

Then beauty is its own excuse for being (RWEmerson): WinkyDink Mar 2014 #17

And not one word EC Mar 2014 #18

matthew who? not that i watched or know any of the characters. but i LOVE when i can applaud seabeyond Mar 2014 #20

Matthew McConaughey.. n/t EC Mar 2014 #21

no way. lol. i thought might be him, he is real vain, but i have also seen that in him. story seabeyond Mar 2014 #25

So, he stayed in Texas tavalon Mar 2014 #71

he moved to amarillo. lol. might have a place in austin... do not know. nt seabeyond Mar 2014 #77

Matthew McConneghy JaneyVee Mar 2014 #22

thank you. was telling the poster above. he lives in our town. seabeyond Mar 2014 #27

He was just lovely to her JustAnotherGen Mar 2014 #24

ahhhhh. i LUV. that is the best. really. man... makes me love the guy more. nt seabeyond Mar 2014 #26

forget his face. what about that HAIR??? and it sounded like he stumbled over the name of the niyad Mar 2014 #38

yeah, he did get hit on the pronunciation of the name EC Mar 2014 #49

Travolta looks awful. So does Novak. bigwillq Mar 2014 #56

I thought the comments and tweets were so mean? WTF is wrong.... Logical Mar 2014 #59

Yeah they don't start on the men treestar Mar 2014 #75

Nor about John Travolta's vampire wig fake hair Arugula Latte Mar 2014 #103

I can only hope at 81, I look that good blackspade Mar 2014 #19

I'd rather look like I'm 81. winter is coming Mar 2014 #30

You missed my point entirely.... blackspade Mar 2014 #39

Agreed. bullsnarfle Mar 2014 #42

Or this guy. BBR Esq Mar 2014 #54

Damn it, put warning labels tavalon Mar 2014 #76

Totally agree, usually the surgery makes them look treestar Mar 2014 #78

Agreed. Old age doesn't mean you can't aspire to look Cleita Mar 2014 #52

Kim has more class in one hair on her head than those Whisp Mar 2014 #28

Kim Novak is a fellow Oregonian, her film work was wonderful and I like her paintings Bluenorthwest Mar 2014 #29

Wow, she is frogmarch Mar 2014 #58

Unfortunately it's often women themselves Brainstormy Mar 2014 #33

If you are interested.. you may want to read this: boston bean Mar 2014 #34

Pinatas mrchips Mar 2014 #35

let's see- she is an actress, a poet, a photographer, an artist who paints, sculpts and works in niyad Mar 2014 #40

Well said. nt sufrommich Mar 2014 #43

Thanks for the info. Beacool Mar 2014 #44

you are welcome. she is indeed a most accomplished woman. one of the posts above links to niyad Mar 2014 #50

i did not know all that stuff. nor really know anything about her. and wow. and ya. i hear ya. nt seabeyond Mar 2014 #60

I Find It Sad RobinA Mar 2014 #92

agreed Skittles Mar 2014 #112

K & R SunSeeker Mar 2014 #46

Not sure I understand the dismay here. randome Mar 2014 #47

What's really sad is that women feel like they can't just look 81. leftyladyfrommo Mar 2014 #53

Many can AgingAmerican Mar 2014 #55

I wonder how the women who had botched jobs feel? leftyladyfrommo Mar 2014 #61

I agree AgingAmerican Mar 2014 #65

Most face lifts take six to eight hours. Cleita Mar 2014 #89

i was thinkin' about this thread. i am bone weary tired of the role of being attractive seabeyond Mar 2014 #62

Some women just don't care AgingAmerican Mar 2014 #67

you do not know wtf you are talking about. a man lecturing me on this. you really seabeyond Mar 2014 #69

lol AgingAmerican Mar 2014 #79

It would be hard to have aged prematurely. leftyladyfrommo Mar 2014 #72

"Maybe we should all just wear bags over our heads".... or, just give all us "done with it" seabeyond Mar 2014 #80

Or maybe we should age gracefully AgingAmerican Mar 2014 #81

A lot of young women also age prematurely from too much sun tanning. Cleita Mar 2014 #94

Maybe that's the problem. You are making yourself attractive for men Cleita Mar 2014 #73

no. that is not "the" or "a" problem. seabeyond Mar 2014 #82

I believe AgingAmerican Mar 2014 #83

Amen! tavalon Mar 2014 #84

i think our generation got to watch mothers and fathers walk this.... seabeyond Mar 2014 #85

So Reject RobinA Mar 2014 #87

true. ok. so? nt seabeyond Mar 2014 #90

I don't think it's all that easy to reject that role. leftyladyfrommo Mar 2014 #105

" so ingrained from the time we are just little girls." that it is. and why i think it is so seabeyond Mar 2014 #106

Good luck getting the men to look at it. leftyladyfrommo Mar 2014 #114

i think, with the constant pornification of our girls, all women that walk into public, it is seabeyond Mar 2014 #115

I think I'm an old fogy leftyladyfrommo Mar 2014 #117

Received Dogma RobinA Mar 2014 #120

I don't think you are taking into account the career pressure placed on these Sheldon Cooper Mar 2014 #93

Even Meryl Streep has had work. She admits it. Cleita Mar 2014 #96

in "the first wives club", goldie hawn's character, an actress who has just had collagen injections niyad Mar 2014 #109

Yep. Sheldon Cooper Mar 2014 #110

I loved her as Stifler's mom Capt. Obvious Mar 2014 #63

That wasn't Kim Novak. MineralMan Mar 2014 #116

Kick! Heidi Mar 2014 #74

My 11 y.o. grandson asked, "Who is that?"..I answered "That is a photo of me when I was a teenager." Tikki Mar 2014 #91

I find it very sad. She loves to paint elderly folks... Sarah Ibarruri Mar 2014 #95

I'd rather celebrate a rather gifted, wonderful person. longship Mar 2014 #98