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exboyfil

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202. Not to this ceremonial level

Sat Mar 22, 2014, 06:45 AM

Mar 2014

but my wife wanted me to take my daughters on dates and give them what was effectively a purity ring. I politely declined. I spend lots of time with my daughters (especially at dog agility, going to museums/zoos, and watching science fiction movies with them as well as extensive tutoring), but I would never think to do something like this. I want to spend time with them, but doing wholesome activities. Soon my oldest will be off to college, and I am excited by the new challenge in her life.

There is a good chance a big push for this is coming from the mom's side as well if my experience is any indication. The fathers would be more helpful just letting their daughters know that they are loved, tell them that they pray (hope) someone comes into their lives who treats them with respect, and that their father will always be there when needed with love no matter what happens. Now fly away little birdie and experience your own life.

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'You are married to the Lord and your daddy is your boyfriend': [View all] Beacool Mar 2014 OP

"Daddy is your boyfriend" LittleBlue Mar 2014 #1

so cheating on god and having a boyfriend on the side is ok? Whisp Mar 2014 #7

It's creepy and disgusting. Beacool Mar 2014 #14

Being Atheist Control-Z Mar 2014 #111

Yes, for a grown man to give a child what looks like a wedding band is creepy. Beacool Mar 2014 #115

The "girls in prom dresses carrying a cross" thing was mega-disturbing as well Ken Burch Mar 2014 #183

did you notice the girls were barefoot demigoddess Mar 2014 #189

Hadn't caught that. Gives it even more of a "Manos" or Nordic death metal video feeling. n/t. Ken Burch Mar 2014 #191

These freaks make Nordic Death Metal wholesome. blackspade Mar 2014 #197

Yes! Freakin creepy. OnionPatch Mar 2014 #206

I think they are wearing some type of sandal with thin straps. mrsadm Mar 2014 #230

I think they don't want them to break their ankles jmowreader Mar 2014 #242

I guess as long as he's your Dad it's okay azurnoir Mar 2014 #138

And if daddy's not available, there's always Youth Pastor Bob Ken Burch Mar 2014 #192

Maybe the repeated cuckoldry is what makes god such a pissy, murderous psychopath? Tom Ripley Mar 2014 #179

sounds like a perfect setup for molestation eShirl Mar 2014 #9

That was my first thought: some creep is going to read about this and join up for the wrong reasons. tofuandbeer Mar 2014 #193

I know. Beacool Mar 2014 #10

I hope that one day the girls will take that cross Whisp Mar 2014 #18

Amen to that........ Beacool Mar 2014 #20

Then they need to club their mothers, who allow this shit to take place. blueamy66 Mar 2014 #29

the daddies are in closer vicinity and it's creepy as freakin hell Whisp Mar 2014 #34

Oh, I agree with you. blueamy66 Mar 2014 #37

this ceremony is not about moms being their sons girlfriend. Whisp Mar 2014 #42

No, the mother isn't to blame, but, I would love to hear how they rationalize their blueamy66 Mar 2014 #74

For the most part, the moms were brainwashed into this from birth. JoeyT Mar 2014 #88

I don't think that they are awful. I just wondered why they allow this to occur? blueamy66 Mar 2014 #92

If they catch you in the back seat trying to pick her locks, they're gonna send you back to mother AtheistCrusader Mar 2014 #142

They are all just fundies, the moms and dads snooper2 Mar 2014 #210

Not to this ceremonial level exboyfil Mar 2014 #202

Absolutely! get the red out Mar 2014 #89

+1 million geardaddy Mar 2014 #108

I thought you were gonna say Ken Burch Mar 2014 #186

I'm reminded of a scene from the Simpsons: Initech Mar 2014 #231

plenty of women allow themselves to be "given away" by their father to their husband Skittles Mar 2014 #190

Ewwww, indeed! alcina Mar 2014 #141

That's not inviting incest at all. Oh no, never! nomorenomore08 Mar 2014 #163

I thought dating your daddy was an Ozarks kind of thing. Ken Burch Mar 2014 #185

Those things have always registered 10/10 on the creepy factor... Aristus Mar 2014 #2

What shocked me is that it apparently is going on in 48 states. Beacool Mar 2014 #12

I am surprised that you are shocked by this. It is the basic mentality of a frighteningly large StevieM Mar 2014 #240

We seem to be regressing to another era. Beacool Mar 2014 #243

This is so effing creepy I have no words ... Arugula Latte Mar 2014 #3

That is some sick shit! polichick Mar 2014 #4

It's going to make for some very unhappy wives at some point PDJane Mar 2014 #5

Not to worry. Skidmore Mar 2014 #11

They are attempting to brainwash them young. Beacool Mar 2014 #23

Kids like the Duggars have no other frame of reference. They are brainwashed from birth (eom) StevieM Mar 2014 #237

The idea is for them NOT to enjoy it. redqueen Mar 2014 #30

They'll just turn into the everything but kind of girls leftynyc Mar 2014 #116

Ewww. LiberalAndProud Mar 2014 #6

There's no "creepy" smiley face AleksS Mar 2014 #8

This would be the smiley face of my choice to express the creepiness level of this article. Beacool Mar 2014 #24

how about this one hollysmom Mar 2014 #25

Yikes!!! Beacool Mar 2014 #51

"Purity Culture Is Rape Culture" LadyHawkAZ Mar 2014 #13

Well said!! Beacool Mar 2014 #36

I have seen pictures from the 18th Century that show some social reasons Sognefjord Mar 2014 #156

To this day, parts of the world still arrange marriages for girls. Beacool Mar 2014 #177

When I was 13 my father was the one who made the appointment LadyHawkAZ Mar 2014 #172

We are blessed to have been born in this era and to a Western nation. Beacool Mar 2014 #178

You were lucky in that sense. Plenty of girls have fathers who claim sovereignty over StevieM Mar 2014 #239

That's the first thing I thought of when I read this. mountain grammy Mar 2014 #145

+1000 Tom Ripley Mar 2014 #149

This is Colorado City, AZ, right ? Trajan Mar 2014 #15

This isn't going on in the Catholic Church. blueamy66 Mar 2014 #33

The Catholic Church has a different brand of creepy Arugula Latte Mar 2014 #67

Wow. blueamy66 Mar 2014 #71

Nuns have been called "Brides of Christ" for a long time -- it's a very common term. Arugula Latte Mar 2014 #75

I never said that you had to respect my Church. blueamy66 Mar 2014 #85

The whole body of Church members is symbolically called the Bride of Christ. pnwmom Mar 2014 #106

Never heard that one either....despite 13 years of Catholic school education blueamy66 Mar 2014 #118

Don't know how you missed that then. Even Wikipedia knows about it. pnwmom Mar 2014 #122

Interesting. I'll read up on it. blueamy66 Mar 2014 #126

Not your fault. AtheistCrusader Mar 2014 #134

I was taught by Franciscan nuns in Catholic school. Mr.Bill Mar 2014 #78

Yeah, the nuns that taught me didn't wear any wedding rings. blueamy66 Mar 2014 #81

I'm afraid the change is glacial, imperceptible to most people with normal life spans Warpy Mar 2014 #117

Sorry, but LynnTTT Mar 2014 #144

Never heard of nuns as brides? whopis01 Mar 2014 #159

Perhaps I was just remarking about the Catholic Church Trajan Mar 2014 #95

Perhaps you didn't need to respond....if only to throw a dig out there... blueamy66 Mar 2014 #97

Perhaps I need to respond according to my own motivations Trajan Mar 2014 #162

I was raised Catholic (now atheist), but I look back and see the it was a nice part of growing up. tofuandbeer Mar 2014 #195

These nut jobs are not Catholic. Beacool Mar 2014 #40

Exactly. blueamy66 Mar 2014 #72

I think that every male in my Catholic family would have been horrified. Beacool Mar 2014 #76

As creepy as this is seveneyes Mar 2014 #16

Yes, it does LadyHawkAZ Mar 2014 #19

Yes, same mindset seveneyes Mar 2014 #21

Agree get the red out Mar 2014 #96

Correct. 840high Mar 2014 #176

Really freaky and creepy! n/t RKP5637 Mar 2014 #17

religion LOL n/t KG Mar 2014 #22

that cross carrying picture is completely insane NightWatcher Mar 2014 #26

Here: jsr Mar 2014 #35

these crazy religionists make me a stronger atheist on a daily basis NightWatcher Mar 2014 #41

That pic makes me fear that they are going to burn one of them at the cross. Beacool Mar 2014 #43

And did you notice the cross carriers are barefoot? AleksS Mar 2014 #70

Oddly enough, that's the first thing I noticed. Sheldon Cooper Mar 2014 #87

Me too! get the red out Mar 2014 #98

And bare feet geardaddy Mar 2014 #124

Why the need to carry a crucifix? blueamy66 Mar 2014 #27

If I'm not mistaken... Beartracks Mar 2014 #199

Okay. You are right. blueamy66 Mar 2014 #200

Not "better," just more accurate. :) Beartracks Mar 2014 #201

The cross symbolizes the men they must slave under the rest of their lives. Kablooie Mar 2014 #224

While I don't trust the Daily Mail, this story seems sadly to be confirmed by several sources LeftishBrit Mar 2014 #28

this 'ceremony' has been around for years... Whisp Mar 2014 #38

There isn't a snowball's chance in a self-cleaning oven... riqster Mar 2014 #31

Sounds like it, doesn't it? Beacool Mar 2014 #45

I dunno about "normal". riqster Mar 2014 #54

LOL!!! Beacool Mar 2014 #65

I know someone who did this to/with one of his daughters. progressoid Mar 2014 #32

Seriously? Beacool Mar 2014 #47

I'm not sure. progressoid Mar 2014 #66

Maybe they hold these balls every March. Beacool Mar 2014 #113

Right before prom season? exboyfil Mar 2014 #203

I don't know. Beacool Mar 2014 #213

Seriously sick. nt LumosMaxima Mar 2014 #39

Totally creepy and patriarchical. Erich Bloodaxe BSN Mar 2014 #44

Exactly!!! Beacool Mar 2014 #49

Excellent point. The pressure is on the girls far more than the boys. StevieM Mar 2014 #241

The double standard has always angered me. Beacool Mar 2014 #244

Not even a kiss huh? Nika Mar 2014 #46

*pukes* sakabatou Mar 2014 #48

Starkly perverse. Feral Child Mar 2014 #50

Yes, and they vow only to have anal sex until marriage because how else can they valerief Mar 2014 #52

you are not far from the truth plcdude Mar 2014 #61

Not sex for the female but certainly sex for the male, and that's all that matters, after all. valerief Mar 2014 #63

From what I remember of the purity nuts, JoeyT Mar 2014 #100

Unless get the red out Mar 2014 #110

Purity nuts, purity balls... something is happening lingusitically here that is AtheistCrusader Mar 2014 #136

Ah, yes, "The Loophole" by Garfunkel and Oates. Ikonoklast Mar 2014 #164

Yup. Oakenshield Mar 2014 #53

The worst part is the monthly virginity check CBGLuthier Mar 2014 #55

Yuck. nt Democracyinkind Mar 2014 #56

This strikes me as incredibly creepy. Chan790 Mar 2014 #57

from 2008 -- BUT -- it shows the problem with 'purity balls' - they don't use contraception xchrom Mar 2014 #58

This part is worrisome, but I'm glad that they are not keeping their pledges. Beacool Mar 2014 #73

My ex grew up in a very religious part of rural TN. jeff47 Mar 2014 #102

Their parents are failing them get the red out Mar 2014 #104

The daddy is the vagina police mercuryblues Mar 2014 #139

So these pledges give the appearance of 'purity' siligut Mar 2014 #214

Yikes CFLDem Mar 2014 #59

For a far superior source than the Daily Fail read Jessica Valenti's 2010 book "The Purity Myth" alp227 Mar 2014 #60

I would LOVE to see a study done of these girls as they go through their lives. I will bet that Squinch Mar 2014 #62

Only for the sickest of the sick fucks. Blue Owl Mar 2014 #64

Creepy and pathetic. Vashta Nerada Mar 2014 #68

Creepshow! MineralMan Mar 2014 #69

".. sex is the most awful, filthy thing on earth .." Tierra_y_Libertad Mar 2014 #77

That is so fucking deranged. Jamastiene Mar 2014 #79

None here want to know what I think of this nadinbrzezinski Mar 2014 #80

Wow, this is creepy on so many levels I don't know know where to begin... catbyte Mar 2014 #82

I read a story about this one time get the red out Mar 2014 #83

Elizabeth Smart has spoken out against "purity culture" XemaSab Mar 2014 #174

... Cali_Democrat Mar 2014 #84

And the girls are okay with it PumpkinAle Mar 2014 #86

Among other things, 'girls/women' have been/continue to be treated as property, elleng Mar 2014 #90

I had a parents' blessing at my wedding. LiberalAndProud Mar 2014 #165

Very nice. elleng Mar 2014 #168

Creepy.... South_Street Mar 2014 #91

The roots are in the same freakout from the 60s when teenagers "did their own thing". Spitfire of ATJ Mar 2014 #93

I don't understand what you are referring to. Ilsa Mar 2014 #232

Back in the day there were a lot of runaways... Spitfire of ATJ Mar 2014 #236

Isn't there a show on Lifetime called Preacher's Daughter? blueamy66 Mar 2014 #94

My mother once wondered how many bad marriages result from an obsession with "purity" dflprincess Mar 2014 #99

Hey daddy, I got your purity balls right here. geardaddy Mar 2014 #101

SO CREEPY!!!! La Lioness Priyanka Mar 2014 #103

This is just sick. EC Mar 2014 #105

This is wrong on so many levels. William769 Mar 2014 #107

Got to be some of the sickest shit the world has ever produced FiveGoodMen Mar 2014 #109

Ewww Flatpicker Mar 2014 #112

Creepy. City Lights Mar 2014 #114

Stepford redux. Religion makes a lot of people do a lot of totally fucked up weird shit to kids. Zorra Mar 2014 #119

I think I read some statistics on this a year or so ago.... Swede Atlanta Mar 2014 #120

If you feel this strongly that you need to "protect" your teen daughter's chastity NickB79 Mar 2014 #121

Well said. Beacool Mar 2014 #155

I'm surprised that so many of you are surprised OldHippieChick Mar 2014 #123

No one is under any illusion that we have true gender equality, Beacool Mar 2014 #154

Is the second photo an old photo? Is that Jessica Simpson? joeybee12 Mar 2014 #125

This really creeps me out. The Traveler Mar 2014 #127

Bill Maher breaks down the creepiness of this: JBoy Mar 2014 #128

The concept has been around at least 30 years or so. Lars39 Mar 2014 #129

Beyond creepy Prophet 451 Mar 2014 #130

Chattel blkmusclmachine Mar 2014 #131

This PB speaker likes to make clothes out of duct tape. valerief Mar 2014 #132

apparently the 2naSalit Mar 2014 #133

Sex with goats Aldo Leopold Mar 2014 #135

What is the 'purity' xxqqqzme Mar 2014 #137

Fuck religion. AtheistCrusader Mar 2014 #140

Creepy... deathrind Mar 2014 #143

About as creepy as it gets. mountain grammy Mar 2014 #146

Leave it to Protestants to come up with something more fucked up than nuns Tom Ripley Mar 2014 #147

Jesus on a trailer hitch wryter2000 Mar 2014 #148

Why, if they think this is such a good thing, don't they do this for boys? nt SunSeeker Mar 2014 #150

Precisely. AtheistCrusader Mar 2014 #151

Men are different. Men are better. The bible says so. valerief Mar 2014 #221

This is way too creepy for me Gothmog Mar 2014 #152

This just makes my skin crawl.. Peacetrain Mar 2014 #153

Creepy as hell Aerows Mar 2014 #157

To have and to hold" is a legal phrase used in deeds and other property transfer. no_hypocrisy Mar 2014 #158

this reminds me of 'rule of thumb' Whisp Mar 2014 #166

And what are they doing for boys? HipChick Mar 2014 #160

They are challenged by the fathers to see how many babes they can bang before marriage. Kablooie Mar 2014 #223

sick shit. spanone Mar 2014 #161

That's a whole truckload of fucked up, right there. Warren DeMontague Mar 2014 #167

These poor girls. ellie Mar 2014 #169

Daddy's primary concern is the state of his daughters privates. creepy and wrong Liberal_in_LA Mar 2014 #170

Sicker and creepier than a Craigslist personal ad Blue Owl Mar 2014 #171

OK so to reiterate Christian propaganda.... Initech Mar 2014 #173

creepy shit d_b Mar 2014 #175

Christianity is a sexist religion RainDog Mar 2014 #180

So when a girl does get married mindwalker_i Mar 2014 #181

What often happens is that they are bullied into giving the baby up for adoption. StevieM Mar 2014 #238

This is seriously sick and perverted. KauaiK Mar 2014 #182

The article sucks for saying that this shit is "sweeping America". It's not. nt Captain Stern Mar 2014 #184

Sounds like a "death metal" lyric, doesn't it? n/t. Ken Burch Mar 2014 #187

How much longer before theyre wearing bonnets or burkas? ErikJ Mar 2014 #188

...possibly with bondage gear underneath... Ken Burch Mar 2014 #194

Maybe a chastity belt? Beacool Mar 2014 #220

...covered with poisoned spikes, most likely... Ken Burch Mar 2014 #235

As a father of a little girl, I find this disgusting. blackspade Mar 2014 #196

Which two states don't have them? wickerwoman Mar 2014 #198

Nothing strange TopHatCat Mar 2014 #204

This stuff really freaks me out. NaturalHigh Mar 2014 #205

Creepy stuff. Talk about perversion. n/t malthaussen Mar 2014 #207

Tell me� did their FATHERS remain "pure" before they fucked their mothers? MrMickeysMom Mar 2014 #208

And when those raging hormones hit these virgins; greiner3 Mar 2014 #209

Slavery TNNurse Mar 2014 #211

Daddy's my boyfriend? svpadgham Mar 2014 #212

Sick, but funny........ Beacool Mar 2014 #218

SO creepy in that it implies the father has 'first rights.' A better Dad always respects her choices joanbarnes Mar 2014 #215

Yes, it sounds like the royal "right of the first night". Beacool Mar 2014 #219

Oh, yuk. leftyladyfrommo Mar 2014 #216

I think this is called "grooming." nt tea and oranges Mar 2014 #217

Where are the mothers in all of this? Kablooie Mar 2014 #222

gross tk2kewl Mar 2014 #225

A former boss did this with one daughter... rosesaylavee Mar 2014 #226

Cult like and controlling tooeyeten Mar 2014 #227

Who's Your Daddy? BodieTown Mar 2014 #228

Always been there tooeyeten Mar 2014 #229

My guess is that the little girls are excited about playing dress-up Ilsa Mar 2014 #233

I wonder what goes through the minds of these girls' brothers? Ilsa Mar 2014 #234