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AsahinaKimi

(20,776 posts) Wed Apr 2, 2014, 12:24 AM Apr 2014

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My Best Friend is dead... [View all]

I thought it was strange.. With the recent earthquake in Los Angeles.. I usually hear from my best friend there, so I sent her a text message. No reply. I sent an email, "you there?". So I figured she was just busy. I had computer problem, so I called her room mate Greg. By the way, I asked.. How is Jamie? She didn't respond to my emails.

"uh, Kimi, Jamie is dead"

"what??" I gasped, "how, why.." I sputtered..

"She died two weeks ago. Had a heart attack and passed in her sleep."

Funeral I asked meekly...

"There was none, she was cremated. She was an atheist so requested no ceremony."

Where were her ashes scattered?

"No idea, her sister did it."

She was only 55. Had been once in top shape with only a few medical problems. I was the one with the heart problems. Why her?
I am in shock right now.. I can't say any more. I don't know how to feel other than shock and sorrow. How is it life is so fragile? I thought this stuff only happened in Japanese drama...
But no, its painfully real.

Tonight I am listening to Japanese drama songs to help me deal with this.

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My Best Friend is dead... [View all] AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 OP

I'm sorry Kimi ProudToBeBlueInRhody Apr 2014 #1

:( :::::::::::::::::::::::::: WillyT Apr 2014 #2

so sorry about this, looks like it was a real shock to you JI7 Apr 2014 #3

No she lived in Los Angeles. AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #45

...... seabeyond Apr 2014 #4

Oh, I'm so sorry to read this, AsahinaKimi NYC_SKP Apr 2014 #5

We used to joke and I would call her the cat lady. AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #195

Sorry to hear it :( Demo_Chris Apr 2014 #6

I think she was way too young. AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #201

Yes. She was too young. nt Demo_Chris Apr 2014 #204

That must have been extremely upsetting. Oakenshield Apr 2014 #7

I'm sorry for your loss. Jenoch Apr 2014 #8

Oh Kimi, so very sorry for your loss. sheshe2 Apr 2014 #9

I am very sorry to hear this. Rex Apr 2014 #10

Oh no. I'm so, so sorry AsahinaKimi. polly7 Apr 2014 #11

Very sorry for your loss. cyberswede Apr 2014 #12

.. Cha Apr 2014 #13

My dear AsahinaKimi... CaliforniaPeggy Apr 2014 #14

"Be good to yourself" Aerows Apr 2014 #22

Thank you, my dear Aerows... CaliforniaPeggy Apr 2014 #25

DU needs an equivalent to the Facebook "Like". THIS post proves it. cherokeeprogressive Apr 2014 #27

... CaliforniaPeggy Apr 2014 #28

{Like} cherokeeprogressive Apr 2014 #31

Thanks peggy, and everyone AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #47

Forgive me for disagreeing with you... CaliforniaPeggy Apr 2014 #53

Well I guess I have to make sure I take my meds... AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #68

Being in shape is not particularly relevant in sudden death from heart disease eridani Apr 2014 #76

Oh my goodness, Kimi Aerows Apr 2014 #15

Thank you, that is good to know. AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #199

Oh Kimi, I'm so sorry for you... countryjake Apr 2014 #16

Sorry for your loss.. and the way you found out about it... villager Apr 2014 #16

Deepest sympathies in the loss of your friend lpbk2713 Apr 2014 #18

I'm so sorry. nt LumosMaxima Apr 2014 #19

((((Kimi)))) LadyHawkAZ Apr 2014 #20

I am so sorry, Kimi. blogslut Apr 2014 #21

My condolences on the loss of your friend Jamie. TexasTowelie Apr 2014 #23

Heartfelt condolences to one of the BEST people on DU. If Jamie was a friend of yours I KNOW cherokeeprogressive Apr 2014 #24

She was a big AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #48

Well... cherokeeprogressive Apr 2014 #62

I just know AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #70

I am so sorry. Grey Apr 2014 #26

Life can really suck sometimes... AAO Apr 2014 #29

Oh, Kimi, I am so sorry. (((hugs))). sueh Apr 2014 #30

Rough way to find out Tsiyu Apr 2014 #32

Exactly my thoughts as well. nt MADem Apr 2014 #65

hugs RainDog Apr 2014 #33

I am so sorry. SheilaT Apr 2014 #34

Smart... AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #49

I get so frustrated and angry at those who SheilaT Apr 2014 #58

I would have been nice... AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #69

Oh, Kimi, no- your heart must be nothing but sadness right now . . . NBachers Apr 2014 #35

Thankyou... AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #87

{{{{{hugs}}}}} nadinbrzezinski Apr 2014 #36

back at you nadin...and to everyone. AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #197

I am so sorry, Kimi! And what a terrible way to learn of the loss of your friend. pnwmom Apr 2014 #37

I was shocked just reading this. I am so.. so sorry. Kablooie Apr 2014 #38

So sorry for your loss. So young, very sad. mountain grammy Apr 2014 #39

. struggle4progress Apr 2014 #40

There's no figuring it out. Celebrate her being in your life. Condolences on the loss of your friend marble falls Apr 2014 #41

I am so sorry, AsahinaKimi. Mnemosyne Apr 2014 #42

Holding you in the Light, Kimi TygrBright Apr 2014 #43

Damn. Just damn! calimary Apr 2014 #44

Truthfully?? AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #198

I am so sorry for the loss of your close friend.. virgdem Apr 2014 #46

So very sorry for your loss. greatlaurel Apr 2014 #50

. DemocratsForProgress Apr 2014 #51

I am so sorry. TDale313 Apr 2014 #52

Sorry for your loss AsahinaKimi. DeSwiss Apr 2014 #54

{{{{{{Kimi}}}}}} I'm so terribly sorry for your loss... Hekate Apr 2014 #55

so very sorry for your loss, Kimi steve2470 Apr 2014 #56

I'm sorry to hear that AsahinaKimi Half-Century Man Apr 2014 #57

*hugs* sakabatou Apr 2014 #59

I'm so sorry. Chellee Apr 2014 #60

My heartfelt sympathy Kimi passiveporcupine Apr 2014 #61

You gave me an idea... AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #88

That sounds like a lovely way to remember her. n/t passiveporcupine Apr 2014 #147

I'm very sorry for your loss... SoapBox Apr 2014 #63

My condolences. Was your last contact a good one? Spitfire of ATJ Apr 2014 #64

I think so... AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #89

There are so many times we hear someone loses a loved one and their last words were in anger. Spitfire of ATJ Apr 2014 #142

Oh, I'm so sorry KT2000 Apr 2014 #66

i'm so sorry for your loss barbtries Apr 2014 #67

So sorry for your loss and you heard that way. joshcryer Apr 2014 #71

... defacto7 Apr 2014 #72

I am sorry for your loss. icymist Apr 2014 #73

I'm very, very, very sorry for your loss. Warren DeMontague Apr 2014 #74

So very sorry for your loss zappaman Apr 2014 #75

... CFLDem Apr 2014 #77

so sorry. ((hugs)) bbgrunt Apr 2014 #78

Thoughts are with you, after the loss of your friend nikto Apr 2014 #79

Please accept my condolences. JDPriestly Apr 2014 #80

Take time and care. Wilms Apr 2014 #81

I'm so sorry this happened to you, dear. LuvNewcastle Apr 2014 #82

I have come up with a wonderful idea... AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #90

That is a great idea, and I think your best friend would love that tribute. I am so sorry anneboleyn Apr 2014 #92

That's a very nice thing to think of. LuvNewcastle Apr 2014 #104

That deserves a thumbs up. Snotcicles Apr 2014 #202

Are you kidding me? AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #203

Good on both of ya. nt Snotcicles Apr 2014 #205

Aw Kimi. progressoid Apr 2014 #83

My deepest condolences, kimi. Le Taz Hot Apr 2014 #84

How sad malaise Apr 2014 #85

Kimi, I'm sorry vt_native Apr 2014 #86

may Peace be with you, asahinakimi. nt xchrom Apr 2014 #91

So sorry for your loss Ichingcarpenter Apr 2014 #93

You don't need religion for a memorial. aquart Apr 2014 #94

already AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #95

I am sorry for your loss TBF Apr 2014 #96

My condolences on your loss, Kimi-San nt MrScorpio Apr 2014 #97

I am so sorry for your loss but this might be an appropriate time for a suggestion to everyone. Lochloosa Apr 2014 #98

Shin'ai AsahinaKimi wa itami ga usuretaga, ai no mamadearu. Hai? Gomen'nasai AsahinaKimidesu. Drew Richards Apr 2014 #99

arigatou. AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #149

rain falls from my soul. Drew Richards Apr 2014 #163

So very sorry, Kimi lillypaddle Apr 2014 #100

I'm so sorry, Kimi. Schema Thing Apr 2014 #101

I am so sorry Kimi. Puglover Apr 2014 #102

so sorry for your loss Kimi rurallib Apr 2014 #103

My sorrow. Damn! I hate this! raven mad Apr 2014 #105

I'm very sorry. yardwork Apr 2014 #106

I'm so sorry you lost your friend, Kimi =( My thoughts are with you this morning. nt ChisolmTrailDem Apr 2014 #107

Sorry for your Loss 4Q2u2 Apr 2014 #108

Yeah I remember Jim Fixx AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #150

So sorry, Kimi mike dub Apr 2014 #109

I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend LiberalEsto Apr 2014 #110

I'm so sorry TuxedoKat Apr 2014 #111

Life is fragile... malthaussen Apr 2014 #112

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. eShirl Apr 2014 #113

My deepest sympathies, AsahinaKimi Oilwellian Apr 2014 #114

Sorry to hear this as well, 29 is way too young.. AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #153

Thank you Oilwellian Apr 2014 #169

I'm so sorry AsahinaKimi BarbaRosa Apr 2014 #115

Dear Kimi.......so sorry to hear this.... BlancheSplanchnik Apr 2014 #116

Thanks, unfortunately... AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #155

true...it's hard to develop a network, but so important. BlancheSplanchnik Apr 2014 #165

I am so sorry to hear that. Xyzse Apr 2014 #117

I think we all do that.. AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #156

Nah, I'm not that greedy. 25 is good. Xyzse Apr 2014 #158

. Iggo Apr 2014 #118

I am so sorry for your loss... magical thyme Apr 2014 #119

() Jack Rabbit Apr 2014 #120

I am so sorry for the loss of your friend... Tom_Foolery Apr 2014 #121

My condolences... Ohio Joe Apr 2014 #122

I'm so very sorry. Arugula Latte Apr 2014 #123

My condolences Kimi calikid Apr 2014 #124

My sincere condolances, Kimi! kentauros Apr 2014 #125

Life and the sudden changes can be a kick in the gut Sheepshank Apr 2014 #126

Sorry for your loss. L0oniX Apr 2014 #127

I'm so sorry. H2O Man Apr 2014 #128

Please accept my condolences. cordelia Apr 2014 #129

Very sorry to hear this...our thoughts are with you... joeybee12 Apr 2014 #130

Strength to you during this difficult time. CrispyQ Apr 2014 #131

Kimi... CherokeeDem Apr 2014 #132

I am so sorry. GoCubsGo Apr 2014 #133

My sympathy to you JohnnyRingo Apr 2014 #134

Condolences my friend yesphan Apr 2014 #135

condolences DonCoquixote Apr 2014 #136

My condolences. lumberjack_jeff Apr 2014 #137

I'm so so sorry. I can't imagine your shock and sadness. Blessings to you and your friend nt Sarah Ibarruri Apr 2014 #138

:( so sorry... n/t whatchamacallit Apr 2014 #139

My condolences to you. kairos12 Apr 2014 #140

I'm sad Rainngirl Apr 2014 #141

Life giveth and death taketh away... AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #159

I am so very sorry for your loss. Lifelong Protester Apr 2014 #143

I am so sorry for your loss, and so sorry that you got the news this way! hedgehog Apr 2014 #144

I'm so sorry. dawg Apr 2014 #145

I'm so sorry Kimi warrior1 Apr 2014 #146

Sorry for the loss of your friend Lydia Leftcoast Apr 2014 #148

thank you. AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #160

So sorry. applegrove Apr 2014 #151

Kimi, I am so sorry! I've lost friends and family, so I understand what you're going through. LongTomH Apr 2014 #152

Sorry for your loss Harmony Blue Apr 2014 #154

What a terrible thing to endure. truedelphi Apr 2014 #157

I suppose this is a lesson for everyone.. AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #162

That is a wise understanding to come by. truedelphi Apr 2014 #171

so sorry for your loss Liberal_in_LA Apr 2014 #161

I'm sorry. I'm sure that was an awful shock. Cleita Apr 2014 #164

I know what it feels like to get news like this.... Lucinda Apr 2014 #166

My condolences Rider3 Apr 2014 #167

I'm so very sorry... Phentex Apr 2014 #168

{{hugs}} Delphinus Apr 2014 #170

I'm so sorry caraher Apr 2014 #172

I am so sorry for your loss. Best friends are like sisters. Maraya1969 Apr 2014 #173

To what shall I compare this life of ours? WhiteTara Apr 2014 #174

(((((((((kimi))))))))) so very sorry for your loss. losing a best friend, even when it is expected, niyad Apr 2014 #175

I haven't forgotten the kindness of my DU family... AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #184

i'm sorry for your loss deek Apr 2014 #176

Kimi, I send you my tears and a heart hug. I hope you can feel Jamie right there with you. DesertDiamond Apr 2014 #177

Sorry, AsahinaKimi. Hard losing a contemporary, and so suddenly. I was in a daze for days... freshwest Apr 2014 #178

. stonecutter357 Apr 2014 #179

I am so, so sorry Lefta Dissenter Apr 2014 #180

Sorry for your loss Shankapotomus Apr 2014 #181

I do believe the universe is our AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #186

So sorry for your loss SayitAintSo Apr 2014 #182

So sorry for your loss Generic Other Apr 2014 #183

maybe in a way she was more AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #188

I'm sorry for your loss OhioChick Apr 2014 #185

I am so sorry, sweetie�It hurts, it's confusing and feels unfair�real emotions.. Tikki Apr 2014 #187

Sayonara by Orange Range. AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #191

Thank you�So powerful and so sweet... Tikki Apr 2014 #194

one doesn't need to know Japanese to imagine AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #196

My sincerest condolences, Kimi. GoneOffShore Apr 2014 #189

Its funny, tonight out of habit I went to my Yahoo address looking AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #200

onesan, gomen nasai yuiyoshida Apr 2014 #190

No honey, I never introduced you to her.. AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #193

I am sorry for your loss. Throd Apr 2014 #192

I haven't heard this song in YEARS. I heard it this morning by chance... and thought of you. cherokeeprogressive Apr 2014 #206

Thank you AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #207

I am so very sorry. LeftishBrit Apr 2014 #208

Its been over a week... AsahinaKimi Apr 2014 #209