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Sen. Walter Sobchak

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17. The causation might be bad, but I don't think multi-generational households should be

Mon Apr 21, 2014, 05:29 PM

Apr 2014

I want my parents to move into my house, their house is all stairs and not close to anything and they're extremely elderly. They have refused to so far, but I suspect when they can't drive anymore or one of them passes away they will take me up on it. The previous owners of my house added a recital room and I had it turned into a private apartment with accessibly everything for them. My brother is already living in the house.

I did work for a 1% family in NYC that has four generations under one (admittedly large) roof, if they aren't ashamed of it...

Although I say this is someone who got along fine with my parents when I was fourteen, moved home after one horrifying semester in the dorms and remained there for a number of years after graduating. If I had an explosive relationship with my parents and left home in high school I might feel differently.

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Moving in with parents becomes more common for the middle-aged [View all] Liberal_in_LA Apr 2014 OP

I can't imagine how incredibly hard it must be Warpy Apr 2014 #1

+ 1 russspeakeasy Apr 2014 #3

In some cultures, this is actually pretty normal, and in fact, could serve to conserve resources. AtheistCrusader Apr 2014 #12

I'm going by what actually did happen when seniors could live independently Warpy Apr 2014 #20

I guess it depends on a variety of factors. AtheistCrusader Apr 2014 #22

It is ok if it is chosen - NOT ok if it becomes the norm TBF Apr 2014 #36

that was me at 40 after 1.5 years of unemployment/underemployment.. frylock Apr 2014 #16

i would like to see it differently. a family unit. like not too far back. seabeyond Apr 2014 #2

The tipoff to how well living with extended family works for most people Warpy Apr 2014 #5

interesting points. i can see that. nt seabeyond Apr 2014 #6

+1 nt riderinthestorm Apr 2014 #27

Good point, but every case is different Patiod Apr 2014 #37

It's nice when it works out well Warpy Apr 2014 #43

There you go! DeSwiss Apr 2014 #10

Glad to know that your parents bullsnarfle Apr 2014 #13

My parents are dead. DeSwiss Apr 2014 #15

No kidding. People from cookies and milk families Warpy Apr 2014 #21

Fortunately the dysfunction in my family died. AtheistCrusader Apr 2014 #24

I hear you Warpy Skittles Apr 2014 #41

This message was self-deleted by its author Warpy Apr 2014 #23

makes sense considering you have to pay $3000 a month to buy a shack snooper2 Apr 2014 #4

So many ignorant comments in LATimes.com. alp227 Apr 2014 #7

Disgusting. narnian60 Apr 2014 #28

Right, because 33 years of Republican ginned-up capitalism is the President's fault. HughBeaumont Apr 2014 #32

yes, that's how latimes anonymous posters behave Liberal_in_LA Apr 2014 #35

End goal of the 1%ers - 3 generations living under one roof is developing world MillennialDem Apr 2014 #8

Not just the middle aged, but the 'just out of college' too. MADem Apr 2014 #9

37 and back to living in the parents basement. obxhead Apr 2014 #11

Most of the blame lies not with POTUS, but with Congress. Arugula Latte Apr 2014 #18

GOPers in Congress are blocking everything Cali_Democrat Apr 2014 #19

i don't think this is all bad , it's the norm for many cultures JI7 Apr 2014 #14

I think it is pretty cool hfojvt Apr 2014 #38

The causation might be bad, but I don't think multi-generational households should be Sen. Walter Sobchak Apr 2014 #17

It is extremely common dotymed Apr 2014 #25

My mom's house isn't big enough for me to move back home and live with her riderinthestorm Apr 2014 #26

It all comes down to your relationship and your space spinbaby Apr 2014 #30

Rremember many of these situations are sparked by parents who need help. Marshall III Apr 2014 #29

That's my situation. Staph Apr 2014 #31

My hat is off to you, I know how hard you are working. Marshall III Apr 2014 #33

I was in your boat exactly Patiod Apr 2014 #40

I'd rather swim with sharks that live with my family. alarimer Apr 2014 #34

elderly mom in story makes middle aged move in daughter go to bed at 7pm Liberal_in_LA Apr 2014 #42

This message was self-deleted by its author gollygee Apr 2014 #39