Moving in with parents becomes more common for the middle-aged

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37. Good point, but every case is different

If the parents are independent, I can see moving home as difficult for all, but if the parents need care, it might be a good move for everyone involved.

I moved in with my Dad when my Mom died and he became disabled at the same time (long story). My husband stayed in our apartment, because I intended to move back when my Dad became healthier. Which was ridiculous, because 84 year old guys do not become healthier, so a year later he gave up our apartment and moved in with us.

Fast forward a year, and just as we were planning on moving out and helping Dad move to assisted living, I lost my job. So my dad decided to stay put, and I would take care of him while I freelanced.

Worked out well for everyone - he got 24 hour care from people who loved him and we got a roof over our heads while I got my freelancing up and going (business doubled each year, but the first year would have been too lean to survive). I couldn't have taken care of him while I was working in an office, because he required middle-of-the-night care that I would have resented if I had to report to work promptly at 8:30 am. He knew what senior healthcare facilities are like because he had to spend a few stints over the years in physical rehab, and became almost suicidal, and he was far happier with us caring for him at home.