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[randome]

77. I'm sure many of you remember this subthread.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10022583041#post69

It's the one where I told my daughters that they were free to be topless in our house if they wanted.

But you wouldn't know what came after. My daughters don't hold anything back. They mentioned our discussion to their mother, who had a fit. She 'complained' to a therapist my daughters were seeing. (Post-divorce issues, some anxiety and teenage angst).

I hadn't known this therapist (let's call her M) bragged about her Christian approach to matters. If I had, I would never have given my permission for my daughters to see her. My attorney, btw, once ran into her in the courtroom and calls her a 'moron'. And another word I won't mention since it was said in the heat of the moment.

Anyways, I dutifully went in to see M and my ex when called to do so regarding 'matters to discuss'.

M went on about how my behavior was a risk and that sex should only be between two committed, loving individuals. She also said that a daughter parading in front of her father was the definition of incest.

Well, never mind that my daughters have never 'paraded' in front of me and will never do so, I later looked up the definition of incest for our state and she simply lied.

Throughout this bizarre 'ambush conversation', I kept my cool and M began to raise her voice, at times being unable to even meet my eyes. It was the most glorious 'battle' with a fundamentalist I have ever engaged in. And why I will always maintain that the best way to deal with these people is to stay cool and state the facts rather than lash out.

It ended with M saying she might have no choice but to report me to CPS. My response: "You do what you think is right. I have nothing to hide and nothing to be embarrassed about." Oh, she was livid and it was beautiful!

She did report me to CPS, who interviewed my daughters then me. We had a good chuckle over the phone about my ex's antics and that was the end of it.

My point in relating this is that some seem to automatically assume the worst regarding these pictures. All too often that's the result of seeing things through the filter of a manual instead of looking at things realistically. The real world usually doesn't relate well to a book of procedures.

And I think this entire broohaha is nonsense. Always, of course, absent evidence of abuse or neglect. But since there is none, it is what it is -some pictures. Nothing else.
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