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[liberalhistorian]

360. Who the hell are you to decide

where a parent should or should not send their kids to school? Did it ever occur to you that maybe one of the kids has a particular issue or issues that the other school addresses better or more thoroughly, or has special staff for? My now-grown son is an aspie and during elementary and middle school he attended a school several miles from our neighborhood school just down the street because that's where the staffing knowledgeable about his condition was concentrated and they did a better job with him. Yet I can't count the number of times people who didn't know that reasoning where he was concerned made derogatory comments and snide remarks about my choice of school for him. Or maybe the boys have more friends or a better social situation there. Maybe the district recommended that particular school for any specific issues. There could be myriad reasons why, reasons which you are NOT privy to and she DOES NOT HAVE TO ANSWER TO YOU as far as her choice of schooling.

You keep changing your story here whenever you're called out on a specific aspect of your reasoning. I am especially disturbed by your being upset that she won't allow her children to spend time with you, as if that's a crime worthy of losing your children over or bothering the police with. She has every right to determine with whom her children spend their time, period. It amazes me how so many people think that they have to right to judge and question the decisions of single mothers at every turn, something they often do not do with "intact" families; I was a single mother until my son was sixteen, and I have way too much experience with that kind of attitude. And why in the hell you thought it was just fine and Jim-dandy to call the police for this and why you would NOT have thought, or been concerned about, DCF and other agencies getting involved and taking the children away, causing a nightmare of unreasonable hoops to jump through and permanent black record for the mother, and why you would have thought it better for the children to go into foster care and lose their mother, is simply beyond me.