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seabeyond

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16. i betcha it is.... and isnt. my favorite was a co worker that wanted to date. frist no's made me

Tue Jun 24, 2014, 08:16 PM

Jun 2014

a shy virgin. he would just be gentle in getting his way. then when it remained a no.... i was the lesbian. and finally, when he saw me dating others, i was the slut.

but ya. i see it also as perceived low class.

the study where these women played around less than their counter...?

i am sorry your daughter experienced/is experiencing this.

i am watching my 21 yr old niece, totally comfortable in her sexuality, doing her playing. i see her now, and remember our day of still conditioning, and i am having a blast considering, excited in the changes.

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What Makes A Slut? The Only Rule, It Seems, Is Being Female - Guardian [View all] WillyT Jun 2014 OP

It's an awful double standard... The Road Runner Jun 2014 #1

We don't have a chance of moving past it Warpy Jun 2014 #2

Agreed... WillyT Jun 2014 #4

if anything, it has gotten worse Skittles Jun 2014 #9

i think so also. which is too odd. it lets us know that there is something underlining the seabeyond Jun 2014 #11

You are so right. R B Garr Jun 2014 #31

No, just look at the comments on this article. alarimer Jun 2014 #24

"You think it's okay for women to sleep around? Do you want your *daughter* to sleep around" nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #51

Kicked and recommended. Uncle Joe Jun 2014 #3

Anytime... Uncle Joe, Anytime... WillyT Jun 2014 #5

Peace to you, WillyT. Uncle Joe Jun 2014 #6

prude or slut. they are both used against women to shame in our sexuality. seabeyond Jun 2014 #7

pssst... WillyT Jun 2014 #8

running across all of du... seabeyond Jun 2014 #10

Thanks sea... WillyT Jun 2014 #17

Welcome back aboard! AngryAmish Jun 2014 #12

lol lol lol. it is so common now, seabeyond Jun 2014 #14

I caught two in about an hour when I was drunk. AngryAmish Jun 2014 #19

and i do it sober, go figure. and seabeyond Jun 2014 #22

Very true Sea. Well said. nt sufrommich Jun 2014 #95

Slut shaming is more about class than sex, says a new study... riderinthestorm Jun 2014 #13

i betcha it is.... and isnt. my favorite was a co worker that wanted to date. frist no's made me seabeyond Jun 2014 #16

So-called "slut shaming" and calling women prudes are in fact the same BainsBane Jun 2014 #15

And here is you doing exactly the same thing to another poster. Bonobo Jun 2014 #45

As much as you think everything is about you BainsBane Jun 2014 #47

I am happy to have this conversation. Bonobo Jun 2014 #52

My deletes were before you entered the discussion BainsBane Jun 2014 #54

he does follow you around. nt seabeyond Jun 2014 #56

and then the alerts come BainsBane Jun 2014 #60

Just as I was alerted on on my first post after my return in a response to you. nt Bonobo Jun 2014 #63

If someone uses mental illness as an insult BainsBane Jun 2014 #64

A persecution complex is a mental illness too. Bonobo Jun 2014 #65

This message was self-deleted by its author seabeyond Jun 2014 #66

Umm, LOL, no. She said I had a persecution complex in the post above. Bonobo Jun 2014 #67

i do not know where she said it. i do know you and others have said we are mentally ill, damaged, seabeyond Jun 2014 #68

She said it right above. Bonobo Jun 2014 #69

oh bullshit. seabeyond Jun 2014 #70

Naturally the only insults that count BainsBane Jun 2014 #75

You have a hypocritical attitude about silencing others. Bonobo Jun 2014 #88

If you actually read what I had written BainsBane Jun 2014 #93

So if you weren't shaming with your TMI comment Bonobo Jun 2014 #94

"pscyopaths" BainsBane Jun 2014 #72

Really? BainsBane Jun 2014 #71

It's pure hypocrisy, BB. Bonobo Jun 2014 #61

rape porn? you are comparing calling women sluts and prudes to men getting off on rape porn? seabeyond Jun 2014 #49

That poster never said he got off on rape porn. Bonobo Jun 2014 #53

yes. you are comparing a conversation during our oh so much fuggin fun defense of rape porn seabeyond Jun 2014 #55

A check in on the link will show that to be untrue. Bonobo Jun 2014 #62

No word for it zipplewrath Jun 2014 #18

if the laws can't control women, they try to use language as a substitute nt geek tragedy Jun 2014 #20

+1. perfect. and to the point. we watch it daily. lets not fool ourselves. nt seabeyond Jun 2014 #26

Yep. And there will be a multitude of DUers who will say language doesn't matter. Luminous Animal Jun 2014 #27

I wonder about the psychological makeup of any man who feels threatened or angry geek tragedy Jun 2014 #28

I can't wait for the condemnation from DUers who defended the b-bomb when Hillary is labelled with Luminous Animal Jun 2014 #30

truth is there's a lot of misogyny and racism and homophobia that's just geek tragedy Jun 2014 #35

Yep. Discussionist seems to me to be a safe place to call women bitches. The Admins here have given Luminous Animal Jun 2014 #38

discussionist is merely the extension of the jury system's logic geek tragedy Jun 2014 #39

This hasn't been news since Jezebel! WinkyDink Jun 2014 #21

The Thing Is... As Time Goes By... Less And Less People Even Know About Jezebel... WillyT Jun 2014 #23

Can that word even be quoted here? Alex P Notkeaton Jun 2014 #25

So. You wouldn't alert on a poster who said n****r? Or f****t? Luminous Animal Jun 2014 #32

As you can see by my post count, I'm a newb Alex P Notkeaton Jun 2014 #33

So, you are not a First Amendment purist because you trust others to cover your butt. Luminous Animal Jun 2014 #36

I'm detecting a Self-Appointed Prosecutor here Alex P Notkeaton Jun 2014 #37

I suspect suspecting. (Cue spooky music. Roll eyes back and forth back and forth.) Thanks for the Luminous Animal Jun 2014 #40

actually, i am hearing more a defense for the use (1st adm) and the challenge discussing the word seabeyond Jun 2014 #34

You dont think you just spelled those words there? TampaAnimusVortex Jun 2014 #96

yup La Lioness Priyanka Jun 2014 #29

imo, words and thoughts that come from men with small PowerToThePeople Jun 2014 #41

Slut-shaming seems to be more of a problem among women davidn3600 Jun 2014 #42

Like I said when you made this claim before, that study you reference didn't examine college men. Gravitycollapse Jun 2014 #43

I can't remember a single time my group of friends slut-shamed a woman davidn3600 Jun 2014 #48

No one is immune to cultural conditioning. We need to always remember that. nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #57

"But it never happened in my group of friends." - That is a fabricated belief. Gravitycollapse Jun 2014 #59

How many times have men on DU called women prudes? BainsBane Jun 2014 #74

this is such a good post baines. i do not even bother too often. yet, it is very good for others seabeyond Jun 2014 #79

Ignore the article BainsBane Jun 2014 #44

Study: Women Slut-Shame Each Other On Twitter as Much as Men Do Bonobo Jun 2014 #46

it is mostly cultural noiretextatique Jun 2014 #73

That happens a lot in middle school through high school Warpy Jun 2014 #58

"...there's no way to disprove something that has no conclusive boundaries to begin with." nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #50

My boss is well known as a slut... bunnies Jun 2014 #76

Wow... I Thought The Thread Had Been Hijacked... Thank You !! WillyT Jun 2014 #77

:) bunnies Jun 2014 #78

and while you do, does he get a huge smile, glow a little and pat himself on the seabeyond Jun 2014 #80

actually... bunnies Jun 2014 #81

sigh... lol. and that would be the difference. nt seabeyond Jun 2014 #82

Youre right. bunnies Jun 2014 #83

creep. nt seabeyond Jun 2014 #84

thats an understatement. nt bunnies Jun 2014 #85

i am sorry you have to spend your work days with a man like that. it just makes your days a little seabeyond Jun 2014 #86

Whats weird is that he's intimidated by strong women. bunnies Jun 2014 #87

ah. who is the coward now. ya. seabeyond Jun 2014 #89

bottomfeeder. bunnies Jun 2014 #90

yes, they do have their own feel. seabeyond Jun 2014 #91

Like a giant vacuum. bunnies Jun 2014 #92