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Warpy

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58. That happens a lot in middle school through high school

Wed Jun 25, 2014, 03:22 AM

Jun 2014

Girl bullies mostly use hurtful gossip against their peers, although they've been known to batter some targets. Slut shaming, putting you into that category of despised bullying target, is now being done online as well as in school. Girls can't get away from it and some of them don't make it, committing suicide before they realize it's just temporary.

After high school when nearly everybody is sexually active and don't bother to lie about it, the slut shaming shifts onto male shoulders to use against women they want to control, which is most of us at one time or another.

The main thing this article got exactly right is, "So what makes you a slut? It seems the the only hard and fast rule is that you have to be a woman."

Truer words were never spoken

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What Makes A Slut? The Only Rule, It Seems, Is Being Female - Guardian [View all] WillyT Jun 2014 OP

It's an awful double standard... The Road Runner Jun 2014 #1

We don't have a chance of moving past it Warpy Jun 2014 #2

Agreed... WillyT Jun 2014 #4

if anything, it has gotten worse Skittles Jun 2014 #9

i think so also. which is too odd. it lets us know that there is something underlining the seabeyond Jun 2014 #11

You are so right. R B Garr Jun 2014 #31

No, just look at the comments on this article. alarimer Jun 2014 #24

"You think it's okay for women to sleep around? Do you want your *daughter* to sleep around" nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #51

Kicked and recommended. Uncle Joe Jun 2014 #3

Anytime... Uncle Joe, Anytime... WillyT Jun 2014 #5

Peace to you, WillyT. Uncle Joe Jun 2014 #6

prude or slut. they are both used against women to shame in our sexuality. seabeyond Jun 2014 #7

pssst... WillyT Jun 2014 #8

running across all of du... seabeyond Jun 2014 #10

Thanks sea... WillyT Jun 2014 #17

Welcome back aboard! AngryAmish Jun 2014 #12

lol lol lol. it is so common now, seabeyond Jun 2014 #14

I caught two in about an hour when I was drunk. AngryAmish Jun 2014 #19

and i do it sober, go figure. and seabeyond Jun 2014 #22

Very true Sea. Well said. nt sufrommich Jun 2014 #95

Slut shaming is more about class than sex, says a new study... riderinthestorm Jun 2014 #13

i betcha it is.... and isnt. my favorite was a co worker that wanted to date. frist no's made me seabeyond Jun 2014 #16

So-called "slut shaming" and calling women prudes are in fact the same BainsBane Jun 2014 #15

And here is you doing exactly the same thing to another poster. Bonobo Jun 2014 #45

As much as you think everything is about you BainsBane Jun 2014 #47

I am happy to have this conversation. Bonobo Jun 2014 #52

My deletes were before you entered the discussion BainsBane Jun 2014 #54

he does follow you around. nt seabeyond Jun 2014 #56

and then the alerts come BainsBane Jun 2014 #60

Just as I was alerted on on my first post after my return in a response to you. nt Bonobo Jun 2014 #63

If someone uses mental illness as an insult BainsBane Jun 2014 #64

A persecution complex is a mental illness too. Bonobo Jun 2014 #65

This message was self-deleted by its author seabeyond Jun 2014 #66

Umm, LOL, no. She said I had a persecution complex in the post above. Bonobo Jun 2014 #67

i do not know where she said it. i do know you and others have said we are mentally ill, damaged, seabeyond Jun 2014 #68

She said it right above. Bonobo Jun 2014 #69

oh bullshit. seabeyond Jun 2014 #70

Naturally the only insults that count BainsBane Jun 2014 #75

You have a hypocritical attitude about silencing others. Bonobo Jun 2014 #88

If you actually read what I had written BainsBane Jun 2014 #93

So if you weren't shaming with your TMI comment Bonobo Jun 2014 #94

"pscyopaths" BainsBane Jun 2014 #72

Really? BainsBane Jun 2014 #71

It's pure hypocrisy, BB. Bonobo Jun 2014 #61

rape porn? you are comparing calling women sluts and prudes to men getting off on rape porn? seabeyond Jun 2014 #49

That poster never said he got off on rape porn. Bonobo Jun 2014 #53

yes. you are comparing a conversation during our oh so much fuggin fun defense of rape porn seabeyond Jun 2014 #55

A check in on the link will show that to be untrue. Bonobo Jun 2014 #62

No word for it zipplewrath Jun 2014 #18

if the laws can't control women, they try to use language as a substitute nt geek tragedy Jun 2014 #20

+1. perfect. and to the point. we watch it daily. lets not fool ourselves. nt seabeyond Jun 2014 #26

Yep. And there will be a multitude of DUers who will say language doesn't matter. Luminous Animal Jun 2014 #27

I wonder about the psychological makeup of any man who feels threatened or angry geek tragedy Jun 2014 #28

I can't wait for the condemnation from DUers who defended the b-bomb when Hillary is labelled with Luminous Animal Jun 2014 #30

truth is there's a lot of misogyny and racism and homophobia that's just geek tragedy Jun 2014 #35

Yep. Discussionist seems to me to be a safe place to call women bitches. The Admins here have given Luminous Animal Jun 2014 #38

discussionist is merely the extension of the jury system's logic geek tragedy Jun 2014 #39

This hasn't been news since Jezebel! WinkyDink Jun 2014 #21

The Thing Is... As Time Goes By... Less And Less People Even Know About Jezebel... WillyT Jun 2014 #23

Can that word even be quoted here? Alex P Notkeaton Jun 2014 #25

So. You wouldn't alert on a poster who said n****r? Or f****t? Luminous Animal Jun 2014 #32

As you can see by my post count, I'm a newb Alex P Notkeaton Jun 2014 #33

So, you are not a First Amendment purist because you trust others to cover your butt. Luminous Animal Jun 2014 #36

I'm detecting a Self-Appointed Prosecutor here Alex P Notkeaton Jun 2014 #37

I suspect suspecting. (Cue spooky music. Roll eyes back and forth back and forth.) Thanks for the Luminous Animal Jun 2014 #40

actually, i am hearing more a defense for the use (1st adm) and the challenge discussing the word seabeyond Jun 2014 #34

You dont think you just spelled those words there? TampaAnimusVortex Jun 2014 #96

yup La Lioness Priyanka Jun 2014 #29

imo, words and thoughts that come from men with small PowerToThePeople Jun 2014 #41

Slut-shaming seems to be more of a problem among women davidn3600 Jun 2014 #42

Like I said when you made this claim before, that study you reference didn't examine college men. Gravitycollapse Jun 2014 #43

I can't remember a single time my group of friends slut-shamed a woman davidn3600 Jun 2014 #48

No one is immune to cultural conditioning. We need to always remember that. nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #57

"But it never happened in my group of friends." - That is a fabricated belief. Gravitycollapse Jun 2014 #59

How many times have men on DU called women prudes? BainsBane Jun 2014 #74

this is such a good post baines. i do not even bother too often. yet, it is very good for others seabeyond Jun 2014 #79

Ignore the article BainsBane Jun 2014 #44

Study: Women Slut-Shame Each Other On Twitter as Much as Men Do Bonobo Jun 2014 #46

it is mostly cultural noiretextatique Jun 2014 #73

That happens a lot in middle school through high school Warpy Jun 2014 #58

"...there's no way to disprove something that has no conclusive boundaries to begin with." nomorenomore08 Jun 2014 #50

My boss is well known as a slut... bunnies Jun 2014 #76

Wow... I Thought The Thread Had Been Hijacked... Thank You !! WillyT Jun 2014 #77

:) bunnies Jun 2014 #78

and while you do, does he get a huge smile, glow a little and pat himself on the seabeyond Jun 2014 #80

actually... bunnies Jun 2014 #81

sigh... lol. and that would be the difference. nt seabeyond Jun 2014 #82

Youre right. bunnies Jun 2014 #83

creep. nt seabeyond Jun 2014 #84

thats an understatement. nt bunnies Jun 2014 #85

i am sorry you have to spend your work days with a man like that. it just makes your days a little seabeyond Jun 2014 #86

Whats weird is that he's intimidated by strong women. bunnies Jun 2014 #87

ah. who is the coward now. ya. seabeyond Jun 2014 #89

bottomfeeder. bunnies Jun 2014 #90

yes, they do have their own feel. seabeyond Jun 2014 #91

Like a giant vacuum. bunnies Jun 2014 #92