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redqueen

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155. Women are not tense about message boards. Women are fed the fuck up with sexism.

Wed Jul 16, 2014, 11:40 AM

Jul 2014

ALL OF IT. Not just the forms that the average, unaware person recognizes

And if it bothers some so much to be informed then that's just too fucking bad.

Your posts here are belittling and ugly. Thanks for being an example.

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"Nit-picking about language" [View all] BainsBane Jul 2014 OP

Well said, BB pinboy3niner Jul 2014 #1

The PM was as violent as the one Seabeyond got. sufrommich Jul 2014 #2

The comment to Seabeyond was actually in the open forums BainsBane Jul 2014 #3

She's had so many nasty things said to her sufrommich Jul 2014 #16

... madinmaryland Jul 2014 #4

I'm confused irisblue Jul 2014 #33

no, he insulted an idol Skittles Jul 2014 #58

insult + anal rape are not close in shameful behavior irisblue Jul 2014 #65

well I know that Skittles Jul 2014 #66

See #85 (nt) muriel_volestrangler Jul 2014 #86

Because this is JUST LIKE calling Barack Obama "a piece-of-shit used car salesman". Spider Jerusalem Jul 2014 #67

They may be referring to the earlier incident muriel_volestrangler Jul 2014 #85

I agree. Those who are puffed up with outrage over the word policing kcr Jul 2014 #5

Indeed BainsBane Jul 2014 #6

What this person said to cali in the PM was shameful Generic Other Jul 2014 #7

I am trying to clarify the situation BainsBane Jul 2014 #10

I agree. It was a disgusting and violent verbal assault. No one like that should be here. n/t pnwmom Jul 2014 #11

No one is insinuating any such thing. Squinch Jul 2014 #14

This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Jul 2014 #22

K&R! hrmjustin Jul 2014 #8

That PM was beyond disrespectful - both to a woman and Marie Marie Jul 2014 #9

While I have already expressed my feelings regarding the email cali received, and newcriminal Jul 2014 #12

Context matters BainsBane Jul 2014 #20

I think someone's reaction to other people's language shows a great deal about them. newcriminal Jul 2014 #26

Again, it's about context BainsBane Jul 2014 #29

You obviously have a reading comprehension problem, newcriminal Jul 2014 #31

Now you're being deliberately rude. I'm finished. BainsBane Jul 2014 #35

This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Jul 2014 #37

Do you have anything to contribute to this thread? BainsBane Jul 2014 #79

I usually only get offended when EvilAL Jul 2014 #100

Are you saying you don't find that PM offensive? BainsBane Jul 2014 #102

It's mean and rude. EvilAL Jul 2014 #105

it is a discussion board. we are discussing an issue. what is the problem with that? seabeyond Jul 2014 #109

It is not a problem for me at all, EvilAL Jul 2014 #117

If you have an ounce of empathy, yes. nt geek tragedy Jul 2014 #111

If you see someone using racist or homophobic slurs, do you find that offensive? redqueen Jul 2014 #114

This isn't about any of those things. EvilAL Jul 2014 #119

Cali received a hateful, misogynist PM. Do you find misogyny offensive? redqueen Jul 2014 #125

In person I can do something about it. EvilAL Jul 2014 #128

Do you think punching someone teaches them anything? redqueen Jul 2014 #130

I used it as an example EvilAL Jul 2014 #132

Your opinion is that people don't have to be offended by misogyny. redqueen Jul 2014 #133

Listen, EvilAL Jul 2014 #137

I'm just going by what you say here. redqueen Jul 2014 #145

No. That's not what I am saying. EvilAL Jul 2014 #151

People on a progressive message board shouldn't have to be told to be offended by bigotry. nt redqueen Jul 2014 #156

People anywhere shouldn't be TOLD to be offended by anything. EvilAL Jul 2014 #159

What you don't seem to understand is that this isn't just about being offended. redqueen Jul 2014 #161

This whole thread started from my response about being offended for other people. EvilAL Jul 2014 #163

Yeah.... ok. You're not making a lick of sense so I'm out. nt redqueen Jul 2014 #171

it unraveled a while ago, he could say he didnt like, we just couldnt say offensive. i hear ya. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #175

you do not like it. i dont either. that seems to be fine. it seem 'offended" is what offends seabeyond Jul 2014 #135

yeah, EvilAL Jul 2014 #141

I am offended by ALL bigotry. cali Jul 2014 #184

Yet you're here, arguing with us BainsBane Jul 2014 #149

I said none of that. EvilAL Jul 2014 #153

OMG. It is not about you BainsBane Jul 2014 #167

The issue isn't whether you are personally offended BainsBane Jul 2014 #122

I'm not arguing against the tombstone EvilAL Jul 2014 #124

And yet here you are taking time out of your busy day thucythucy Jul 2014 #168

I think any decent human would be offended by that pm. You are right that "people shouldn't be told. uppityperson Jul 2014 #196

" I don't get offended for other people" sufrommich Jul 2014 #106

Really? EvilAL Jul 2014 #113

So, by your standard straight white Christian men wouldn't be offended by the KKK, geek tragedy Jul 2014 #110

I don't like the KKK, WBC, Nazis EvilAL Jul 2014 #115

you just said you don't get offended about bigotry directed at anyone but yourself geek tragedy Jul 2014 #116

I think it is offensive to be told what is offensive to me, EvilAL Jul 2014 #121

so your point was to tell everyone you weren't offended geek tragedy Jul 2014 #126

I think it is a violation of the rules and the tombstone was justified. EvilAL Jul 2014 #131

Seriously? Where's your moral conscience? alp227 Jul 2014 #150

I don't think it was a nice thing to PM EvilAL Jul 2014 #157

So why parse it like that, alp227 Jul 2014 #166

good to know it is "not nice" anyway. lol. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #173

"not nice". wow. that's some strong language you're using. You really ought to tone it down. cali Jul 2014 #187

So can you explain why one should NOT be offended at things that AAO wrote like alp227 Jul 2014 #71

No I can not. What is your point? newcriminal Jul 2014 #88

OK, I see you did vote to hide AAO's post. alp227 Jul 2014 #148

Much as many others may refuse to live pretending that the back-handed compliments are righteous... LanternWaste Jul 2014 #95

the men using this giggle, laugh, chuckle, in the womans face. they wink, jab in the rib seabeyond Jul 2014 #98

Over and over again we're presented with melodrama pretending to be a premise LanternWaste Jul 2014 #140

the hypersensitive anti censorship people? lol. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #183

not entirely on words hfojvt Jul 2014 #27

Funny, the only complaints I hear on "word policing" are about those that insult women.. whathehell Jul 2014 #180

That's easy, I don't hear minorities or gays on DU newcriminal Jul 2014 #181

LOL..Not as easy as you think.. whathehell Jul 2014 #200

well said, indeed. I just saw this whole thing, and am sickened by what that poster sent to niyad Jul 2014 #13

Sometimes I question JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #154

Agreed. He wrote himself a coupon for a free tombstone pizza with that PM. Salviati Jul 2014 #15

Number of Words in the English Language: 1,025,109.8 conservaphobe Jul 2014 #17

Exactly! n/t Spazito Jul 2014 #99

The true colors were in the pm. Proclivity for ignorance. lonestarnot Jul 2014 #18

You won't see me "Nit picking about language" William769 Jul 2014 #19

That guy's PM was vile and atrocious. His instant tombstone was appropriate. Comrade Grumpy Jul 2014 #21

wise move BainsBane Jul 2014 #23

Like this post right here. newcriminal Jul 2014 #28

pick a better example. that was surpassingly lame. cali Jul 2014 #188

I think this was a fine example. newcriminal Jul 2014 #190

I like to nit-pick hfojvt Jul 2014 #24

No, I'm not BainsBane Jul 2014 #25

yes you are hfojvt Jul 2014 #30

attributing arguments to me I did not make is not a respectful discussion BainsBane Jul 2014 #38

I can read your mind. zeemike Jul 2014 #44

I'm going to go off on a tangent here. laundry_queen Jul 2014 #32

Well said! n/t Spazito Jul 2014 #36

"Once you see it you can't unsee it" BainsBane Jul 2014 #39

That's not a tangent at all. You put it all into context perfectly. Starry Messenger Jul 2014 #41

I am so sorry to hear you had such a bad life experience. zeemike Jul 2014 #54

Or maybe she's not seeing it more often than when it's actually there. Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #69

What can I say? zeemike Jul 2014 #89

Enemy? Why the hyperbole? redqueen Jul 2014 #108

my boys are not tied to these sayings. when i point out, woman scorned, or all women liars, seabeyond Jul 2014 #112

"our generation, you would think we are kicking a kitten." redqueen Jul 2014 #118

you have a saying men love to use at women, to bond with peers, to laugh, giggle, wink, pat each seabeyond Jul 2014 #120

Because meta posts deserve hyperbole. zeemike Jul 2014 #143

It is hyperbole. No one is hunting anything. No one called anyone sexist redqueen Jul 2014 #146

Well FYI I don't even know who you are talking about. zeemike Jul 2014 #164

Wow, nice job trying to turn it around. redqueen Jul 2014 #172

And if you wear a victim cap, every criticism seems like victimization. Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #139

Well of course you know it was hyperbole. zeemike Jul 2014 #158

So sorry that you're not interested in an actual discussion. Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #162

And I did clarify intent zeemike Jul 2014 #170

And I disagreed once you did so. Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #177

As powerful as the assumptions you make. zeemike Jul 2014 #182

If you don't want to read my comments to your posts, use the ignore button. Gormy Cuss Jul 2014 #185

You explained it well. Solly Mack Jul 2014 #62

I'm so sorry all that happened to you steve2470 Jul 2014 #63

I didn't realize my parents were narcissists betsuni Jul 2014 #84

Excellent, excellent post. nt redqueen Jul 2014 #104

It was a violent personal attack coming from a misogynist sociopath delrem Jul 2014 #34

All Meta. All the time. nt Bonobo Jul 2014 #40

I see it as discussing the discussion. cyberswede Jul 2014 #48

And we all know the players even without a program Union Scribe Jul 2014 #87

Yet, that is what brought you here from the other website. nt geek tragedy Jul 2014 #107

That was a well-deserved PPR steve2470 Jul 2014 #42

I can't imagine it would occur to you BainsBane Jul 2014 #43

oh never in a trillion years steve2470 Jul 2014 #45

I've read enough of your posts to know what you're about BainsBane Jul 2014 #46

yep, I was just using myself as an example which was not the best way to express myself steve2470 Jul 2014 #47

I find this banning entirely justified Blue_In_AK Jul 2014 #49

I remember that BainsBane Jul 2014 #50

Yes, that was it. Blue_In_AK Jul 2014 #57

I can't believe i missed it. bravenak Jul 2014 #51

Well, the crib note version BainsBane Jul 2014 #52

Tons?!? bravenak Jul 2014 #53

The PM's were a bannable offense bluestateguy Jul 2014 #55

That nut (AAO) had more hides in 3 months Jamaal510 Jul 2014 #56

Most of those hides came after he was banned BainsBane Jul 2014 #59

You DO realize that your post was proofread under a microscope. Right? Spitfire of ATJ Jul 2014 #60

Yeah. It's okay BainsBane Jul 2014 #61

Agreed, and I agreed with the jury that didn't hide the "scorned" OP LittleBlue Jul 2014 #64

Words matter, for some DUrs to pretend they do not seems a bit ironic considering AuntPatsy Jul 2014 #68

Have you seen anyone say they oppose the banning? BainsBane Jul 2014 #70

No, nor would I I would think if some had an ounce of common sense considering, but I have AuntPatsy Jul 2014 #72

Then you are more versed in it than I BainsBane Jul 2014 #73

I find it a bit ironic that those arguing that words do not nor should not matter to someone at the AuntPatsy Jul 2014 #75

Those same people argue that everything feminists focus on is trivial BainsBane Jul 2014 #77

Ive lost count of how many times I have heard in the case of rape, well its not really rape if AuntPatsy Jul 2014 #78

ha. i was reading a poster state calling out makes a woman weak/victim as i watch her then call out seabeyond Jul 2014 #91

I've noticed the same BainsBane Jul 2014 #103

THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS redqueen Jul 2014 #123

It's not hard to understand. MadrasT Jul 2014 #138

Yes, I noticed it too. kcr Jul 2014 #136

When no one actually claimed to speak for all women BainsBane Jul 2014 #142

What's really ironic is all the nit-picking of a post on "Nit-picking about language." nt pinboy3niner Jul 2014 #74

Not at all, sometimes when a thread gets too long, many have a hard time keeping up by reading every AuntPatsy Jul 2014 #76

I think we are in agreement pinboy3niner Jul 2014 #83

anyone will recognize the conditioning fox does. but, touch one of their loves, and the argument seabeyond Jul 2014 #90

Well said! People know very well how much language matters. redqueen Jul 2014 #127

The two issues aren't related... Hofbrau Jul 2014 #80

Which two issues? n/t moriah Jul 2014 #81

Word policing and the obviously inappropriate PM.. Hofbrau Jul 2014 #82

Yes, they are. By not 'policing' sexist messages, we are contributing to the reinforcement of redqueen Jul 2014 #129

Message auto-removed Name removed Jul 2014 #134

I see. BainsBane Jul 2014 #144

Message auto-removed Name removed Jul 2014 #147

Women are not tense about message boards. Women are fed the fuck up with sexism. redqueen Jul 2014 #155

... cyberswede Jul 2014 #160

ya know. lol. nt seabeyond Jul 2014 #176

Message auto-removed Name removed Jul 2014 #179

"None to be had" BainsBane Jul 2014 #165

Message auto-removed Name removed Jul 2014 #178

we have been doing it long enough to know, when "change minds and gain support" seabeyond Jul 2014 #174

Yes - that seems pretty clear. nt el_bryanto Jul 2014 #92

OK. But the fact that the member received a vile PM doesn't give her any special right Romulox Jul 2014 #93

And how do you suppose she is doing that? BainsBane Jul 2014 #94

I could live 3 lifetimes, and I could never have authored that PM. Romulox Jul 2014 #96

You of course can use any language you choose BainsBane Jul 2014 #97

What abuse? Please point to anything in my op of yesterday on sexism that you found abusive cali Jul 2014 #189

I'm referring to the responses throughout the thread to people who disagreed with you. Romulox Jul 2014 #191

examples please. and context. In other words, what was I responding to. cali Jul 2014 #192

I've said my peace on the subject. I don't think it's fair to tar me with the contents of the PM Romulox Jul 2014 #193

my pm? what are you talking about. cali Jul 2014 #198

That was a bad word choice. I apologize, and I edited. I am otherwise done here. nt Romulox Jul 2014 #199

which of course I wasn't doing. I was expressing my opinion. Just as YOU do. cali Jul 2014 #194

This is a good example of what I was talking about. nt Romulox Jul 2014 #195

really? If you think that's abusive, I question your understanding of the word. cali Jul 2014 #197

Those claiming nitpicking about words sure have my scorn. merrily Jul 2014 #101

Way behind on this but JustAnotherGen Jul 2014 #152

Well said. K & R. thucythucy Jul 2014 #169

This message was self-deleted by its author ChisolmTrailDem Jul 2014 #186

Locking Sissyk Jul 2014 #201