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FSogol

(47,600 posts)
Thu Jul 31, 2014, 02:00 PM Jul 2014

Are you raising nice kids? A Harvard psychologist gives 5 ways to raise them to be kind [View all]

By Amy Joyce at the Washington Post.

"Earlier this year, I wrote about teaching empathy, and whether you are a parent who does so. The idea behind it is from Richard Weissbourd, a Harvard psychologist with the graduate school of education, who runs the Making Caring Common project, aimed to help teach kids to be kind.

I know, you’d think they are or that parents are teaching that themselves, right? Not so, according to a new study released by the group.

About 80 percent of the youth in the study said their parents were more concerned with their achievement or happiness than whether they cared for others. The interviewees were also three times more likely to agree that “My parents are prouder if I get good grades in my classes than if I’m a caring community member in class and school.”

Weissbourd and his cohorts have come up with recommendations about how to raise children to become caring, respectful and responsible adults. Why is this important? Because if we want our children to be moral people, we have to, well, raise them that way."


Whole article here

http://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2014/07/18/are-you-raising-nice-kids-a-harvard-psychologist-gives-5-ways-to-raise-them-to-be-kind/

To his list of 5, I'd say add a component of nature/respect for living things to their metrics for kindness.

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This seems incredibly important marions ghost Jul 2014 #1
Gotta agree. The point about being kind as being just as important as FSogol Jul 2014 #2
The five ways are: JimDandy Jul 2014 #3
+1 n/t FSogol Jul 2014 #4
Thanks! lovemydog Jul 2014 #8
"All I really want to know is.... bvar22 Jul 2014 #5
The article twice mentions obligation to a sports team, but fails to mention -- radicalliberal Jul 2014 #6
They mentioned sports as in your actions affecting others and used how quitting would affect others FSogol Jul 2014 #10
I agree that one's obligations to others is important in group situations, -- radicalliberal Jul 2014 #12
This social scientist who is promoting teaching kids to be kind is not advocating treating others FSogol Aug 2014 #20
This message was self-deleted by its author radicalliberal Aug 2014 #23
This would be a mistake: "I won't even log in again." FSogol Aug 2014 #24
That is interesting treestar Jul 2014 #7
Same here. lovemydog Jul 2014 #9
"My Religion is Kindness" Coventina Jul 2014 #11
The extreme level of competitiveness marions ghost Jul 2014 #13
When my daughter was young gwheezie Jul 2014 #14
Same here. Both of my sons have volunteered weekly at the local food bank since they were little. FSogol Aug 2014 #21
Empathy is THE key to raising children laundry_queen Jul 2014 #15
Wish I could rec your post. winter is coming Jul 2014 #17
Oh, absolutely! laundry_queen Jul 2014 #19
+1 n/t FSogol Aug 2014 #22
Hell, no; I'm raising my kid to be a Republican. winter is coming Jul 2014 #16
Empathy used to be seen as a virtue, now it's seen as a weakness. enigmatic Jul 2014 #18
And read good fiction aloud to them (well above their own reading level) and talk about pnwmom Aug 2014 #25
I take care of my kid BlueJazz Aug 2014 #26
Now all the republican parents know what not to do! BillZBubb Aug 2014 #27
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