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laundry_queen

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37. So true.

Reply to Odin2005 (Reply #4)

Sun Apr 8, 2012, 03:10 PM

Apr 2012

This is also a philosophy among so many therapists and support groups. I belong to a support group, and I find it's always the authoritarian, bully types who trumpet, "Stop being the victim! Everything happens for a reason (or alternately, 'God has a plan'. Use this [in my case abuse] as an opportunity to GROW. Be thankful for your path- it made you who you are today. Don't assign blame, your abusers were abused too. Forgive them, they are victims too. blah blah blah." Anything *BUT* holding them accountable. It's very frustrating - it's not just among the oppressed, it's rampant among the abused or victimized as well. I mentioned once that I refuse to forgive and forget because it means I'm enabling their abusive behavior. I HAVE moved on with my life, and I don't dwell normally BUT I'm not going to just 'let' people act that way. No way. And that's really what that kind of talk is all about - enabling the oppressors and letting them get away with it. IMVHO.

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That is my conclusion as a mere fellow history buff Tom Ripley Apr 2012 #38

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+1000 +++ n/t RKP5637 Apr 2012 #9

+10000000 Definitely bumper sticker material. snagglepuss Apr 2012 #12

Naiiiiiled it. nt laundry_queen Apr 2012 #34

That perfect summary also describes how the Church teaches Christianity. gtar100 Apr 2012 #42

Typical reactionary "Self-Help" BS. Odin2005 Apr 2012 #4

I guess the admin @ the link is deleting comments that are calling this for the RW BS that it is. HughBeaumont Apr 2012 #7

So true. laundry_queen Apr 2012 #37

When I saw the thread title mactime Apr 2012 #5

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Or as T Bone Burnett would say, gvstn Apr 2012 #13

dandy. provis99 Apr 2012 #14

If you only relate these rules to politics, sure they're stupid frazzled Apr 2012 #15

This was an excellent analysis from this perspective IMO. I agree with all you said!!! n/t RKP5637 Apr 2012 #18

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Very well said. Thank you. :) n/t OneGrassRoot Apr 2012 #24

that's a very, very important distinction to make--thanks! renate Apr 2012 #25

+1 treestar Apr 2012 #29

yes, they sound very Zen to me ThomThom Apr 2012 #30

Except that not much of what I said had to do with politics. HughBeaumont Apr 2012 #31

I hate shit like that XanaDUer Apr 2012 #16

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I think that's the Republican/Conservative SOP. nt gateley Apr 2012 #32

I always love your posts! renate Apr 2012 #26

Wow -- thanks! I never thought anybody read them! :-) nt gateley Apr 2012 #33

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