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In reply to the discussion: Rape play is NOT rape. [View all]BainsBane
(53,034 posts)BDSM porn and rape porn, and now you're giving lessons?
I happen to agree in general with your point here (though I might not if I never the specific content that prompted this post), but I find odd the juxtaposition between this and your OP yesterday.
The difference between what people describe as women's fantasies of rape are that the woman is consenting, she has control. Rape is defined by the absence of consent.
Rape "play" as you call it, however, can reflect the power dynamics in society more broadly and in that sense are reflective of patriarchy. If you're talking about porn, that goes beyond private behavior between consenting adults to representations that both reflect and contribute to cultural views about rape--meaning it reinforces rape culture.