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77. Why is that?

Tue Aug 12, 2014, 12:13 PM

Aug 2014

and there we have the $64.oo question!

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a crucial question expressing the basic issue on a problematical subject
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so called from the fact that $64 was the highest award in the CBS radio quiz show “Take Italian or Leave It” (1941–48)

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Rape play is NOT rape. [View all] darkangel218 Aug 2014 OP

Putting the words "rape" and "play" together is messed up. sufrommich Aug 2014 #1

"I don't care whether it's a "lifestyle" you approve of or not." darkangel218 Aug 2014 #3

"Pretty sick." JTFrog Aug 2014 #9

I understand the difference plenty. darkangel218 Aug 2014 #15

It isn't so much condemnation as it is an honest look at dysfunctional behavior and the psyches KittyWampus Aug 2014 #12

Are you calling BDSM a "dysfunctional behavior"? darkangel218 Aug 2014 #17

it's the behavioral manifestation of imbalance in the psyche. So, yes. KittyWampus Aug 2014 #25

Can you provide peer-reviewed sources and document that your opinion is the prevailing clinical riqster Aug 2014 #62

Imbalance? Based on what objective standard? phil89 Aug 2014 #85

you're making stuff up samsingh Aug 2014 #93

Yes, and heading in the direction of encouraging some to think it's ok. elleng Aug 2014 #84

Ditto, cwydro Aug 2014 #5

How nice of you to be so judgmental of the actions of consenting adults HERVEPA Aug 2014 #24

That's not the end it all argument people think it is treestar Aug 2014 #98

Serious question. How can you judge whether the consent is real HERVEPA Aug 2014 #102

I don't know, but I don't tend to question the veracity of rape victims. boston bean Aug 2014 #117

What???? The subject was "rape play", which is between consenting adults, not "rape" HERVEPA Aug 2014 #121

Russian Crane Operator Fail snooper2 Aug 2014 #2

The word rape has a meaning JaydenD Aug 2014 #4

It behooves her not to understand. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #6

It's the defined term though Blue_Adept Aug 2014 #11

I would like to see a study of women who were actually raped JaydenD Aug 2014 #36

That's not what they're fantasizing about though Blue_Adept Aug 2014 #38

Then it should be called something other than 'play rape'. That is too offensive. JaydenD Aug 2014 #46

And there is a slow change to that, as I said elsewhere in the thread Blue_Adept Aug 2014 #65

Ravishment would be a much more acceptable word to use. JaydenD Aug 2014 #73

Doubtful Prophet 451 Aug 2014 #72

*trigger warning* to fantasize about ravishment and to play a game Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #60

That's about old fashioned, patriarchal idea treestar Aug 2014 #97

That's it exactly. historylovr Aug 2014 #106

Post removed Post removed Aug 2014 #19

"well respected". LOLZ KittyWampus Aug 2014 #26

That's right, it is not TheSarcastinator Aug 2014 #7

+1 redqueen Aug 2014 #37

Then it is not rape if there is sexual arousement by the one being 'raped'. JaydenD Aug 2014 #41

If all parties want it and consent to it freely, and can stop it if they want, KitSileya Aug 2014 #48

Exactly so, KitSileya JaydenD Aug 2014 #58

If both parties are into it PowerToThePeople Aug 2014 #8

I definitely support someone's right to engage in such "play" if it's consensual. Doesn't mean KittyWampus Aug 2014 #14

Why not? Blue_Adept Aug 2014 #18

how many people have fantasies of suicide? Does that mean such fantasies are "balanced"? KittyWampus Aug 2014 #27

Take a trip down memory lane at what people considered unbalanced over the years Blue_Adept Aug 2014 #31

That's not really an apt comparison. Unvanguard Aug 2014 #34

that's based on the romanticizing of it treestar Aug 2014 #96

Psychological Characteristics of BDSM Practitioners. pokerfan Aug 2014 #129

I agree with that PowerToThePeople Aug 2014 #20

Coping mechanism seems like a very good descriptive. I have them, you have them, we all have them KittyWampus Aug 2014 #29

Are you a trained psychological professional? riqster Aug 2014 #67

As long as those methods do not bring undesired harm to others, I am ok with it. Thirties Child Aug 2014 #132

spank me please. PowerToThePeople Aug 2014 #133

Yes feeding rape fantasies - it's not like that could ever have negative consequences el_bryanto Aug 2014 #10

Well, according to our resident experts- these things are contractually agreed upon before starting. KittyWampus Aug 2014 #13

Should be. riqster Aug 2014 #33

Ever hear of a safe word? HERVEPA Aug 2014 #28

Well you should take some comfort in the fact that there are no sex police el_bryanto Aug 2014 #32

Not my problem, but I have a thought. riqster Aug 2014 #55

The idea of participating in a rape fantasy is abhorrent to me. HERVEPA Aug 2014 #68

whoever mercuryblues Aug 2014 #16

Its being villified as it was. darkangel218 Aug 2014 #21

No I didn't mercuryblues Aug 2014 #61

Why is that? Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #77

bingo mercuryblues Aug 2014 #95

I wonder if any of the 'whatever gets you off' types are as supportive of racist porn. redqueen Aug 2014 #101

What is racist porn? dilby Aug 2014 #104

Just Google the term. redqueen Aug 2014 #110

Good to know that interracial porn is racist porn. n/t dilby Aug 2014 #113

LOL, nice try. People who know what they're talking about won't be fooled by your mendacious spin redqueen Aug 2014 #114

Sorry but I have a feeling you find all porn to be offensive and will find anything dilby Aug 2014 #116

And if you cared enough do do one fucking bit of research for yourself redqueen Aug 2014 #119

Whatever games people want to play in their own bedrooms with each other is fine with me but ... dawg Aug 2014 #22

Youre contradicting yourself. darkangel218 Aug 2014 #40

Because the movie doesn't depict "play". dawg Aug 2014 #52

The whole point behind "play" is to "pretend" is real. darkangel218 Aug 2014 #53

If the film actually depicted it as role play, showing the couple planning it and then ... dawg Aug 2014 #57

I don't care for the term and do not use it. But you are right about the substance. riqster Aug 2014 #23

Exactly right. darkangel218 Aug 2014 #44

. cyberswede Aug 2014 #30

I can see you're not just trying to start a fight. Iggo Aug 2014 #35

+1 redqueen Aug 2014 #39

. Iggo Aug 2014 #50

And i can see you dont have much to contribute to the conversation. darkangel218 Aug 2014 #42

Yesterday you claimed not to know the difference between BainsBane Aug 2014 #43

Youre misinterpreting what i asked. I asked what the definition was , according to those complaning darkangel218 Aug 2014 #49

Rape has everything to do with patriarchy BainsBane Aug 2014 #54

BS. Many women enjoy rape play. darkangel218 Aug 2014 #56

You clearly understood nothing I wrote BainsBane Aug 2014 #115

Please link to anywhere here where anyone said any consensual act was rape. Squinch Aug 2014 #45

Defending rape play is pretty messed up. krawhitham Aug 2014 #47

Its LEGAL, safe and consentual. darkangel218 Aug 2014 #51

Picking your nose in public is legal too jberryhill Aug 2014 #108

darkangel218 don't waste your breath, this site is full of Puritans that frown unless it's dilby Aug 2014 #59

HIGHLY incorrect Blue_Adept Aug 2014 #63

I am sorry but I see too many people who judge based on lifestyle. dilby Aug 2014 #71

What about puritans who are only into missionary? You seem to be judging them. cyberswede Aug 2014 #74

Puritans are fine till they start telling people that other lifestyles are objectionable. n/t dilby Aug 2014 #75

Do you have any links to examples of that on DU? cyberswede Aug 2014 #78

He won't find any links Texasgal Aug 2014 #80

Pretty sure this thread is a perfect example. dilby Aug 2014 #81

Objection to a term isn't the same as mandating what consenting adults can do. cyberswede Aug 2014 #88

There likely aren't any Blue_Adept Aug 2014 #82

I've seen people point out the problems with rape porn cyberswede Aug 2014 #90

+1. Thank you, Blue_Adept. historylovr Aug 2014 #92

Thank you for your post. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #131

This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words Aug 2014 #87

This dawg is no Puritan. dawg Aug 2014 #91

Where did you get all that straw? treestar Aug 2014 #100

The jury voted 1-6 to Leave It. In_The_Wind Aug 2014 #112

and again seaglass Aug 2014 #64

Between consenting adults, in a private setting? mokawanis Aug 2014 #66

Between CONSENTING adults? Prophet 451 Aug 2014 #69

I am shocked, SHOCKED, that you can no longer post in your own OP! demmiblue Aug 2014 #70

I think people who enjoy 'playing rape' are pretty messed up too. WI_DEM Aug 2014 #76

What else do you think is messed up? Blue_Adept Aug 2014 #79

The words 'rape' and 'play' don't belong in the same sentence... TeeYiYi Aug 2014 #83

i agree but most rape porn is rape porn. La Lioness Priyanka Aug 2014 #86

If that's what turns you on. NCTraveler Aug 2014 #89

i agree with you samsingh Aug 2014 #94

If you mean simulated rape porn, then yes, I agree with you. Iron Man Aug 2014 #99

People have a right to do whatever they want consensually. MadrasT Aug 2014 #103

Using rape to troll is really gross. LeftyMom Aug 2014 #105

I was #3 PeaceNikki Aug 2014 #136

Two threads on this in one day? MineralMan Aug 2014 #107

Remember two things: LadyHawkAZ Aug 2014 #109

rape is never 'play', never. People should be more honest, if you can't get it up without violence.. Sunlei Aug 2014 #111

Since when do women get it up? dilby Aug 2014 #118

perhaps she will go with you to a session. Sunlei Aug 2014 #122

Why do I or a woman need a session? dilby Aug 2014 #124

if it's only women who are "into Rape Play" then with whom are they playing? other women? Scout Aug 2014 #125

Sometimes people do what they are not into to accommodate their partners. dilby Aug 2014 #127

Sounds like you just blurred the line... TeeYiYi Aug 2014 #128

If both parties agree then it's consensual. dilby Aug 2014 #134

If it's not rape... TeeYiYi Aug 2014 #120

Oh get over yourself FFS! Texasgal Aug 2014 #123

+1 FSogol Aug 2014 #126

it is spelled c-o-n-s-e-n-s-u-a-l Kali Aug 2014 #130

might be? yeah. she just might be. Tuesday Afternoon Aug 2014 #135

By editing your OP to complain about your hidden post in MineralMan Aug 2014 #137

On host review. Poster's recent edit of the OP clarified this for us. Locking. pinto Aug 2014 #138