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24. If anyone wonders why women are afraid to react forcefully, here is proof.

Thu Aug 28, 2014, 01:38 AM

Aug 2014

Many women are extremely careful in how they react to men who violate boundaries. These kinds of men can react violently and women know that, which is why women often hedge in their language and try to find the nicest way to let a guy down easy. Unfortunately, the kind of men who violate boundaries take the careful, nice reaction as an indication to continue. Then they blame the woman for "leading them on." This kind of man doesn't take no: if you say it nicely, it means "yes", if you say it forcefully, it means you're a bitch who needs to be taught a lesson.

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This is what happened to a woman who said "no" to a stranger's gropes [View all] Liberal_in_LA Aug 2014 OP

sadly, the man's assumption that he had every right to violate her physical being and space is niyad Aug 2014 #1

It's horrible that he got away with it. Sister to TxTowelie Aug 2014 #2

my guess would be "before he rapes again and kills". that sort of hatefulness does not spring niyad Aug 2014 #7

I agree gollygee Aug 2014 #11

This is why I've become an advocate for women actively defending themselves. Nuclear Unicorn Aug 2014 #25

He put all of his weight into the punch. sheshe2 Aug 2014 #3

Post removed Post removed Aug 2014 #4

If that's not sarcasm mythology Aug 2014 #5

Same here laundry_queen Aug 2014 #23

Good grief. It's totally obviously sarcasm. Are folks that tone deaf. HERVEPA Aug 2014 #28

really? indie9197 Aug 2014 #6

given the climate of woman-hatred, you and anybody who helped you would probably be niyad Aug 2014 #9

where do you live? I will avoid that area. n/t indie9197 Aug 2014 #13

Gotta wonder if the author of that now hidden post, ever did anything to stop it. Luminous Animal Aug 2014 #12

Good grief! It was clearly sarcasm. Men don't llike men who puch women. That's pretty much universal HERVEPA Aug 2014 #29

wow--glad I do not move in your circles. were you ever able to stop such an outrage? niyad Aug 2014 #8

This outcome is why I do not endorse women laying their hands on gropers. Luminous Animal Aug 2014 #10

You would think a woman would be safe in a crowded atmosphere, indie9197 Aug 2014 #14

And, as described in my first scenario, bystanders willing to assist may be physically unable to do Luminous Animal Aug 2014 #15

That is a horrific experience. What happened to him? n/t indie9197 Aug 2014 #17

Nothing. This was in 1976. Police never showed up. College had no interest in investigating. Luminous Animal Aug 2014 #20

Crowd psychology sub.theory Aug 2014 #19

What gives you the right to say this woman didn't need to defend herself? BainsBane Aug 2014 #18

rollie eyes. My husband was recently physically assaulted. The stupidest thing he could have done Luminous Animal Aug 2014 #21

I don't think she is saying that, just that it can be dangerous. stevenleser Aug 2014 #32

Thanks for sharing. I beat myself up for ecstatic Aug 2014 #30

Lock him up forever sub.theory Aug 2014 #16

I've been known to swing my fist at groping men. But I grew up in a physical family. WCLinolVir Aug 2014 #22

If anyone wonders why women are afraid to react forcefully, here is proof. Wella Aug 2014 #24

Fucking dangerous lunatic! sibelian Aug 2014 #26

Fucking goon, do it in front of me, I dare you DiverDave Aug 2014 #27

the first grope get the security people at the Carnival to remove him? Sunlei Aug 2014 #31

Notting Hill Carnival? wall to wall of people street party HipChick Aug 2014 #33

There is lots of security there, they had a couple of rapes & bunch of arrests. Sunlei Aug 2014 #35

HARUMPH! nt Dreamer Tatum Aug 2014 #34